Loss of a child!!!

Christina - posted on 12/05/2009 ( 2 moms have responded )




I can not believe its almost Christmas. When my son died January 31, 2009 I had to have people tell me to breath. I couldn't even imagine living without him. Yet its almost a year and not a day goes by I don't think about him. When i opened this room I didnt know what to expect. I guess part of me wanted to be the strength of this room little did I know that all of you have been my strength. God gave me a few gifts and one of them is encouraging people. But, all of you have encouraged me. Your strength, your support your willingness to be open about such a tragic loss. For that I am grateful to all of you. I would like to express my sympathy to all of you for your loss and as the holiday approaches would like to open up some discussion on how your coping through the holidays, any family traditions you have and any ideas you have on how to remember our children who have passed. I pray for each of you for whatever your believes are that you find peace in your life and that you live life to the full. May your hearts not be harden by tragedy but may your hearts be open to still continue to give and feel love. "It's not waiting for the storm to pass...... It's learning to dance in the rain"


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Vicki - posted on 12/06/2009




Hi Christina,
A very important part of Christmas is to include the child you have lost as much as you can. When we decorate our tree we always make sure we put John's christmas ball on first, we talk about him the whole time, remember when John did this, remember when John did that. Remember the Christmas that John got such and such present, remember our first Christmas without John. My children all had Santa pillow caes when they were young and I always make a point of putting Johns pillow case on my pillow before Christmas so that I think of him when I go to bed and when I wake up. I also take flowers to John's plaque first thing Christmas morning and have a cry and talk to him for a while. We always have a lit candle on our table as well and my Dad always has a little speech and talks about the people we miss. Hope this helps a little bit. I know the hurt never goes away. Good luck and enjoy the holiday season as best you can. Vicki :-)

Wanda - posted on 12/06/2009




it's ladies like you who have made me realize there WILL BE moments I can dance after all :o)

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