My Mixed Race family......

Karen - posted on 05/04/2009 ( 10 moms have responded )




why is it!
when we go out as a family " I get look at like Ii just kidnapped"my own son as he got a different colour skin to me....
I find this effect me more in certain areas of Birmingham and wish older generations would be more open minded.


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Lesley - posted on 01/10/2010




I really never had no one say anything about my children being bi-racial. i just ignore the situation because people can be totally stupid. Everyone is the same no matter what their color is etc.

Dana - posted on 12/29/2009




My husband & I got stopped by a cop a couple years ago,who thought we had kidnapped my daughter from somewhere & we was like WHAT are you crazy!The looks we get when we all walk in the store is stupid,my children will grow up one day & may not be able to change the world but if they could just reach one person to not look at the color of skin but by how nice or respectful a person is/could be than maybe just maybe this world wouldnt be soo cold!In my life time I've had so many talks about race & some ppl can be changed like my father but there is more,so many that will never change.Children and Ppl are beautiful and made from God and made for a reason and I stand with the few that are,has been,and will always be color blind!

Brandi - posted on 12/14/2009




Karen! I know what you mean! Our daughter is bi-racial...absolutely gorgeous, by the way! My husband and I were blessed enough to be able to adopt both of our children. We are both white. You should here some of the questions people have the nerve to ask us. I kind of got a kick out of my husband one time. We had a woman ask us if
Kezie was mine our his and he said, she's ours! People are just ignorant. Just know that you have a beautiful family and that you love each other! :)

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I hear you! I have been asked several times if my children were adopted? Who asks that? I'll tell you IDIOTS....that's who?

Karen - posted on 09/22/2009




Its nice to be able to speak to other familys...who have the same situations as me and my family...

love to you all....karen

Chantel - posted on 09/02/2009




I myself have biracial children and it so happens my children are a nice golden color. I can't make my girls understand why people still judge and catergorize u by skin type. I don't fear judgement of me but I do worry a/b my children.In a world with so many beautiful biracial children, people that stare and make comments truly show their own ignorance. Love is color blind and God commanded that we love our neighbor even as he has loved us.

Melanie - posted on 08/23/2009




I know there are huge differences, but my mother often tells of the story when I was a toddler and we were out shopping with an aunt (on my father's side). I had (and still do) red hair. My mother has dark brown hair and my aunt a red head. Well you can imagine the looks my mother and aunt got when mum disclipined me, as she couldn't have been my mother, her hair was the wrong colour.

My advice, ignore it. I realise it is hard - I was young looking 24 year old when I had my daughter and the disapproving looks I received were really upsetting. But these people dont deserve you giving them a second thought. You and your family know the truth and if your son ever asks why tell them in a voice that can be heard about 2-3m away that some people have issues with mixed race families and give some thoughts as to why (eg. bigoted, have a different world view we don't agree with etc)...... or something along those lines. Great way to shame people, without being confrontational.

Karen - posted on 05/25/2009




Quoting Rachel:

Hi Karen, it is hard to tolerate such narrow minded people but your in the right place to get the support and friendships you would like.

thank you,we have to teach our own children how to change these peoples minds......

luv kaz

Rachel - posted on 05/17/2009




Hi Karen, it is hard to tolerate such narrow minded people but your in the right place to get the support and friendships you would like.

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You should check out the community "moms of bi-racial babies/children".

I was actually asked once as a child if "the man" I was with (who was my father) was trying to kidnap me. It's funny how behind the times some people can be.

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