Would you ever read your daughters diary?

Katherine - posted on 02/10/2012 ( 18 moms have responded )




This is a toughie. I would be so tempted, but on the same hand my mom read mine and I was PISSED! So would you respect their privacy or not?


Rachel - posted on 06/12/2012




I just read my step-daughters. She keeps leaving lights on in her room when she leaves, I went to turn them off and her diary was wide open. I found a passage saying she hated her life and wanted to kill herself.
Now, my mom read my diary when I was 12 and in it I was talking about sex and boys and things; she wanted me to talk to her and I wouldn't. I now know she was just worried about me and didn't want me to jump into sex too young. I'm sure my step-daughter hates me right now, and I told her that was fine, but I love her and her saying she wants to kill herself is very serious and me and her dad have to talk to her about these things. If she wanted her diary to be private, she should have hid it, not left it out in the open and wide open for anyone to read. Now if she would have written normal stuff like she misses her mom and school sucks, I would closed it and called it a day, but when I see something serious, there is no privacy.

Jennifer - posted on 02/12/2012




I have two teen girls. And I can say no. I've wanted to, espeically since my 16 year old has had many struggles and writes everything down. I did question drugs. I just took her for a drug test instead of reading her books. Why? Because when I was 15 my mom and dad read some letters my friends wrote, and decided that I was having sex and was pregnant. They were dead wrong. In fact, I'd just beaten up the girl who started that rumur. They would not believe a word I said, made me take a pregnancy test, and I was grounded for a month! It destroyed my trust in them, and theirs in me. From then on, I decided that if I could be punished for stuff I'd never done, then why not do it? I won't make that mistake with my girls!

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Belle - posted on 01/18/2015




I've read my daughters once whil tidy up her room because something fought my eye. It said She was cutting her self and there was names of. Websites some were pornogrophy websites ,

Corinne - posted on 06/13/2012




Okay, so my 6yr olds 'diary' was open on the bed today. In the centre of the page, surrounded by pictures of my little ponies and monster high dolls, was written 'mummy is rubbish and stupid'. I straightened up her room and put it under har pillow, felt like crap all day...

User - posted on 02/10/2012




I one time found a letter a teen age girl who was 18 had written to her friend. I decided to read the letter and was very sorry I did. The letter described in detail to her best friend how much she enjoyed anal sex with her boyfriend and how great it was, how craved it and how she could not get preggers from it. I was so shocked and then I had trouble looking at her the same way. For me I would never do it again. I was sorry I invaded her space.

Amy - posted on 02/10/2012




I would like to say no I wouldn't but I'm the type of person who just needs to know. I don't like surprises and I don't like not knowing what's going on so I would probably read it. I wouldn't say anything to her about what I read unless I came across something that I was really concerned about and even then I probably wouldn't come right out and say that I read her diary.

Katherine - posted on 02/10/2012




I agree with you guys, on grounds of suspicion only. I think I would ask first and if I didn't get the answer I wanted, when I KNEW as a mother something was going on, then I would look.

Deborah - posted on 02/10/2012




I think I would, but only on the grounds of reasonable suspicion of certain things.....as others have mentioned, drug use, alcohol, sex.... and most importantly an abusive relationship.

If I didn't have a reason to read it then absolutely not. I'd feel terrible admitting it to her, and I don't think I would if I didn't find anything 'bad' in it... but there are certain things I would go in there for. Doing drugs or having sex are things that ARE my business... so that makes it my right as her mother.

Michelle - posted on 02/10/2012




I would like to respect their privacy but at the end of the day if I was worried about her (sex, drugs, alcohol, crime, etc) I would in a heart beat. I hope I never have to though. Definitely not something I want to do.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 02/10/2012




I would like to say no as a certain. But, if I suspect drugs or alcohol use....or sex, I may be tempted. I hope to have open communication with both of my children where I do not get tempted. I would not have liked if someone read mine, so I would not want to do that to someone else. They would never trust me again.

Amanda - posted on 02/10/2012




My little girls only 2 and I would like to think I wouldn't, and she could come and talk to me about anything. However I agree with the other girls, if I thought she was hiding something that I needed to know about I would as a last resort.

Lyssa - posted on 02/10/2012




i would respect her privacy only unless i felt there was something to be concerned about. then i believe it becomes more about possible safety than privacy. that's just my opinion. i have that to look forward to in about 14 yrs, yikes!

Katherine - posted on 02/10/2012




It would be a very tough decision to make. I have 2 daughters and if they turn out anything like me when I was in my teens, I'm in for it!

Corinne - posted on 02/10/2012




I would be sorely tempted too, Katherine but like Kimberly I'd hope I never had to unless I suspected she was keeping something serious from me. My Dad went through my stuff once and I went ape. I'd've been less pissed if it'd been my Ma cause we're close.

Kimberly - posted on 02/10/2012




I would think for the most part I'd say I wouldnt do it as I also know how it feels to have a diary read but I thought there was something really serious that she was keeping from me and could see it was effecting her then I might. I would still prefer and hope that our relationship will be strong and open enough that she could come to me no matter what but I also remember what it was like as a teen. So I am for privacy as long as its not effecting there safety

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