how to get my bfs daughter to stop calling me auntie?

Amanda - posted on 05/05/2012 ( 6 moms have responded )




my boyfriends daughter is 4. She calls me auntie we've tried telling her to call me Amanda. But she still calls me auntie what can we do to get her out of that?She understands that im her dads gf. She always says i love you and gives me kisses so shes comfortable with me. I am actually the person she spends most of her time with as she lives with us fulltime and im a SAHM and watch her everyday the odd time she goes to her moms for a few hours.


Jen - posted on 05/15/2012




Uh.. don't answer her when she calls you Auntie :) My little one started calling his Dad by his first name (my two older children are his step children and THEY call him by his first name)... when he was old enough (2-3ish) and we told him 'He is DADDY, not Scott!'.. he would do it to be funny.. and my husband quit answering him until he said "Daddy".. he would just ignore it.. and it stopped.. he hasn't done it in years... next time she says "Auntie, can I please have some gummy snacks" - don't answer.. when she asks again, say "What is my name?" and when she finally says Amanda.. say "There you go!" and give her the snack :)

Kelly - posted on 05/08/2012




Have you asked her why she is calling you Auntie, rather then Amanda. She could be hasving trouble saying Amanda or maybe she is want to have a special name for you, or someboby has told her to call you that. I would first ask her why then if she doesn't ha ve a reason and you want her to call you by your name then just nicely correct her everytime she calls you something else.When she calls you auntie just say something like do you mean Amanda and then have her say your name. just like how most people do when teaching your child to say please or thank you. If she is trying to have a special name for you then you and your boyfriend should sit down with her and maybe come up with a special name she can call you.


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Jill - posted on 07/26/2012




My kids have honorary aunts and uncles that are no relation and not even dating a family member. One of my friend's kids call me auntie too.

'Family' is more than blood and legalities. You can choose to make anyone you like be part of your family, just by putting them in your heart. If she wants to call you Auntie, take it as the compliment it is intended to be.

Chaya - posted on 07/10/2012




Maybe she's trying to compliment you. Some of the children I have raised called me auntie or mom, depending on if the bio mother was still living. That'd be fine with me, but remind her when she calls you that, say: "No, I'm your dads girlfriend, Amanda." She may need to be reminded a few times

Ashley - posted on 05/09/2012




Why dont you let her call you antie amanda for now and later she will start calling you amanda, i think its sweat that she calls you antie because your family that means a lot to her and being her dads gf dosent sound as stable maybe she is insuring you wont go anyware because your family unlike her mom. Kids go through fazes my sd used to call me mommy and i would correct her and say ashley because i dident want her mom to get upset but man do i miss her calling me mommy i know its not important what they call u but its just so sweat.

Amanda - posted on 05/09/2012




thanks. yesterday when she called me auntie we explained to call me Amanda she said why she's my auntie she's my family. we explained that I'm not auntie I'm dads gf. she does know how to say my name when my bfs exes brother comes and picked her up he said bye amanda and the. She said bye Amanda. but today she's still saying auntie.

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