What age is a good age for a child to get a cell phone? Is 9 to young?


Danielle - posted on 05/27/2011




I think it depends on the reason for getting the phone. I have always been against children getting cell phones until they were teenagers but recently revisited the idea when my daughter started being away from home more. We still have not provided her with a cell phone but are debating it. We have discussed getting one and only letting her use it when she goes and plays at friends' houses or spends the night away from home. Mainly, so we have a way to get a hold of her. It would not be something she would get to use to talk/text her friends or to surf the web. My revised position on cell phones is that as long as you have a good reason for your child to have one then it is fine but if you are only doing so because you are giving in to their wants then I would say no.

Jamie - posted on 02/27/2013




I agree that it depends on the kid and the situation.

My kids started asking for phones when they were about 6 or 7. They have no one to call but me, we don't have a really busy schedule where I'm leaving them places and might have to coordinate pickup. Mostly, they wanted to play games on them, so we bought them some slightly older DSi's (handheld game systems) that also have a camera, and some basic PDA functions.

They were happy with them for a minute, but honestly, they get distracted. They forget where they put them, they ignore them, they forget to charge them, they lose the charger. I'm quite thankful that we haven't spent the money to get my kids cell phones based on how they treat their current electronic equipment.

When they start doing more after-school activities that I'm not involved with, I'll consider phones, possibly.

Really all that I need is a way to locate them when I need them. A phone with camera, texting, etc. just seems like overkill.


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Jordan James - posted on 12/06/2012




I personally gave my son a cell phone when he was 7. I dont see why not, you dont want your children to fall behind in what is currently popular! Imagine how much swag I gave my son with that phone.

Cassy - posted on 12/02/2012




I don't believe 9 is too young, but it depends on your child. My son (who is 10) has had one since he was 3. He stays overnight at his friends house or with family a lot. It started as a kid phone with a gps tracker in it. Now he has his own plan. I still has a tracker with it so I can always find him if I need to. The only reason he doesn't have the same phone as when he was 3 is because I've upgraded it since then.

Crystal - posted on 08/24/2012




I think it depends on the child. If they are always at friends houses then I would say get one. I would with my daughter. I would rather be able to get a hold of my child if I needed to. But the rule would be you have to answer when I call.

Jessica - posted on 07/10/2012




I think it depends on the situation. My daughter had a phone at 12. I am a single parent, some days of the week my daughter went with her friends after school, this way she could let me know when they got where they were going and I could call her when I was on my way to get her. She also knew the rules about her phone though...I could take it at any time to go through it if I felt it was necessary, and her friends weren't to use it unless there was an emergency. She's now 14 and we have never had any major incidents where her phone is concerned, it has never been taken away at school...she must keep it put away at school...if not, not only will the school take it, but that also means phone restriction. My 9 year old though has been asking for a phone. He really doesn't go anywhere without me or his older sister, so that is still a no.

Sylvia - posted on 01/30/2012




My 9-year-old wants a cellphone so she can play games on it. My response basically was, "Dude, *I* don't even have a cellphone. Forget it." :P

I can't see any reason why *my* 9-year-old would need a cellphone. If she needs to phone us from school, she can use the phone in the office or the pay phone in the corridor; if she needs to phone us when she gets home from school, she can use the regular phone. I'm not convinced she needs a cellphone for the 10-minute journey from one to the other.

Frankly, I don't really see any reason why any 9-year-old would need its own phone, but every family's different -- I think you have to look at all the factors in your particular situation.

I do think though that if you're going to get a phone for a kid that young -- unless they're *exceptionally* careful with their possessions -- you're best off going with a cheap pay-as-you-go one. My DD had a kid in her class last year who HAD HIS OWN IPHONE and I was like ... O_O Now, I realize the parents probably got it free with a plan or something, but that just seems like an expensive broken smartphone waiting to happen, y'know?

Miriam - posted on 01/18/2012




I think middle school. We got one for our son, but its really because we needed a 3rd phone, so we got a very plain cheap one and told him it was for him to use when we were out and about. he doesnt take it anywhere and only uses it to call me when hes home with dad or dad when hes home with me :+) every now and than he takes it when we go to the mall and were in a baby store and he wants to step out or the store for a bit he has to keep either me or dad on the phone :+)

kids need to be kids a bit longer!!

Lisa - posted on 10/18/2011




My daughter also wants a cell phone my husband is considering more than I am. but i think my daughter is too young but i also considered it a bit cause their are plans you can put them on that the cell phone can only call the numbers you put on there and only receive certain numbers as well. My draw back right now I don't think she is responsible enough to have one. If she shows me more that she can take care of things without losing stuff than maybe I'll consider again at a later age.

User - posted on 10/04/2011




My son who will be 9 in November has been asking for a cell phone, but i will not buy it for him. I think they are too young and my son doesn't need it he's always with me.

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