Step mum

Lisa - posted on 09/25/2017 ( no moms have responded yet )

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Hi everyone
I have been in a relationship for 12 months
I have 4 children and my partner has 3
Everyone gets along fine there is the odd argument like in all family's but we have a couple of issues
My partner has a 17 year old that likes to get her own way
My partner had 50% of care of his children until the daughter decided she wanted to stay at her mums more
I think it is because she is allowed to sleep with her boyfriend at mums and not allowed to at dads
She now only comes to her fathers one night a fortnight maybe 2 if we are lucky
But while she is there he likes to treat her more like a guest then a child and she gets different rules then the other kids she doesn't have to eat vegetables like the rest are made to
We all have a clean up on a Sunday and she is allowed to just watch
She cleaned her room the other day and throw her dirty washing in the hallway and the vacuum in the hallway and left it there for someone else to clean up
Her father and I will be doing a job together and he will ask her to help and she will say no it's below her and look at me why she is saying it
It definitely feels as though she is trying to lower any respect for me
She also starts solking if her father and I go anywhere together for some time to ourselves even if it's just for a coffee
If we go away for the weekend and he posts on Facebook that we are away together she will call him as soon has he has made the post like she has to have his attention
I feel she is trying to send me some type of msg
And it makes it so much harder that her mother is a very big influence she can not do anything without ringing her mum and discussing it with her first she would call her at least 8 times a day
What do I do

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Nikki - posted on 10/12/2017

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I'm so sorry, parenting and especially step-parenting can be so challenging to. I wish I could lay out a perfect way to help, but I really don't know. I am a stepdaughter, and have had my share of problems with my stepmom. Time, patience, and love are really important. It sounds like she really needs to know that you care about her, and no matter how she acts out... you're not going anywhere. Sending you big hugs and prayers friend, keep your chin up! The most important thing is that you're looking for ways to improve your relationship with her!

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