Community Guidelines - Please Read

Shannintipton - posted on 06/27/2011 ( 5 moms have responded )




Community Guidelines

Our guidelines are simple and are meant to help maintain an atmosphere of generosity and respect, so that everyone can have a positive experience here. They can be boiled down to this: please always try to add value to this community rather than take it away. And keep "No T.H.U.M.P.S." in mind:

Threats (You may not publish or post direct, specific threats of violence or illegal acts against others.)

Hate Speech (No slurs or stereotyping.)

Unlawful Use (You may not use Circle of Moms for unlawful purposes or promotion of illegal activities. If it's illegal where you live or in the state of California it's illegal here.)

Misrepresentation (You must be who you say you are. No false profiles or false children's profiles.)

Personal attacks (You may not abuse, slander, or vilify another member.)

Spam (You may not publish or post solicitations or advertisements except in designated areas.)

Enjoy Circle of Moms!

I would like to ask members to please refrain from talking about other members in other communities. We can vent about posts in a general sense but none directly about other members. We have to keep in mind other members feelings and respect THUMPS. Even when posts are hinted around and not directly mentioning names it can be obvious who they are about.

So I'd like to ask all of us to think about our posts as if the person they are about is reading them. If it in any way would upset that person, disrespect or vilify them than I strongly encourage you not to post them. Venting about specific threads is allowed but let's try to do it in a respectful manner or in the form of a debate without attacking the OP or other posters in those threads. Feel free to debate which involves attacking the argument but DO NOT attack the person.

Thank you everyone for your cooperation!

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Shannintipton - posted on 07/18/2011




Welcome new mods! I'm going to try to explain all of the responsibilities of a moderator in this PM.
If any of it is confusing or if you have any questions, don't hestitate to ask me. Moderators need to:

-Check in with the community frequently

-Contribute to posts (remember to be positive and obey No THUMPS)

-Lock posts in the following situations:
1. The thread has become an argument
2. The thread has several flagged posts in it
3. The thread is old (the date is just underneath the title. Sometimes we will have threads that pop up that are older than a year-you can lock those).
4. The thread has a huge amount of responses. This community has very good conversations in threads that can grow rapidly. If you see a thread that has 300+ responses and the discussion has slowed down, you can lock it. This allows new threads to move to the top of the board to receive attention. To lock a thread click on "admin options" just below the title of the thread. Under comments click "close this conversation to further comments." This locks the thread.

-Review flagged posts. When a member reports a post because they believe that it violates the guidelines you will get an alert when you come to the community (it will be at the very top and in red). Click the link to review flagged posts. Use your best judgement to decide if
the post violates the guidelines (they are posted in the admin guide). Sometimes members will report posts because they don't agree
with it. This does not violate any guidelines. If you believe the post is ok then click "remove flag." If you believe the post violates the guidelines then take the following steps.
*Copy the entire post (highlight, right click and selct copy)
*Click the members name to open their profile
*On the left underneath their picture click "send admin warning"
*Beside "what are you reporting" choose the offense (personal attack, soliciting, etc).
*The admin warning is a pre-made message. I like to paste in the offending post so that if the member argues that they didn't violate the guidelines, you have proof in the message. Somewhere in the message simply type: The following is thedeleted post: "paste the post here (right click and select paste).
*Click send
*Go back to flagged posts and click "delete" to remove the post.
Posts don't have to be reported by others for you to remove them. If you come across a post in a thread that violates the guidelines just follow the same steps and then click "delete" in the bottom right corner of the post. If it's a solicitation and the member started an entire thread then click "admin guide" at the top and then click "delete conversation". **Make sure that you send each member an admin warning before deleting their post.**
It seems like a lot of steps, but once you get used to it it's super easy. Every now and then a member will reply to an admin warning and they can be rather rude. You can ignore it, reply (but please use a professional tone) or report it to me and I will handle it. Whatever you feel is appropriate is ok with me. If they keep harassing you, I would like to
know. If you notice that the same member is causing problems then please let me know.

On the right of your screen (in Stay at Home Moms) you will see an Admin menu. Please look over the tips and the admin guide in
there. The guide will explain steps in detail as well as listing the guidelines for Circle of Moms.

I know this is a lot of information, especially if you are new to moderating. Let me know if you have any questions!
Thanks for your help!

Shannintipton - posted on 07/17/2011




Soliciting is not allowed on Circle of Moms, and we have a zero tolerance policy.

Members posting ads or solicitations will have their threads deleted and may be blocked from posting in that community for repeated violation of the CoM guidelines.

If a member has a suggestion or tip, it's ok to POST it. The community is to provide resources for moms, NOT offer them a business opportunity.

If a member asks other members to contact / message her for more info, we will assume that they are trying to make a sale or recruit members / salespeople for companies, and their comment will be deleted.

Comment signatures promoting their business / website / company will also result in the deletion of their comment / thread. This includes links to a website to self-promote their business.

The Following are Considered Solicitations and are NOT Allowed:
- Work from home recruitment pitches
- Dieting ads
- Personal business ads
- "Contact me for more info"
- Posting diaper codes
- Posting requests for votes in a contest (such as requesting for members to vote for your child in something).
- Creation of a community to promote/advertise your business or product/service

Allowed Under Certain Circumstances:
1. Research requests
-When academics or people who claim to be academics post asking members for info or to fill out a survey, their posts should be deleted.
-Please then ask them to write to Herna at the Community Management team (herna (at) to have their request evaluated. If we determine that they are genuine and well-intentioned we will then post the information for the researcher. Any posts where the researcher has posted their own information is not Circle of Moms approved.

There are TWO places on the site that solicitations are allowed:
Work-from-Home Business Opportunities Community:

The Mom's Store (where a member can purchase an ad for a year):

All of these rules apply to profile walls, as well. If you see a solicitation on another member's wall (unless their own), copy the link to their profile and send it to The Community Management Team.

Blogs are allowed if the blog is a personal parenting blog. Blogs that sell or advertise a product or service should be considered a solicitation. Please also keep in mind that blogs that are being advertised in more than 2-3 communities will be considered Spam and will be deleted.

If you are unsure if a post qualifies as a solicitation or not, please copy and paste either the link or the post into a new thread in this community.

Thank you for your support,
The Circle of Moms Community Management Team

Jessica - posted on 07/11/2011




ah yes.... the hidden village of scorned/and or/ strong motherly women.... yes... *watches too much Naruto when the kids go to bed*... we will one day defeat the EVIL box they tried to put us in to quiet us... *watches WAY too much anime in general when the kids go out like lights*

My horrible attempt at making ppl laugh.

Shannintipton - posted on 06/27/2011




Maybe? I made the community secret. So it should make it better. Freer to talk the way we want. I should have done that sooner. But its done now. So we should be good. Cross our fingers. lol

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