space in the house..

Brandi - posted on 08/25/2009 ( 6 moms have responded )




How do you deal with space in the home with 4 or more children. We have 4 and stay in a 3 bdrm home over 40 yrs old.Two girls stay in a room, two boys stay in a room. It works out great. When my SD comes to visit, we have a blowup mattress or they "camp out" on the floor and talk all night. With nbr 5 coming, I am wondering what our options are.

The house is in need of major renovations from a new roof, foundation uneven,m rewiring, water damage and just general wear and tear. We will need to add on a room and bathroom soon. We were given an estimate of $3500 to redo the kitchen floor and adjust the house from shifting. It seems ridiculous.

I asked around to people who had rooms added on and renovations done and was told its cheaper or the same price to get a new home with everything you want. We have 2 years left to pay on the house and I really dont want to get a new home and new mortgage but I have lived here all my life and desperately want to move and expose my children to more cultural and educational experiences. The contract states we cannot sell the house...renters are an option..

what do you guys do with the birth of each new child?


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Elisabeth - posted on 09/14/2009




Wow ! I have lived in a 3 br 1b home with 9 kids and no basement for 25 years. Boys in one room, girls in the other. Sofa sleeper and crib size kids in my room. Needless to say, we are still very close to this day, even tho most of them have moved on. ENJOY the closeness !

Pepper - posted on 09/14/2009




We have a large home with 3 bedrooms upstairs and a full basement with 2 more bedrooms. Our kids refuse to sleep in the basement. They say it's dark, scary etc. So we have 3 boys in one room and 2 girls in one. Although the baby doesn't sleep there yet she is in our room until she is sleeping through the night.

Pam - posted on 09/11/2009




Our family of 8 just moved out of a three bedroom home, not for space reasons but we relocated for a job. Our older 4 are all boys and they shared one room (two sets of bunkbeds) and we had a bedroom for the two girls and then our room. It was cramped, but we were fine. And both girls actually sleep with us, so we really only used two bedrooms. When my youngest was first born we had a cradle in our room and then replaced it with the crib. Now we are renting a 5 bedroom home and it's weird having so much space. LOL Personally, with only two years left to pay on your home, I would make plans to fix it up and add onto it. They really don't make homes like they used to and being a landlord is really hard too. Good luck and congrats on your little one.

Michelle - posted on 08/31/2009




I'd be careful about buying a newer home -- I've heard they're building bedrooms smaller these days. We have seven in a 3 bedroom house, but the bedrooms are big enough that we can fit four beds in the boys' room and there's still space to play. We're building bunkbeds for them, so they'll have even more room. But a friend of mine with only two kids in a brand new 3 bedroom house insists she can't fit a second bed in her kids' rooms.

Cheryl - posted on 08/29/2009




Can you sell the house once it is paid off in 2 years? If so, I'd plan to go with that option rather than walking away from your investment. Is hubby "handy" at all? My husband just put down a new floor in our kitchen (after living with carpet-yuck!- for 5 yrs) for less than $200. He has done all the renovations on this house, and when he runs into something he doesn't know how to do, he finds someone who does know and either asks for help, or "picks their brains". In the meantime, if you're asking how to "fit" everyone and their belongings in a small home, I can help you there. We have 11 people living in a 963 sq ft. 2 bedroom, 1 bath farmhouse (oh, but it sits on 15 gorgeous acres in the country, so there's the trade-off!). The children each have only so much designated space for their clothing and other belongings. When something new comes in, something else must go (if there's no room). We allow 3 prs of shoes per person; 1 pair of sneakers, 1 pair of dress shoes, 1 pair of "in season" (sandals or boots). As we have only one closet, we have two coats per person (1 for play; 1 dress). Snowsuits are kept in a lg tote in the shed (we have some awesome sledding hills!). As you can imagine, toys are kept to a minimum as well (especially since they are stored in small totes on the bottom book shelves in the living room). Frequent "weeding out" and organization really is the key (and I'm not a "natural organizer"; I've had to learn a few tricks down through the years as our family grew). With new baby coming, you may be overwhelmed wondering where you'll put all that equipment. Guess what? Most of it is simply clutter and not even necessary. We use a port-a-crib instead of a full size crib(our babies are born too big to stay in a bassinet very long; baby #10 born this week weighed 11 lbs 2 oz.). New babies sleep in our room until they are ready to sleep in a regular bed. I know that may not work for everyone, but it has for us. We don't use a swing, changing table, pack 'n play, bouncy seat, or baby bathtub. Did that free up some space for you? Baby clothes are kept to a minimum as well. The only items that require significant space are the nice, thick cloth diapers and diaper covers. But those are worth the space. We do use a highchair once baby is ready for it (6 months or so). Hope this helps you!

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So far we've been renters, so when things werent getting repaired or the space ended up too small for us we would just move. We've even moved under a lease agreement.

If your place is under too much repair and would cost far too much there would be more than likely a safety issue.I would use that if need be to move to a better and safer house. Now if you could find a place that would give you a loan to solve the problem (if you really like the place) then go for that. But if you feel that its just no use and you dont feel safe I would cite the safety concerns and just move.

You may be able to have renters if they will not let you move or sell your home under safety reasons, those you'd still end up with the bill to fix it all.

The next place we are going for will be our own place, we are sick of waiting to get things fixed, tired of not being able to paint the kids rooms in nice colours that would suit them, and a lack of being able to get more space if need be. We have four kids (two are my own, one is his and the youngest is ours together) plus another on the way.

his son is a special needs child and has to have his own room to keep everyone safe, plus my daughter is getting to the point where sharing a room is going to get a lot of ewwws from her friends (the only girl in the house! lol)

So soon we will have to consider a house with five bedrooms instead of the four bdrm place we are in now. We also have been using the dinning room as a playroom since there are so many toys that to let them keep them in their own rooms right now would just be too chaotic, so hopefully we will either find a place with a rec room or be able to build an extra room on so that they will have the room!

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