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Toni - posted on 04/19/2009 ( 16 moms have responded )

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My son is 12 yrs. old, and all he wants to do is play video games. Does anyone else have this problem?

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Stephanie - posted on 05/22/2009

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My 10 year old lives for video games. He even wrote a paragraph about them in his autobiography at school. We have similar rules as everyone else who responded. But, in defense of video games, I am a young mom who played video games myself growing up and I believe having access to devices like nintendo and sega made me and my brothers more interested in technology and computers. I am not oblivious as to how it all works and once in a while I still sit down and play a game or two with my son, which makes me slightly less embarrassing. Plus, my son gets good grades, loves to read and is very sweet and friendly, so if playing video games is the worst thing he does, big deal.

Natalie - posted on 05/21/2009

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We dont have games, but a friend of mine does, their rule is no games in the week. During the weekend they are allowed to be for the same amount of time they spend playing outside. so 2 hours outside 2 hours playing games. It is working well for them.

Maria - posted on 05/15/2009

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My sons are 17 & 16, and they've always been video game fanatics. My husband and I don't see any reason to pull the plug on it, unless it interferes with schoolwork and chores. We lay ground rules: homework before video games on weekdays, and on weekends, or vacation, when they're home, chores before video games. Of course, now, they've expanded their horizon and they have actually likened to playing outside over playing video games more, so we're not as concerned, as long as we know where they're at. Weekends belong to the family.

EDITH - posted on 05/14/2009

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My son is 9 1/yrs old.& absolutely loves video games. Since he is an only child, I try not to put to many restrictions on his video game time. He is an honor roll student and also participates in varioius after school activities. At least with the video games, I know he is home where I can see him as opposed to hanging out on the street. He definitely does his homework first before he starts to play but once he does, I leave him be. The only thing I request is that he give his eyes and hands a break to avoid any straining. At the tender age of almost 10, I see no harm in letting him play since it has not interfered with anything else. I do not always have the time to sit down and be his playmate which is what many only children need.

Fiona - posted on 04/29/2009

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Hi there, that was my son until recently as i gave him more freedom to play out with his friends. He now doesnt even bother with the games console which is fantastic. The only thing is obviously hes not in the house with me now so i feel a bit redundant as he is an only child. But a few good things have come out of it. He was becoming a bit over weight which has now dropped off him and also he has become alot more independant. Yes its hard but im not a mother who is going to wrap him up in cotton wool and say the place is full of bad people and keep them in. Hes out exploring and comes in at feeding time or too top up on pocket money just like i used to do and also covered head to toe in mud.

Dara - posted on 04/29/2009

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My boys, 11 and 13, are the same. They come home from school, have a snack and do homework, then are allowed "screen time" for a couple hours til dinner at 7. Then they have until 8:30 to watch tv or do something as a family before instrument practice and reading. The youngest is active in sports and has practice/games 3 days a week, so that cuts down on the "screen time" for both but I get no complaints.

Kristy - posted on 04/23/2009

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Quoting Ana:



Quoting Kristy:

My son is 11 yrs. old. I also have rules. Homework when he gets home has to be done. I give him 1 hour of video games M-F and on the weekends/summer he gets 2 hours. He may use it all at once or split it up through the night. I have done this for a few years now and it works great with him.





hi! my son is also 11 and basically we have the same rules, during school days I dont let him get near the pc other than when he needs reseaching for school works then friday and sat. he gets to play an hour each day, during his summer vacation i try to get him involved in sports like his done swimming, basketball and his into badminton lesson now, or if I am not too busy we do different activities together boardgames, arts and stuff just to get his mind off video games if he doesnt have badminton lesson I let him play an hour and his happy with that ; )






My son loves Baseball so that is his sport in the summer. It does definitely help when you can get their mind off of the games. Like above we will go outside and play catch or a board game in the house on those rainy days or just sit and watch a movie together. Good Luck.

User - posted on 04/23/2009

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Quoting Kristy:

My son is 11 yrs. old. I also have rules. Homework when he gets home has to be done. I give him 1 hour of video games M-F and on the weekends/summer he gets 2 hours. He may use it all at once or split it up through the night. I have done this for a few years now and it works great with him.


hi! my son is also 11 and basically we have the same rules, during school days I dont let him get near the pc other than when he needs reseaching for school works then friday and sat. he gets to play an hour each day, during his summer vacation i try to get him involved in sports like his done swimming, basketball and his into badminton lesson now, or if I am not too busy we do different activities together boardgames, arts and stuff just to get his mind off video games if he doesnt have badminton lesson I let him play an hour and his happy with that ; )

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I have one of these too! We also do the 1 hour a day during the week and a couple hours during the weekend. Our peditrician said there are lots of ways people unwind - not much difference between gaming for an hour than us watching the news

Kristy - posted on 04/22/2009

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Your welcome Toni. Good luck with this. I'm sure he will not be happy at first with the time limit however he will get use to it.

Charlene - posted on 04/22/2009

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My son is ten and loves his games too. During the week we are busy and he is is seasonal sports and Scouts so onthe days we get home I have a no TV or Video games policy. On the weekends I let him relax more and I don't set a limit however he must do certain chores, must spend at least 1 hour reading (usually split 1/2 during day and 1/2 at bedtime) and I expect him to be active outside for at least 2 hours a day Sat & Sun. so bike rides, long walks, just playing the yard or with friends. My son loves his pokemon games, so now he also has pokemon books and gaming magazines. My Mom thinks I let him play to much but I figure if he is still being active and social its all good.

Toni - posted on 04/20/2009

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I really need to try and be more strict with his playing time.I am going to try setting time limits, especially during the week.Thank you Kristy

Toni - posted on 04/20/2009

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Oh my gosh, that sounds exactly like my son down to a T....Maybe it is a boy thing.Thanks Karen

Kristy - posted on 04/20/2009

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My son is 11 yrs. old. I also have rules. Homework when he gets home has to be done. I give him 1 hour of video games M-F and on the weekends/summer he gets 2 hours. He may use it all at once or split it up through the night. I have done this for a few years now and it works great with him.

Karen - posted on 04/19/2009

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That is my son 100%, he is also an only child. I have some rules for him, for example on weekends the video games cannot go on before 8 am. He is an early riser, always has been, hes allowed to read until 8 am. Homework first after school, video games must be off an hour before bed. If I let him he would, eat, breath, live video games. He has a hard time on holidays because it doesnt contain video games. Any shopping excursion must include a trip down the video game aisle, and the constant "when are we going home" question. So I feel your pain Toni.

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