Transgender...

Tah - posted on 08/31/2011 ( 14 moms have responded )

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So I'm watching t.v and there is a 10 year old whose parents are letting him live as a girl because he has always considered himself one..

Do you think at 10 years old you are able to make that decision?

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Melissa - posted on 09/07/2011

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Brain studies have shown that it's not just a behavior, it's an actual balance of chemicals in the brain. Those of transgenders - a male body will have the brain chemicals of a female, and visa versa. At 10 years old I knew I was a girl, I felt like a girl, I wanted to dress like a girl and I was starting to crush on boys. While chosing a gender at that age may seem like a huge, outrageous decisions, I think we're old enough at that age to know our own bodies, we're old enough to know what feels right for our own bodies and brains. So yes, I think a 10 year old is more than capable of making that decision. I think it's a very natural "decision", actually.

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At ten i knew i was a girl no doubt about it i think at that age you can clearly make that decision. Some people really are born in the "wrong" body. I would let me child be who they want to be. I wouldnt do anything medically but with clothes and hair that would be totally up to the child.

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~♥Little Miss - posted on 09/07/2011

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They can legally get married, because it is indeed a man and a women. It is really hard when you know someone like this, calling them by there new name. I have not seen him in a wicked long time. But i would be really afraid to call him by his name he was born with. That is a tricky one for me. I have not known him closely through his transitions. It is really confusing. But i want to show my support. I think it is an incredible challenge to be what you feel in this world, then throw this on top of it. Kudos to those that are brave enough to face the world how they deem fit.

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@Marina : OMG!! i swear when i was in middle school i asked my teacher this question because it really confused me: If a man changed into a woman and a woman changed into a man (transsexuals) then would that be considered a "normal" couple since they are both male and female?? I mean i dont know where the church stands on marrying transsexual couples but im thinking thats a no no, however in this situation would they be able to get married?? Since no matter how you see it ones a man and ones a woman . . . . This just blows my mind lol so confusing!! I cant believe there is a couple actually like that out there Marina very interesting!!

~♥Little Miss - posted on 09/07/2011

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I would like to think that I would be as mature and open minded as these parents are to their children.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 09/07/2011

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I saw the same show Tah. It was really interesting. I know a few transgenders. One was a really close friend of mine and my sisters. She started living as a man.....and is now with a man living as a women. So it is a male and a female living as the opposite. It is really confusing. Infact, the friend, he is a huge spokes person in the transgender community. His "girlfriend" is pre-op to become a women.

Jenni - posted on 09/01/2011

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I know, it was pretty funny... "He" brought in the photos after being ridiculed for months about the notion. Kids are cruel. But it's not very common to have pet cougars.



He never seemed to show hurt feelings from all the teasing. He always seemed very strong and sure of himself. I imagine his parents had raised him to be very resilliant. I remember once though when it seemed like it was getting to him, or he showed it more that time.



We were changing for gym class and the girls started teasing him about if 'he' was indeed a 'he' why was he changing in the girl's locker room. They were telling him that he needed to go change with the boys. He seemed very visably upset.

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I just watched "My (EXTRA) Ordinary Family" and it was all about trasngender!! It does kind of freak me out the idea of being born in the wrong body and it would be so difficult for the child to grow up being confused or knowing what they are and feeling trapped :( It would be hard for me to know at first how to deal with it but like i said i would fgrow to accept it and obviously still love my chil. I may not be able to support gender reasignment but i would rather my child be alive an happy with who they are then kill themselves just for fitting in and hating themselves.

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I agree with the other women on this, kids definantly know when something is different about them. And what awesome parents she has for supporting her on this. Have any of you seen the movie "A girl Like Me"? Its a true story of a transgender male to female, who was brutally beat to death for being who she felt she was, I think if she had more support from her family she may have not ended up in the situation that cost her her life. I 100% support these parents.

Jenni-- I was laughing when you got to the story of the cougars, how funny is that. And the cut out hearts story is very sweet.

ME - posted on 08/31/2011

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yeah...I think some people just know from very early on. I had a very good friend who KNEW he was "different" when he was about 2 years old. He knew he was "gay" very early on as well, even before he understood all of the sexual implications of being gay. I have a friend who lives life as a man, she clearly knew as a very young girl that she was not like other girls her age...I am happy for this girl who's parents are obviously supportive and loving enough to accept her as she is!

Jurnee - posted on 08/31/2011

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I have close family member who underwent gender reassingment surgery years ago, from male to female. I dont know the actual year, but this is before transgender issues were even spoken about. She told me that all her life, she knew she was a girl. She can remember being aobut 5 yrs old and knowing she was a girl. In her teen yrs she started dressing as a woman and spent many years, being harassed and beat up viciously on numerous occasions. She says reassignment surgery saved her life, because she was very suicidal at one point

Jenni - posted on 08/31/2011

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When I was in grade 2 (7 years old) there was a girl in our class who was absolutely, convinced she was a boy. So much so she refused to be referred to as a girl and told everyone she was indeed a boy. She would correct teachers that she was a him. Looking back, it wasn't for attention or anything.... I strongly believe she was convinced of her or rather 'his' gender. 'He' always seemed very genuine and sincere when 'he' talked to me about it. And was subject to teasing and ostracizing but still remained adament about 'his' gender.



In our 7 year old minds, we always assumed 'he' was just a liar. 'He' also had fabulous 'tales' of pet cougars. So none of us believed 'him' at first. Until he brought in photographs of his pet cougars wearing collars, lounging around his house! lol



'He' also had many characteristics of the male gender. Deep voice, dress, interests. "He" also once asked me to be 'his' girlfriend. I was one of the few in the class that was nice to 'him'. I've also always suspected the annoymous cut out hearts, written with "I love you" on valentine's day were from 'him'.



I am convinced now, that she knew her gender at an early age. That she knew she didn't 'feel' like a she. She ended up moving a way after that year. When I think back to her, I always assumed that in adulthood she either continued to live life as a 'he' or she is at the very least a lesbian.



I think, just like with homosexuality... children know who they are at an early age. Maybe they don't always understand it fully or have the right terminology for who they are. But they know. I have little doubt that this boy knows himself well enough to know how he feels comfortable and what will make him happy and feel himself. Kudos to the parents for being so supportive.



Besides if we were talking about a girl here, there would be little to no issue with her dressing 'like a boy'. She'd just be considered a tomboy.

Tah - posted on 08/31/2011

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they said he was never interested in boy things so they would buy him barbies and dolls at like what 2-3 years old, allow him to dress in sparkly girl clothes etc. they said he has been called gayboy since 1st grade and came home day and said he couldn't do it anymore. they shoe him now, hair grown out, make-up on playing with girls etc. I don't know, i guess i just think thats a huge decision for a 10 year old boy to make and they are talking about stopping his puberty or something to that effect..

Barb - posted on 08/31/2011

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Oh that poor kid and what he/she must have to live with. At 10 would *I* have been able to make such a decision? i don't think so.. however, i was totally living my life as a boy.. i even learned to pee standing up.. but being a tomboy for some reason never seems as big of a deal as a boy wanting to be a girl.

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