CHILD SLEEPIN WITH PARENTS??

LIZETH - posted on 11/16/2011 ( 4 moms have responded )

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I AM A MOTHER OF THREE, MY OLDEST IS 5 TOMORROW :), HAVE A 3 YR OLD, AND A 5 MONTH OLD....ALL MY CHILDREN HAVE SLEPT WITH ME UNTIL THE AGE OF 2. I KNOW THERE ARE RISKS BUT NOTHING EVER HAPPEN TO MY BOYS AND NOW MY BBY GIRL SLEEPS WITH US. I DONT FIND IT HARMFUL THOUGH YES THERE HAVE BN INCIDENTS THAT I HAVE READ OF BUT WHATS UR TAKE ON IT.. DID UR CHILD EVER SLEEP WITH YOU HOW DO YOU FEEL ABOUT THE SUBJECT??

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Aniesha - posted on 11/21/2011

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We had our son's cot right next to our bed, but def did our share of co-sleeping as well. It's just so easy! You're exhausted, baby's hungry, bring them into bed, feed, & fall asleep! lol. I think if you use common sense you're pretty right. I guess you have to also be careful that you're not an extremely heavy sleep etc too. I felt I was always aware of him in the bed with me, even when I was sleeping, but I dozed enough to be able to function later:)

Tracy - posted on 11/21/2011

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I think everyone does hat is best for them. I personally do not do the co-sleeping thing, with either of my kids, unless they are sick or having a really hard time sleeping. But the only reason I don't is because I worry about the transition later on. I figure it's easiest to have them in their own bed from the start. But if cosleeping is what works for some, I don't see the problem :)

Corinne - posted on 11/18/2011

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my oldest slept with us until she was 2 months old and then i transitioned her to a playpen, next to our bed, until she was about 7 months. Thats around when i started making her nap in her own crib and slowly transitioned her there all night. After my hubby deployed, my daughter was 9 months old and I would always start her out in her own bed and she ALWAYS woke up multiple times. So to get the max amount of sleep, after she woke up the first time, i would pick her up and put her in the bed with me for the whole year he was gone! I actually really enjoy my babies being in the bed with me but I also know its best for them to eventually make it to their own beds!

This baby starts out in the crib next to our bed and I bring her to the bed with me after she wakes up and wants to eat. It drives my husband crazy to have the girls in the bed so thats mainly why i dont do it unless theyve woken up! After hes up at 430 am, usually I end up with both girls in the bed with me anyway.

Only thing that worries me, with some ppl, is I hav a friend that co slept with her daughter for 2 years and it got to the point where her daughter, and herself, could NOT cope with sleeping apart, in diff beds! Not saying that is you but it can happen! Otherwise, I could care less what other ppl do and as long as you are aware of the risks and taking all the right precautions, then all power to you! :)

Denikka - posted on 11/16/2011

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I'm going to say this, just because it bothers me to read (it hurts my eyes), could you please not post in all caps. :)

Now, as for cosleeping, it's actually pretty common. With a little common sense and the proper precautions, it's as safe, if not safer than having the baby sleep in a crib.
I co sleep :) I have since both of my children were born. At around 18mo, I started transitioning my oldest (boy) into his own bed. He's now 2.5 years old and spends the first half of the night in his own bed, then wakes up and comes to snuggle with dad. My youngest, almost 10mo, sleeps all night with me.
Dad and I have separate mattresses that are pushed together (he's a big guy and likes to sleep stretched out :P) so there's a queen AND a double in our room. LOTS of room to bunk with the kids :P
I absolutely love it and couldn't imagine any other way :)

As for the incidence you hear about where a parent rolls over and smothers a child or whatever, a large majority of the time there are external forces involved. The most common include drugs (including prescription and including sleeping aids), alcohol, an overtired parent or one with a sleeping disorder (including a parent who just moves a lot in their sleep) or sleeping on something like a couch.
If you have any of those problems, your risk goes up, and I would personally advise you NOT to cosleep. But if not, it's a great way to bond with your baby :)

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