Getting your little Monkeys to listen ...

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My daughter (Dec 2004) is the sweetest little bug, but she has "Selective Hearing". Anyone else dealing with this? How do you get them to listen when they are doing their best to ignore you?

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User - posted on 10/28/2009

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I have a March 04 son, I found that I have to got the hallway to get him to listen. There are to moany distractions all over the house for him to look at and not pay attention too. He then will listen. But he also knows that I won't let him out of there until he can atleast repeat what I said. Usually then he will understand.

Lorrie - posted on 10/15/2009

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Quoting Brenda:

I have a February 2004 son named Joseph. He has a bad case of the "I am going to ignore you"'s. Example: After he has been in timeout we talk to him to explain what he did wrong and other choices he could have made. We also ask him to repeat what we said so we know he heard us and understands. Most of the time he looks at us with a blank stare and says either "I didn't hear you" or "I don't know". Its soooo frustrating!! It is amazing how much better they listen when they are going to get something special. Does anyone else use these special things as bribes for better behavior?



My son was born in Febuary 2004 too, and he does the EXACT same thing...we tell him to do something or say for example: he got a note sent home from school saying he needs to work on being quiet when others are talking and learning to listen, so I explained to him that he can not talk in class when the teacher is talking if he needs to say something or ask a question he needs to raise his hand and wait to be called upon..then I asked him to repeat what I said and he says "I don't know". I repeated it to him like 4 times and he would not acknowledge he understood me, which I am not sure he did because he still has "Needs Improvement " in that area on his weekly report this week too.

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Hi I am Anita and I have a 5 year old daughter who does NOT like to pick up her toys. We take away cartoons, put her to bed early, and nothing seems to work. Now she says she would rather go to bed then pick up her toys. However, my daughter has a mild case of Autism/ADHD which I no should be no excuse. I have got on her since she was two to pick them up. I think that she feels more secure with the toys all over teh floor. Sorry I don't have any advice for you just wanted to share.

Stacey-Marie - posted on 04/28/2009

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I tend to have to hold her gently by the shoulders/arms and get down to her level. Then i repeat what i have said making sure it's clear and simple enough - not too much information. Smile and be polite and hopefully she'll respond.

Narelle - posted on 04/20/2009

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Well this must be a universal problem as I am in Melbourne Australia I have 1st November 2004 daughter at times i feel like a broken record especially about putting toys away and the mad rush in the morning to get to kinder on time very frustrating but its comforting to know that i'm not alone!

Celeste - posted on 01/20/2009

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I definatly have the same problem! My son (oct.2004) seems to have very selective hearing. I often say things to him and then ask him what I said and he completly reapeats something I did not say at all. I questioned if he has a hearing problem (kidding) but if it is something that suits him he hears every single word I say. He tunes it out otherwise I quess. Very frustrating!!!! Everyday, its "Did you hear me" "what did I say"......

Brenda - posted on 01/20/2009

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I have a February 2004 son named Joseph. He has a bad case of the "I am going to ignore you"'s. Example: After he has been in timeout we talk to him to explain what he did wrong and other choices he could have made. We also ask him to repeat what we said so we know he heard us and understands. Most of the time he looks at us with a blank stare and says either "I didn't hear you" or "I don't know". Its soooo frustrating!! It is amazing how much better they listen when they are going to get something special. Does anyone else use these special things as bribes for better behavior?

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Shelley, something that worked wonders with my older kids was giving them choices, saying "It's time to brush your teeth - do you want me to help you first, or do you want to brush them by yourself first?" Or "Do want to put your socks on, or do you want me to put them on you?" They loved making the choices, and it was easier to get them to obey. But if that doesn't work, I understand ... my youngest (the 2004 bug) is the one that is really persistent about "her" way.

Cheryl - posted on 01/19/2009

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My daughter is March 2004. She listens because she knows what will follow if she doesn't. If she doesn't pick her toys up, she doesn't have them the next day to play with. If she "ignores", I sit with her and have her look at me to know she is listening. She likes to brush her teeth with the invention of strawberry toothpaste!!

Shelley - posted on 01/14/2009

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My son, Aiden (April 2004), also seems to have the "I-only-hear-you-if-it's-about-something-fun" issue.  If it has anything to do with getting dressed in the morning, brushing his teeth, putting on socks or shoes, picking up his toys, etc., I swear that he won't hear a word that I say.  But if I say, "Come on, Aiden, let's go to the park." or "Why don't we go outside and play with your new soccer ball.", then all of a sudden he jumps up and he can hear again.  I feel just like all of you guys.  If anyone has any ideas, please let me know.

Alexis - posted on 01/08/2009

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i have a october 2004 son also and gettin him 2 listen is mission impossible but his teacher tells me hes a joy in school n listens as soon as she calls his name i just cant get him 2 listen at home n im ready to pull my hair out

Christina - posted on 01/07/2009

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how funny....my son is doing the same thing....i have to turn his face and make him look at me...so i know he is listening....

Jennifer - posted on 11/11/2008

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if you can figure that out please let me know. My son is october 2004 and a challenge right now with the hearing part. He is even getting in trouble at school now. I think he is just exerting his independence but I am over it already.

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