Smoking pot and drinking alcohol at friends house

Mary - posted on 09/10/2012 ( 4 moms have responded )

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Have a 14 year old daughter who has a best friend who have sleepovers often. Maybe I'm a bit stupid but when the friend has slept at my house, its been movies and lollies and staying up a bit too late. I have just found out that when my daughter is at friends house its ok to smoke pot, drink alcohol and party with full support of friend's parent. Parent has gone so far as to supply drug, utensils and alcohol and is totally fine with the decision that while its under her roof it is supervised. I am disgusted not only by the fact that she considered it ok to make this decision not only on behalf of her child but also extended this 'right' to my child. I didn't find out because she asked for my consent but because someone got caught in a lie. Obviously thats the end of sleepovers but wonder where I stand with my obligation to report what I know for other children that might be involved? Should I be happy that my daughter is safe for now, or am I obliged to make other people who might be at risk aware of what I know. Any thoughts would be appreciated. Just to clarify, I have this information as proven fact and I'm not sure what to do with the information I have.

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Becca - posted on 11/03/2012

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We had this issue when my son was 14. I had no clue it was going on until a 2 years later. I never thought this family would even do anything like this. I knew them for years, and they knew how I felt. If I found out at that time this was going on the sleepovers would had stopped at their house. I wouldn't even allowed him to go over there at all.



The thing is that the first time he ever drank and smoke pot was at their house, it has been 5 years later and he has drug issue. I will say that it started back then, if I knew what was happening I could had stopped it before it got as bad as it is now. He has been working on keeping clean, but it has been a hard road.



I will say end it now and tell them how you feel. Remind them that it is illegal to give other peoples kids booze and pot. It is illegal to even give their own kids pot and some states even alcohol is illegal to give to their children.

Tah - posted on 09/29/2012

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You know, some adults who are less than stellar drug kids so that can do unthinkable things to them. Was talking to my neighbor about a girl who was having sleepovers with her friend(after mom did everything right, met parents etc). Well they took the girl on a camping trip where they prostituted this girl out to random strangers. She was able to get away while being watched by her "friend" and ran to the road where a man picked her up and took her to the hospital. Thank God for that man. They found out that this family was moving around and doing this from state to state. It isn't about drugs, but adults who supply drugs to other people's kids without their permission while in their care make me really wonder what their motives are. At first it's fun for the kids and cool, until it's not.

Tah - posted on 09/29/2012

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I don't know about you, but NO parent is allowed to supply my CHILD with anything that will alter then mentally and physically. Why are they doing this? What if something happens to your child or someone else's child while in their care due to them providing this. I would go to the authorities. If you want to drug your kids, that's not right in my view, but those are your children. When you make the choice for me to give my CHILD drugs, you have entered into something else. They should have been thinking about their children being in foster care when they made the choice to peddle drugs to my CHILD...go to jail...

America3437 - posted on 09/13/2012

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If children in the home are loved and taken care of ( i assume they are since you allowed you child to sllepover) then just don't allow your child to go over there anymore. You have to ask yourself what is in the best intrest for those children. if you believe they are supplying the children then you have to make that choice. Sometimes if they are taken care of and loved then the home their in with their parents is fart better then the home they may be in when in foster care. On the other hand how would you deal with the common drug dealer that offered these things to your child?!!

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