can i be mom and myself?

Codie - posted on 12/29/2010 ( 8 moms have responded )




i'm almost 20 and i have 6mo. immediately when i found out i was pregnant i felt i needed to dress and look completely different.

before i got pregnant i used to take pride in spending time daily to make myself feel good about the way i look. i always wore very trendy cute clothes and wore quite a bit of makeup. no i hardly ever leave the house, i wear sweats around the and rarely put makeup on. when i do leave the house i don't spend nearly as much time on myself to get ready. and i just wear jeans and a t-shirt.

can i dress and do makeup like myself or should i continue on my path because i'm a mom and shouldn't look like a 19yo?

can i get my LONG hair cut in lots of cute razored layers and wear lots of eye makeup? its not like i want to objectify my body or breasts...just be more of myself. is that ok? what do you think


Carolyn - posted on 12/29/2010




you can do what ever your heart desires. Just because you are a mother doesnt mean you need to forget having an identity and personality of your own.

I mean there are days where you may not have time to get that make up done, and your outfit gets spit up on before you leave the house and end up changing, but if you have the time, go for it !

i went through a few months where i didnt bother with wardrobe or make up but, with the baby weight coming off, and wanting to feel better about my self image, i take the time to atleast do basic make up, and actually pick out an outfit instead of throwing on what ever is clean .

i find as a mom, if doing your make up and getting a cute hair cut makes you feel good, then do it . you dont stop exsisting because you became a parent.


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Lisa - posted on 01/10/2011




Just because you're a Mom doesn't mean you can't be trendy. Wear what you feel comfortable in and wear your hair however you want. Be yourself and enjoy being a Mom. Nothing wrong with being super casual some days and super glamourous other days......we all have our frumpy days too.

Idayu - posted on 01/03/2011




yes,absolutely dear :) go for it..sometimes we do need wake up call (as Dawn David said it)..go spend some girl's night out and pamper yourself :) it's worth the feeling

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I think it's fine. You won't be a good mother to child if you aren't comfortable and happy yourself. You won't be setting a good example, showing your little one that it's perfectly okay to be whoever they are. You are a mom, and I think that should be taken into consideration as time may not necessarily allow for a lot of extra grooming, but be trendy and cute all you want!! As long as your hair and makeup don't take so long that you're neglecting your child, I think you're good.
My 6 month old is my second child and I'm once again struggling to find the balance, to know that it's okay to do things for myself. Most of the time my daughters are clean and cute and groomed well, and my hair's a hot mess pulled back and my clothes are clean and that's about it. Thanks for posting this. Needed a bit of a wake up call.

Dannii - posted on 01/01/2011




GO FOR IT!! Im almost 20 with a 6 month old and ive been in pyjamas sweats almost the whole time but ive lost over a stone and decided why am i hiding away im still 20!! my proudest moment was pulling on a pair of gorgeous skinny jeans!!! i used to let other peoples perceptions of a mother influence what i do but then i realised if im just a mom when my daughters all grown how is she gonna know to be herself?? get your hair cut and get a new outfit, just you and a friend or two. It will do you the world of good!! xx

Leah - posted on 12/30/2010




absolutley, just because you a now a mother doesnt mean you have to forget the person you were before having your child. II dress the same as I did before I got pregnant, and if I go out like to make myself presentable, with makeup etc. It make me feel good so why not?!!

Cassandra - posted on 12/30/2010




Absolutely! I'm 20 years old, and for awhile I was that way (because I was just too tired to do anything) but as time goes on, I'm getting back into wearing my trendy jeans and my makeup and whatnot. Every mom is different, and if you remember back to when you were in school, having the cool, trendy mom, was always awesome :)

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I am a highly educated professional who is sitting at home after having the baby. I do not get time to do my hair or b smartly dressed or go out like i used to. But it is a decision I made and i have to live with it. sometimes after a particularly difficult night when i am completely exhausted I look at My baby's face in the morning it feels so right! It is hard for me to sit at home and b totally different to my professional self but nothing compares to the joy of motherhood!

Enjoy it while it lasts well dressed or not! And don't forget we r probably our harshest critic...

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