Is Bathing my son with his step daughter wrong, ages 2 and 3?

Summer - posted on 09/01/2011 ( 10 moms have responded )

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My son is 2 and my step daughter will be 3 in november, we also have a 4 month old daughter. I married her father last year, but we have been together for a total of 3 years. We used to bath my step daughter with my son together, but then her mom said we should quit due to her own reasons. The main reason that she constantly points out is because my step daughter has now become curious about body parts. I do not see anything wrong with it because we raise them as if the are brother and sister, not as if they were not related at all. Also because they are so young i do not see any harm in it. my step daughter always tells me she wants to take a bath with her bubba(my son) and play in the bath with the boats and other bath toys we have for them with her bubba. They see each other naked anyways if we bath them separate, since they always want to be where the other one is, especially if my husband is not at home and out of town for work because i am at home with all three of our kids. I will respect her moms request even if it makes bath time a little bit longer for me. I just wanted to see what other moms opinions were.

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Natalie - posted on 09/05/2011

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I bath my 2yr old with his 2 yr old step-sister, they were born 2 days apart and have been raised as twin since 5months(we have full sole custody of both them and their brothers), it's your house your rules, we have kids so bathing in 2's makes life easier when the kids were small enough I'd stick the "twins" in there bath seats and the boys would get in with them they all had a blast, we'd dig out the bubbles and bath paints and within half an hour I had 4 bathed and started on jammies.

Ashley - posted on 09/01/2011

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I think thats dumb my sd and son are both 3 and i bath them together they are siblings end of story. Im not sure why she would have a problem with it other then causing conflict.

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Loraine - posted on 07/05/2017

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no! you're letting your kids know that they're siblings, not just other people. If you turn the son's sister into some taboo subject he may grow up thinking taboo thoughts. Tell the bio mom that she is making trouble for the future. "Do you want the kids raised to think their nudity while around one another is inherently sexual and wrong? That places temptation where there should not be. You are doing that. Siblings need to have skinship at a young age." is what I'd jam down her throat!! She is trying to turn her daughter into, "another naked girl," instead of, "my sister," to your son! Read about how people who have dirty thoughts about their siblings began to think in such ways, and it all lines up!

Sharlene - posted on 10/26/2011

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Hi . I think that age is fine, course they dont understand anyway but around age 4 maybe stop.cheers

DaNita - posted on 09/25/2011

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my kids bath together all the time. when the oldest of the kids starts to feel odd about being naked around the younger kids, then it is time to start. now if the mom has an issue, try to understand what that might be. maybe its cuz there are a boy and girl not becuase they have different moms. Honestly you have to respect her feelings. there will be other battles that will be worth fighting, not this one.

Dee - posted on 09/06/2011

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I have 4 kids and have no problem with bathing these children together. If they were older, that may be an issue, but 2 & 3????

One of the moms said it best: The BM may just have her own issues, and you need to decide if it is worth the fight.

In reality, we had cousins bathing together at 3-4 with out any consequences. They are now 21+ and haven't seemed scarred in the least. They also told the parents when they were uncomfortable sharing a tub...we then stopped.

I say, don't worry.

Dee

Summer - posted on 09/03/2011

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They currently are in separate rooms. But to make bath time more fun and easier on me I just think it wouldnt hurt to bath them together. Thank you ladies for your opinions!

Jamie - posted on 09/03/2011

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i find nothing wrong with that, i bathed with my cousin who is a boy until i was probably 5 or 6, i was always over my aunts house while my parents worked and we just always were together. nothing wrong with that, and of course kids are going to be curious, they want to know what it is, so tell them!

Ashley - posted on 09/03/2011

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Thats tough and altamatly u have to decide if its worth the batle but whats next they cant sleep in the same room ect your home your rules but thats just my opinion good luck

Summer - posted on 09/02/2011

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Yes that is my thoughts too. But since she is completely against it I now have to bath each child separate which takes up to over an hour in bath time for all three kids versus it only taking about 30 mins or so. My husband wants to respect her wishes which I don't agree with him on this one. We raise them like they are siblings sp therefore why not let th bathe together till about 4 or 5. My step daughter gets really excited to take baths with her brother. But I don't want to cause conflict by going against what she says with this because it's already a hard situation between is three adults.

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