Homework vs Housework

Juliana - posted on 10/26/2009 ( 4 moms have responded )




I have a 13 year old son and a 12 year old daughter. My son loves to help me with housework but hates to do homework. He will wash the dishes, take out garbage and even does laudry without being told but don't ask him about homework. I've asked if he needs help with his homework and willing to help him but he said his fine. Opposite with my daughter who would rather do anything else but housework. Everytime I have to scream and shout at her to get her to clean her room. She'll do it in a split second and when I check her room, found clothes under the mattress. I really don't know what to do? I'm open to suggestions.


Beth - posted on 10/27/2009




The teen years are such a struggle. Instead of getting angry with your daughter try "Let's make a deal". If she will come home and pick 1 or 2 chores out of a chore jar and do them you will let her keep her room anyway she wants( no food or dishes allowed tho).Just close the door mom,lol! Let her room be her independence/rebellion.

For your son. Keep on praising the things he does around the house and ask him what he learned in a class rather than if he has homework. Generate interest in his favorite subject by talking to him about it. Help him see the importance of schoolwork by talking about future goals and how school will get him there. Patience, understanding and humor will help all of you get thru the teenage years.

Mae - posted on 10/27/2009




if your son is doing good in school then don't worry. daughter on the other hand you could tell that when she is asked or told to clean her room and doesn't then what is left out will be thrown away. in other words if she wants it she'll take care of it to keep it.


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In my house it's no friend, phone, computer, video games, ANYTHING until homework si done and room cleaned. No fighting about it that way. When she wants to call a friend or go somewhere, well, room has to pass inspection first. Hope this helps. Same w/ your son...homework first w/ him would maybe work.

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