Marie - posted on 02/10/2010 ( 25 moms have responded )




I would like to know what you think about toys in the bed room. I would like to try toys in the bedroom but my fiance don't want to. I have tried talking to him about it but he just tells me no and not to ask again. Any advice would be appreciated.


Valerie - posted on 09/09/2010




We use toys, something we just started this yr. It was his idea. It played out as a joke and one day he came one with a surprise for me. It makes it more exciting and we both are into it more. Maybe you should just start small...maybe like message oils or something that gets his closer to the body or maybe something for him. He's probably just not sure of how it might play out. Take charge many men like that.

Emma - posted on 04/20/2010




I had a boyfriend who years ago freaked out about the idea of toys, after much pointless arguing i just went and got a little lipstick sized vibrator, and he "accidental" walked in on me using it, well he got so turned on by the site of DIY as it where that he had to join in, once we where done i asked him about toys again and the funny thing he was up for it,i found out he had been thinking along the lines of those gigantic ones they often have in porn, and he had taken it as he was not enough so he had gotten all touchy about it, when he realised i was talking about adding to our sex life not replacing him he was like a kid in a candy store lol

Jacklyn - posted on 02/11/2010




i love toys and my hubby started out feeling weird about it too. I would say start off with a pair of handcuffs. Pretty much if you cuff ur fiance to the bed and do what u will to him..he's not gunna protest. Than just start from there..he'll all of a sudden LOVE toys..haha


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I love toys :) def get toys and have fun! it may take time but you will get your fiance to want to play!

Constance - posted on 10/06/2011




We use toys to spice things up but I do send videos and pictures to him. He loves it. When h comes home his intensity level increases 100 fold.

Amanda - posted on 09/24/2010




You could always make a video of yourself using them too and send it to him =) Or take pics..Its always a good idea to spark it up too by going to a sex store together =)

Lacy - posted on 07/21/2010




i had to talk my boyfriend just by picking something out bringing home then it was already bought and it cant be returned

Andrea - posted on 05/20/2010




I wouldn't be able to live without my toys. I've used sex toys since I was like 14 (found my Mom's stash) and I stayed happy and still do using them along with the sex my husband and I have.

JoDee - posted on 04/29/2010




toys are a great way to discover new areas to explore with each other's bodies. My husband and I have plenty of them in our toy chest. I would suggest going slow at first with the conversations / suggestions about toys. It could be that the longer you are with your fiance the more he will come around to your way of thinking.

Lauren - posted on 04/24/2010




sex toys can be a girls best friend. I was into using toys before my bf and I got together 7 years ago. I had a small collection of dildos, handcuffs, nipple clamps, and whips. In the beginning f our relationship he didnt want to use them then I just had to bust it out one night and show him what I could do, haha. Men get turned on by watching you, even if you dont use a toy. When he finally came around and decided to use it on me instead of me showing him the orgasms were 100xs better. In our long 7 years we have enjoyed buying new toys for each other, we have a DVD collection of our fav porn (not that we watch porn a lot, but its there if we need it). I go to toy parties at least twice a year to buy something new and we always have a blast trying the new stuff. Theres no such thing as having too many toys, haha. I have over 12 different vibrators and dildos, he has his pocket pussy, cock rings, several whips, lotions, and oils. Its so much fun to explore the new so have fun and good luck!!!!!!

Jennifer - posted on 03/13/2010




I actually sell toys for Temptations and I get alot of women who are worried about how to introduce toys in the bedroom. The advice I give my clients is to pick something that they would enjoys using by themselves, use it alone to get an idea of how you like to use it, and then ask him if he would do it for you. If he is insecure about the toy "replacing him" try to limit the use of the toy to foreplay and go for the real thing for the Grand Finale. Then when he is more secure, take him to a store (or find a Catalog if he is shy) and let him pick something out for himself. If anyone would like a Temptations Catalog send me a private message with your address and I would be happy to send you one!

Jessica - posted on 03/08/2010




My fiance was skeptical about it as well. I ended up convincing him by us going to an adult store together and picking one out and then I let him use it on me the first time. After everything was finished, I reassured him by telling him that I still prefer him anyday. Now if I want to play with toys, he's not so reluctant.

Allison - posted on 03/05/2010




Try toys by yourself when he is not around and see how you like them. If he is uncomfortable or intimidated, he may just not be open to the idea, but no reason you can't try them. Toys are a wonderful thing...

Sara - posted on 03/02/2010




My BF actually introduced me to toys. I never used one till he bought me one for our 4 month anniversary. If the rare occasion happens that I do not have an orgasm with him, he will grab the toy and help me finish cause he says its not fair. So yeah we like to use toys.

Marie - posted on 02/28/2010




good idea never thought of that. I will do that. Little by little he is coming around. :0)

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