Hoildays are coming and was wondering if anyone knew where I can get help for my six children to get

Jamie - posted on 10/18/2009 ( 13 moms have responded )

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Been looking for work for 4 months and putting in applications but still nothing.I want my kids to have something for chirstmas but cant afford it.What do I do?

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Stephanie - posted on 10/21/2009

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We've been unemployed since January, and we have 7 kids. Firstly, K-Mart has Lay-A-Way so you can always shop now and pay it off slowly before x-mas comes. Secondly, we've decided this year, since we're too poor to afford a normal x-mas, we've been going through Craigslist, and Freecycle and picking up a lot of toys that way. My kids don't need new things and they are getting exactly what they like too. We've already gotten things for 3 of our kids and it is stuff they asked for and we've only spent $15!

Sheila - posted on 11/18/2009

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We have been purposely moving away from "the loot" of Christmas for years now with our family. For us the focus is spending time together,putting up the tree, making cookies, enjoying hot chocolate and telling stories about Christmases past. I think if you emphasize the positives of the holiday and create memories and feelings instead of worrying about what "things" you aren't giving them, then they will pick up on it and be fine with it too. This year I've suggested to the older kids to give something of theirs to the younger ones that they no longer need/want but has a special story or meaning to them--then tell the story when they give it. I did this myself with my oldest stepson last year. I had a silver wolf pendant I used to wear and when I gave it to him I told him why it was significant to me but that it was up to him now to its significance to him. He hasn't taken it off once since last Christmas and this year he gets to tell me its story.Also, maybe a toy swap with friends or put requests on Freecycle--I'm actually looking for a big mixed bag of Legos.... Happy Holidays!!

Naomi - posted on 11/07/2009

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I agree with talk to churchs and other organizations. I am starting to gather toys and food for a medical college this week because at the same time they are offering medical care! I remember when i was a single mom and our apartment was broken in a week before Christmas. You already over extend yourself and the panic set it. Ask for help. Talk to your kids. My children asked to pray for the robber!.... and mommys movie in the vcr that got stolen too that my son told God he feared the store would charge me for!

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Salvation Army is starting to take applications now. Call your local one and see what you need to bring with you. I have always found that quantity out ranks quality when it comes to kids. Let them know that "Santa" isn't going to bring much this year. To help make it fun, do a scavanger hunt with the presents leaving clues to lead to the next clue for each child. My kids still remember the year I did that. good luck

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I am in a similar situation i have four children, 2 boys and 2 girls, so i sat down with them and explained to them that this christmas Santa cant bring everything they want, we went through toy catalogues and i told them pick the out the one toy, as long as its not too expensive, they know that they will get the chosen toy and 2 small surprises each, so that they will not feel let down on christmas morning, be realistic dont get urself into debt, kids will enjoy spending time with you and ur family more than the latest toys

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Julia - posted on 11/11/2009

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Times are tough all over. I have been laid off since June and my husband has been reduced to part time. What I do is I make gifts for the kids. I am not crafty by any means. I have also made coupon books for the kids with things like, they can help cook dinner, and helping to bake their fav dessert. Maybe that will help you?

Dawn - posted on 11/08/2009

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Do you have a program like Blue Santa in your area? They help provide Christmas for families that are struggling. There are also organizations that adopt families for Christmas. They get the ages of the children and a wish list from them and will purchase some of the items from the list as well as clothes and household items if needed. When I was a single mom there were many years I struggled with providing what I thought was a great Christmas for my kids. As long as we were together, healthy, and had food on the table we had a great Christmas. Are there any family members that could give you a loan for a few items for Christmas? Good luck with everything. Your children will love you regardless of what's under that tree on Christmas!

Elisabeth - posted on 11/08/2009

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go to your local churchs' St Vincent DePaul Society. They are very helpful, especially at Christmas. Most churchs have a Giving Tree at Chrisrtmas, and have a discreet way of placing your childs info on a paper ornament. NO NAMES . Don't be afraid to ask for a little help, everyone needs help now and then. Plus you will make some new and lasting friends ! Good Luck !

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many of us have been in this position at on point n time try calling their school n see if they have anything they do for low income or struggling families for the holidays my son has gotten gifts in the past n i never asked for the help also local food banks n churches often have a program for gifts for children they do things like an angel tree and also the local human services will provide ur holiday meal and they also allow u to go in their office and choose gifts from a table for each of ur children they usually give gloves and hats and u get to chose two or three other gifts from what is available for each child good luck n happy holidays

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First, don't feel guilty, It won't help and it's hard economic times for most people. You should check with your local social services and churches...many organizations adopt families or kids for christmas. If nothing else have a nice meal and pull out the pictures and talk about the good times. My kids still love pulling out the picture albums and they are teenagers now.

Wanda - posted on 10/19/2009

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talk to area churches, they will often help out. My school district has helped our family two years in a row. talk to the school district and local DSS office. I am not a welfare reciepant, just a SAHM trying to get by on my hubbys income! Ask family or friends to "adopt" one child to buy gifts for!! good luck

Susan - posted on 10/19/2009

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I know that as a parent you carry some guilt with you for not being able to live up to the dream of always providing for your kids. The funny thing is that my Mom struggled with money often, and the things I remember are the traditions of everything. We did midnight mass, we sang Christmas carols. We even had a "Charlie Brown" Christmas tree. It wasn't the amount she spent, it was the time we had with her. Honestly. I don't remember EVER being disappointed, and we had times with no gifts.



Having said that, and knowing that you really want to GIVE them something, see if you have a dollar store nearby. you can get boxes and gift wrap there and they really do have some cool stuff if you know where to look. The Salvation Army or Good Will has nice stuff as well AND you can personalize it to look like you made it.



Just know that your kids love you and will be able to get through this gifts or not. I promise you that. Good luck with the job hunt!

Toni - posted on 10/19/2009

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Give them exactly whatyou can afford with out feeling pressured, explain to them that mummy needs to earn some money and as soon as she does she will make it up to them, you could always try to make special personalised gifts for the day a good one for little girls is 2 get a cheap plain box and then decorate (use left over paints, glitter and anything shiney you can find) add on the name and wallah they have a customised jewerly box, you can do the same with boys, only use a bigger box and make a toy storage box for them, tell them all that you will add to them when you get some money. I hope this helps and the best of luck with job hunting.

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