I am a stepmom!

Susan - posted on 11/18/2008 ( 11 moms have responded )

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Hello! I am a childless stepmom who would love to meet other stepmoms!

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Melanie - posted on 04/11/2011

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Hi Susan, I'm a stepmom to 4 children, with none of my own. It is the hardest and least respected job I've ever had!

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Amy M - posted on 07/02/2017

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I'm a childless stepmother of 1 11yo girl. I hate it. I love my husband and stepdaughter, but I feel used all the time. I'm the maid, chef, taxi, errand girl, receptionist, nurse, landschaper, animal care taker... NIETHER of them are willing to lift a finger. I've stopped doing laundry and cleaning (which I can't let go for too long due to my personality) and unless they have no clothes or towels they don't care. I have other issues. Just a small sample.

Sashae - posted on 05/19/2015

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Hi everyone I'm a childless stepmom and it's definately the hardest thing I ever did and still doing. It's seem everyone walk right over you. Almost as if you are invisable and no one listen to you. Almost as if you are the one invading in their world. It's a frustrating endeavor.

Kimberly - posted on 08/21/2014

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i also have no children of my own and no one seems to understand how that feels. i have been married for 8 years and my husband has three children with his ex girlfriend.

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Jennifer: I honestly feel that is a great idea! If your husband is uncomfortable with this, it could be because of what happened... with so little information, I assume it was due to a medical condition. Perhaps your husband wants for you to be the only Mother your SS remembers. I would suggest speaking with your husband and seeing if he would compromise with you on this. Offer to put the memory book away until your SS is a bit older, and then have your husband present it to him. I have a memory book laid out for my oldest, who's father left me when I was 9 weeks pregnant with him. I wrote about our relationship, put pictures in it, and wrote about my pregnancy. I have a few other photos that my family members have of him saved too. My son knows that my husband is not his "real dad", and understands that he is the first father he has ever had. He would not trade his Dad for the world, or his two "brothers" and sisters! He does understand that our lives are better now than it could have been if I would have stayed with his biological father. I have not presented him with this book, and do not plan on it until he his older - thinking his 16th or 18th birthday, whichever my husband agrees to with the most acception to the idea. He knows that I made it, and we agreed that while our oldest is smart, it could be emotionally traumatizing to him (at the age of 10). So, we are a bit protective at this time. Hope this helps! :)

Jennifer - posted on 04/28/2011

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Hello everyone..I am a step mom to 1 and the mother of 7(natural) all together I have 8. My sons natural mother passed away prior to my meeting his dad. He was only 2 1/2 at the time. I was worried about that he wouldnt remember her or anything like that. So, I created a memory book for him of her and he has pictures of her everywhere. Oddly enough my husband is more uncomfortable with this then I am any advice?

Dianne - posted on 04/27/2011

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Hi Ladies, I am a step-mom of 4. It has and still is the hardest thing I have ever gone through. At one point, all 4 hated me, now it's only 3. One of my step daughters is the trouble maker and tells lies to make me look like the bad guy. So not only do 3 of my step-daughters dispise me, my mother-in-law, and sister-in-law as well. It's been 6 years of misery, and not sure how much more I can take. My husband and I love each other very much, and he is so supportive. He just tells me to ignore than and agrees that his family is a bunch of trouble makers. I am 100% positive that their motive is to break my husband and I up. It's really sad!! Thanks for listening. Dianne

Lisa - posted on 04/11/2011

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I am a step mum to a 4 yo boy, i have been around since he was 6mo old. We have had him most of the time so i am more like the mum then step mum. It is hard work having to deal with his mum as she thinks she makes all the rules and you have to do what she says. She had a go at me the other day because i got his haircut.? I have 2 kids of my own with my stepson's dad and it is hard trying to set rules for my 2yo and have different rules for my 4yo. But i tend to do my own thing and not really listen to her and her rules she has.

Kamela - posted on 11/21/2008

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wow girl...that's not the word. It can be pretty difficult and my thing is it's not even the kids it's the mom. I have been a step mom for about 9 years now. How old are your step kids?

Susan - posted on 11/21/2008

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Hi Kamela! I have been a stepmom for almost 8 years now. It is a challenge, isn't it?

Kamela - posted on 11/21/2008

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hi Susan I'm Kamela pleased to meet you. I ama stepmother to 2. Welcome to our world :-0

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