10 things a MIL should NEVER say to her Daughter in Law


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**Jackie** - posted on 02/19/2012




lol tell me about it. I remember watching one of those funniest home videos shows and this kid broke his femur with some kind of skiing trick/mishap. I was in shock and Brian says to me "oh yea I broke that before."

**Jackie** - posted on 02/19/2012




My MIL suggested that I was too delicate with my 14 month old daughter. Umm you have boys and your son (my husband) has told me he's broken almost every single bone in his leg, his wrist, his collar bone, his ribs. He also has a scar so close to his eye from stitches because he ran into a coffee table.

lol when she said that to me I thought I was being punked. I was looking around for Ashton Kutcher to pop out from behind the couch

Firebird - posted on 02/18/2012




When you are a guest in another’s house, you do not declare what you will and will not eat – unless you are positively allergic to something.

lol Actually Emma, seafood and chinese food literally make me vomit (no allergy), so yes, I do declare what I will not eat in another person's house. I always give sufficient notice though, so if they don't like it, they can just not invite me to dinner. =)

My ex's mom once told me I "read too much" when I told her that my 7 month old daughter would NOT be eating the honey covered pastry that she wanted to feed her.

Stifler's - posted on 02/17/2012




My mother in law has said all of the things on the list. Liek it's my fault if Damian is fat. She also constantly pulls the " they stopped fussing as soon as i did this " and brings up his exes for no apparent reason.

Stifler's - posted on 02/17/2012




When you are a guest in another’s house, you do not declare what you will and will not eat – unless you are positively allergic to something.

You do not take additional helpings without being invited to by your host.

Wow I would never demand what I will adn will not eat in ANYONES house except my own. this MIL had a point.

Maree - posted on 02/16/2012




My newborn baby had reflux from day 3 in hospital....severe reflux.

My MIL was staying with us for a couple of weeks after the birth (c-section). I was in pain,disappointed about not having a natural birth,feeling like a shit mother,right in the middle of the baby blues and sore from the mastitis i got immediately after the milk coming in. I was also a wreck because of my baby always screaming and never sleeping.

Anyway,we had family over and once again the baby was screaching in pain...In front of everyone my MIL said...."has anyone even considered that the baby is screaming because her breast milk is bad...some people just don't produce good milk you know"...

That is something you just don't say to a new mum.....lucky i knew better and didn't believe her because i can see how that kind of comment sabotages womens efforts.

My mum was there to back me up and put MIL in her place because we have a family history of reflux babies so we knew it wasn't "bad milk". MIL didn't mean to hurt my feelings but it was still hard to take...and hard to not make a nasty comment back to her. Instead i just cried !!! :(

Michelle - posted on 02/15/2012




My MIL can barely remember my husbands childhood (to be fair some of it is due to a brain injury) and up until we had kids had a pretty distant relationship with my husband so I don't have to hear any of those things. I think the worst thing she's ever done is still pretty bad though. She was happy when we were pregnant with our first. With the other two she was very unhappy and made it known. It made me wish we'd waited until the other two were born before we bothered to tell her. Oddly she loves all the kids to pieces (even though she didn't want the girls in the first place) but I couldn't believe someone could be so cold and hurtful about it. If we have any more my husband and I already agreed all the in laws will be the last to know because my kids are old enough to understand what they are saying (SIL and FIL are the same way). But other then that my MIL stays out of how my house is run. So I can't complain about that.

Katherine - posted on 02/15/2012




I liked my MIL better than my ex. She was so down to earth and laid back. Now MY mother on the other hand is the polar opposite! She says all of those things and more. She can be such a bitch!

Kaitlin - posted on 02/15/2012




For funsies, i want to tell you a funny story. My FIL told me, when we announced we were pregnant for the second time, "I knew it! You kept saying you were working out, but you really look it- I knew you were pregnant!" Thank you for calling me fat. Jerk. Told me the same thing this time around.

NOTE: I am a very athletic 5 8. When I announced my pregnancies, they were not noticeable at ALL. In fact, my abs were quite flat, because like I said, I'm very athletic. And he is NOT.

Upon first meeting him, my husband (then boyfriend) went to help clean up after a concert, and a little boy ran past me and DH's parents, and FIL says to me, We know what causes that.' I just gritted my teeth. Yes. So do I thank you. That's why I'm a virgin. (side, they're very strict presbyterians we're Catholics, and this was at a small Christian school)

Hmmm. Can you tell I have issues with this guy?

Corinne - posted on 02/15/2012




How about bringing up the contraception conversation, then saying 'you won't want any more little whoopsies, would you?' Erm, they were planned bitch. Let's see, 'you need to explain to X why she is no longer a bridesmaid' in regard to my S.I.L who I had never asked to be a bridesmaid, M.I.L just assumed. 'That's not how we do things in this house' Sorry? My kids routine is exactly that and I don't care if we're on the f'ing moon, we're sticking to it.

So glad she overstepped the mark one too many times, as my hubby no longer wants anything to do with her.

Jennifer - posted on 02/15/2012




Lol, my mil tried the 'he was mine first' line. I just replied, 'yes but he CHOSE me!' She also made comments about me not 'cooking' but they eat hot dogs 3 times a week. Those stopped at the first Thanksgiving, when I was asked to bring pies. I made, from scratch, four pies. They dumped canned pudding in a pre-made shell, and put cool whip on it. My pies were gone, their's not touched! Of course if my mil stopped at just those 10 things, I'd be happy! Long story short, my son has told her that if he never sees her again it will be too soon!

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