How do I get my 6 year old to stop fighting, and listen? I am having a very hard time and I just recently found out her behavior in preschool wasn't that good. Now she is in K and the teacher wonders why she always look sad.


User - posted on 03/12/2012




Maybe she needs to talk to someone. I have had my kids in to see therapists and I agree w/it. There are just some issues little ones can only open up about w/therapists. Sounds like she is not adjusting well, maybe accept ion anxiety.


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Holly - posted on 06/10/2012




A book you may want to read is "The 5 love languages for kids" by Chapman and someone else (I can't remember the name). I worked with kids for 7 years before having 4 of my own. I've found with my own kids and others kids who are difficult that when I discovered their love language and used it they started to open up and behavior started to change. That may sound odd but it has been a wonderful tool I've used for over16 years now. It is a book written by men who believe in God but one is a counsellor and one was and maybe still is a psychyatrist for over 30years and the principles they teach really work. It was on the New York Besst Seller list as well.

The premise of the book is that there are 5 primary love languages. We all need to hear, experience and see love demonstrated in all 5 but each of us has one language that shouts love to us. The 5 languages are physical touch, words of affirmation, quality time, acts of service, and receiving of gifts.

I know you love your daughter. All this book does is helps us show love in a way that our kids recognize. I hope this helps. I don't think it is the complete answer to your problem but it is a tool that can help. Good Luck.

Heather - posted on 06/04/2012




I agree with Tera. I think sometimes children don't know how to express how they are feeling when it's not a good feeling. I don't see anything wrong in setting up a time with a therapist for a few meetings to see if she'll open up so you can help her out. They are trained in how to decipher their behavior and understand the signals they are sending. It would be worth a shot and couldn't hurt anything. Good luck!

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