Cancer?!?

Brie - posted on 08/09/2011 ( 14 moms have responded )

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So I don't know about the rest of you but I am so sick of cancer...
I don't have it but to many people I love and care about it have/had it...
My grandpa i was super close to died from it....
My uncle never found out until he was stage 4 and died less than a year later...
My grandma is a 2 year survivor of breast cancer...
And last night I find out that my best friend, of 14 years, has had HPV for several years and its turning into cervical cancer...
She will be 24 in October...
When I found out I lost it.. She is so young and getting married soon.. they want kids but it doesn't look like it will happen... we had this funny thing that i can't have another until she gets pregnant so we can have kids together.. she is my sons godmother... she has been through so much shit in her life from an emotionally and physically abusive mom to everything else.. she has been dealt a pretty shit hand in life... now she is starting to turn things around for herself... a new car, a new place, getting married, etc... and then she finds this out?!?!?!
I am so scared to lose her she is like my other half... I'm trying not to lose it now as I type... We are closer than sisters! She is having a surgery done on the 26th of this month to try and scrape what they can out... They don't know if they will get it all.. I'm scared out of my mind.... I don't know what to do for her... I've never been in this position before... Usually I know just what to do or say for everybody but this time I don't... We have been through so much together but nothing like this....
I just don't know what to do..............

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Kyleigh - posted on 08/09/2011

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Im very sorry, continuethe loving relationship you have and yes be there for her no matter what. Tell yourself shes a fighter and is going to win and get through this

Danielle - posted on 08/09/2011

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Be there for her...don't act like she's sick. Make her feel as normal as possible. Ask her how she's doing and when she needs to talk, cry, yell, be there. That's the best advice I could give you. It sounds like you are really close so be her rock and don't EVER let her give up. I have HPV. By the time they realized I had it I had cervical cancer. I took it really hard b/c I lost my grandmother to breast cancer and it was so hard to watch her go through that..I didn't want my husband and kids to go through that pain. I didn't really tell anyone b/c I couldn't stand ppl looking at me with pity in their eyes. I told only my closest friends and they were like you, upset and angry but didn't know what to do to help me through it. The ones that helped me the most were the ones that didn't dwell on the fact that I was dealing with it. They were there when I needed them but when I needed to forget they were there too. July 10,2010 I had the laser surgery that Nikki was telling you about. I have been cancer free since then. I have to go to checkups every so often just to make sure but I'm healthy and happy. I believe with all of my heart that your friend will be ok. I'm praying for you and her both. She's lucky to have a friend like you that cares so much. From one cancer survivor to another tell her to Fight like a girl.

Nikki - posted on 08/09/2011

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I am so sorry, it's so awful, I wish they could find a cure :( You said in your post your friend had HPV and it was turning into cancer, if that's the case her chances are really good. Usually if it's just in the early stages they use laser therapy to remove the pre cancerous and cancerous cells. I know a few people who have had this done and gone on to have children. They have to have very regular pap smears to catch it if it comes back, but if she is aware of it she has a good chance of recovering.

I lost a good family friend last year from skin cancer, it was just awful, he was the most wonderful man with three beautiful kids. Just tragic.

Hugs ♥

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Katherine - posted on 08/10/2011

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I hear you about the cancer thing. My mom and aunt both had breast cancer and are survivors. My mom just got it again a few years ago and is in remission again.

I worry for myself and kids. But there is so much technology out there. I'm not that familiar with HPV, I mean I know what it is and what it stands for but it sounds scary.
After hearing Danielle's story though you should have some hope.

Brie - posted on 08/10/2011

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thanks ladies..
@nicole no they have to scrape..
She was going for regular pap smears because she was on a birth control that her gyno wanted her to have them regularly and during one of them they told her they found something.. well she has been back several times testing and stuff and finally found that she has it and has had it for several years!! I may have slightly over reacted about it but cancer is a serious thing.. I don't know exactly whether its precancerous or cancerous but she told me they were worried big time at her gyno office and told her that the HPV had started to turn to cancer.. so I don't know exactly what that would be.. I guess kinda in the middle?!?!

Jurnee - posted on 08/09/2011

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I have known quite a few people who have had HPV turn to cancer, and they are all doing great. The best thing you can do is to continue to be the great friend you are, be there for her, have fun. do all the things you always do. I will say though that cancers sucks. lost my dad to lung cancer almost 5 yrs ago.

Jenn - posted on 08/09/2011

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Did she have precancerous or cancerous cells on her cervix? I had a LEEP done three years ago and 1/3 of my cervix was removed after an initial scraping. It was precancerous and I have been fine since. Nearly 80% of women will have contracted the HPV virus by e age of 50. It can lay dormant forever or even go away on it's own. Should I get precancerous cells again, I will opt for a hysterectomy (I am already 38 and done child bearing) Screening for cervical cancer is why the PAP smear each year is soooo important!!

Rosie - posted on 08/09/2011

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yeah, HPV is a virus, it's not just genital warts, there are many different types of HPV, one of which causes outward symptoms like warts.

Nikki - posted on 08/09/2011

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You can have HPV without any symptoms, she may have not known. Also I know in Australia they don't remove them they just recommend that you have very regular pap smears, if they become abnormal they remove them then.

√v^√v^√♥ - posted on 08/09/2011

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That's aweful! If she had HPV why didn't they just freeze it and it go away? Sorry, I thought you could just get rid of it when it was HPV by freezing.. guess I don't know much about it. So sorry hun!!!!!!

There are some alternative treatments - like the air treatments? I hope she is okay I will pray for her

Brie - posted on 08/09/2011

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you ladies are wonderful.. thanks so much for your support.. i do feel a little better hearing your stories and your thoughts!!!
@Danielle... congrats!! So happy for you... Hope everything stays good!!! And I will let her know!

Rosie - posted on 08/09/2011

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oh yes, and every single one of use went on to have numerous children. :)

Rosie - posted on 08/09/2011

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i had precancerous cells on my cervix, and they went away on their own. my sister had a more serious case and they had to laser them off of her cervix. she has been without anyproblems for years and years now,more like over a decade. my mother had the same thing done as my sister, and she's been good for DECADES. i also know of two other people i was acquaintances with that also had to have scraping and lasering and they are all fine!!
i know it's scary, TRUST ME, i know. but it really is a very easy disease to treat, especially when caught early enough to where it doesn't spread into other reproductive organs.

have hope, be there for her, it WILL turn out alright. ♥

Brie - posted on 08/09/2011

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Thanks for the encouraging words and the hugs nikki i really appreciate it.. I'm a little more ok after that but still worried sick... I plan on going up to the hospital and being with her all day and probably most of the weekend (surgery is on a friday).. I will be a wreck!!! but thanks and we are hoping for the best...

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