
Christina - posted on 10/28/2010 ( 44 moms have responded )
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My son is into EVERYTHING!! I have no pictures on my shelfs, no movies in my TV cabinet, nothing in my coffee table drawer..etc..I had to put everything away because he just won't stop. I understand that he is that age, but I have also heard that some people's kids just listen to "NO". HAHAHAHA My son thinks it's a joke!! He gives me this (while Soooooo cute) naughty grin. I don't smile when I am telling him 'no' and I don't give in. He is very active and has been walking since he was 10 months. I just don't know how to discpline him!! I have swatted his hand a couple of times for trying to pull plugs out of the wall, but I feel soooooooooooooooo guilty. I need some tips, advice, something to get him to listen at least SOME of the time!! Even when i swatted his hand he didn't care, Ihave tried to go to his level and have eye contact and firmly tell him 'no', but he turns right around and does it again. HELP :)
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Linley - posted on 11/06/2010
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I feel so blessed to have a pretty easy going daughter. At times she gets out of hand, she loves to take books off the shelf too! When she does do something naughty, she responds well to redirecting. I tell her, "It's not ok to take books off shelves, but it is ok to take blocks out of the bin." And then take her to the block bin. It's takes a lot of patience on my part but she everytime she walks past the book shelf I can see the wheels in her head turning and today she ran straight to the block bin! I was pretty excited. The girl the I nanny, 19mo, is a little bit harder to redirect, but she responds well to 2 minute timeouts alone in her crib! I hope you all get some good ideas, we mom's can use ask much support we can get!
Lisa - posted on 11/03/2010
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Yay! There are more like us than I thought! I think, probably because we only have one child, we tend not to know what's fairly common, so we think it must only be us. I think we all should start our own sub-group here called "The Hurricane Society." My daughter (17 months yesterday) is exactly like all of your children! Thinks it's hysterical when we tell her not to do or touch something. Gives that little mischievous grin right before she runs off to do something like try to put my cellphone in the dog's water bowl, pull out a handful of dirt from one of our plants, etc. You all have been there, I know. Well, I read something recently that suggested that rather than continuously saying "no" (they claim that that's where toddlers learn to start saying no back to us), that we should try to redirect them to something that is acceptable for them to do. For example, instead of saying, "No, don't bite the dog's tail," say "Here...let's get something better for you to chew on" and give them a teether. Or instead of saying, "No, you can't climb on the coffee table," tell them, "Here, you can jump on the bed!" (That was an actual example. I'm not advocating jumping on beds. I'm still trying to figure out an appropriate redirect because my daughter has now decided it's great fun to climb onto the coffee table.) We're just starting this, so I'm not quite sure how well it's going to work at this age, but I can tell you that I'm already worn out by all the redirecting I'm having to do! :) So, good luck everyone!
Jennifer - posted on 10/30/2010
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I understand how you're feeling, my daughter is quite the handful too, but I think the thing that has worked the best is time outs. They are definitely NOT too young for time-outs (we started around 1 year) and they seem to help. If she does something that I tell her "no" to, and she does it again, she gets a timeout on the floor for one minute. I have to make sure that I dont' give her any attention while she's in timeout or it has no effect. If she does the same thing again, she goes in her pack-n-play for 5 minutes, no toys or anything fun to play with (she hates it, but it seems to have helped a lot). I also bought a digital timer which I set to make sure that I remain consistent with the length of time (she shouldn't have to sit in there longer just because I had a bad day at work!). Anyway, she knows EXACTLY what the "timeout timer" is, as soon as I pull it out, she begins crying (mostly for the attention!).
I also decided to do some research on books that might help me figure out what to do once the timeout plan no longer helps. The one I'm reading now is called "Setting Limits with your strong willed child" by Robert J. Mackenzie. I can't say yet if what I'm reading will help, but this book had great reviews. I hope this helps!
Allison - posted on 10/30/2010
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YAY!! More people in the same boat as me!!! This is my second son and my first one was NEVER like this at all. Anything he can get his hands on goes in the toilet (one house phone, one cell, & a TV remote have been replaced already) shoes, blocks, sippy cups whatever! We can't leave drinks any place where he can reach them because he spills them (on purpose). Now he has learned to climb on the kitchen table! He shredded my mums that were on the table while I was putting his brothers shoes on in the living room. He loves getting into the garbage can just to throw whatever he can grab onto the floor. He dumps, throws, and just basically enjoys making messes! And like all of yours he is stubborn and thinks discipline is a joke! He laughs, smiles, or just flat out tells me NO. What I have started doing recently is when I have had enough, he goes in his pack and play! I never even used the pack and play with my older son and THANK GOD I kept it for this one! I put his toys in with him (which all usually end up flying out) and a blanket and he will play in there with no worries of anything he can damage. I can actually get things done! I felt guilty at first but, it's better then a lot of alternatives!! Now my 4 year old likes to go in with him and they both play in there! Works for me!!
Darby - posted on 10/29/2010
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Our son is like yours! We have tried adding different ways to say, "No," like "Don't," Do not," "Stop," etc. We have had a little bit of success by switching to different words, yet in that same harsh tone of voice indicating that we mean business. Swatting at our son's hand has done nothing; he gives us the ornery grin as well. Physically moving him to another place, even if only a few feet away, helps quite a bit to reinforce the harsh tone/words we use.
Good luck and be sure to post any other magic tips/tricks you try out!