Is this normal for a 1 year old?

Amanda - posted on 07/02/2010 ( 9 moms have responded )




We recently started watching my grandson while his mother works. We figured there would be some agjustment time but now we are starting to worry. He turned 1 almost a month ago. He screams, not cries, the entire time he is at our house. Nothing consoles him, even when his mom comes to pick him up he continues to scream with no different reaction to her. He has been checked at the doctors- no ear infections, he is teething but we give him all sorts of stuff to help with that but nothing helps. He doesn't babble or say any words. He is just learning how to crawl, but doesn't try to walk even when holding on to your fingers. He smiles rarely. He hates our other children, hates tv or computer, has yet to touch a toy although he likes when we play the toy for him. On second thought he does like to put toy food in his mouth, but he doesnt stop crying.

I have worked with children for 11 years- with children who come from abusive/neglectful families mostly. The only time I have ever seen something like this was with my own son, who was diagnosed with autism. I was hoping this was caused by something else. Anyone have any ideas/suggestions?



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Brandi - posted on 07/21/2010




I would also suggest to keep a food journal... you might find that something he eats upsets him. My cousin was the same way and we found out he was allergic to poulty. He wouldn't break out or anything like you would expect with an allergy, it would just really upset his body. If your grandson can't verbalize what he is feeling - all he can do is cry. Sometimes, you will find that a whole food/organic diet will help and might even help with autistic symptoms as well. Good luck and God bless!

Vicki - posted on 07/16/2010




Autism sounds about right. Or he could be like my niece is. From the time she was little, like 1-2, she does not like people. She loves animals, but really has no time for people.I also have a new niece who cries all the time and I mesn to the point thhat she quits breathing. They say that she has acid reflux.

Carol - posted on 07/15/2010




I agree with Danielle, find a specialist and you will find the best answer. There has to be a reason why he cries so much. In the mean time you are in our prayers.

Denise - posted on 07/10/2010




Hi I was thinking the same thing Autism. I am no doctor but I have worked with mentally challenged kids for 8yrs, and that sound like that could very well be the case, because they are like that. First you should find another doctor because he obviously doesn't know what he is doing, or shall I say he doesn't specialize in those behaviors and can't recognize the signs. Ask him for a referral to a specialist and see what happens. Good luck.

Rhoda - posted on 07/09/2010




It sounds to me that he is used to being entertained, but not to entertaining himself. Autism could be involved, don't get me wrong...
I am a mother of 7 kids. One of my kids, I recognize as having austistic tendencies. Several of my kids protested when I left them by screaming the entire time I was gone. The real question is, does he behave this way all the time, or only when he is with you? If he doesn't behave this way all the time, then what's different about when he behaves well, or at least more according to expectations? Does he settle when he gets home? Is the surroundings he finds himself in important to keep him feeling secure? Have you ever looked after him in his own home?
I'm not an expert, but it might be worthwhile to check into these things, ask his mother, experiment with looking after him in his own home, and, if he has just barely begun crawling, don't expect him to be wanting to walk, even with help.
I'm praying for him, and I hope you find solutions that will genuinely help him.

Bratz - posted on 07/08/2010




o.k had to jump in on this one having 8 children and one diagnosed with neurofibromytosis, my questions to you would be how recent did you start watching him ? have you seen him at home doing the same sort of stuff he does while at your house, when you go visit ? what are the signs that are pointing to him hating other children example hitting biting and is he acting out as a way of communiting his needs because you mentioned he didn't bable or say any words, does he point at things he wants to commuicate

Bethany - posted on 07/07/2010




Check with ECI (Early Childhood Intervention) in your area. They work with children who have delays & developmental problems (which it sounds like he has). He does sound like he could have some autistic tendencies, but it could also be sensory problems as well. ECI will come out & evaluate him & make a plan for helping him, no matter what the problem is.

Sheryl - posted on 07/04/2010




Get involved with your early intervention program and keep a journal of everything that happens through the day so when they ask the tons of questions u have something to help. My son has spd (sensory proccesing disorder)and he cried alot and did much of the same stuff and it was cause he was overstimulated all the time. He is sensitive to touch, sound, lights, He also needs deep pressure. Early invervention helped alot.

Danielle - posted on 07/04/2010




I think you may have hit the nail on the head when you mentioned Autism. I would try to find a specialist in your area or get a second opinion. this is a really great site that helped a friend of mine with his son.

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