My Nephew died of SIDS when i was 7 months pregnant

Megan - posted on 02/06/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )




When I was 7 months pregnant I heard a knock at my door early one morning. It was my brothers. they told me to sit down. They told me our little sisters 15 day old baby had died of SIDS first thing that morning.I got my boyfriend and my daughter up and we rushed to my sisters. The police, ambulance and our whole family was there. My sister and her fiance kept saying I want my baby just please give me my baby. sobing and hardly able to stand. They were not allowed to talk to one another until police questioned them both but they had to search the house and have an autopsy done. (regular procedure) While we waited my sister kept holding my belly and crying. Me being there was hurting her, but I wanted to be there for her. For that whole week I was there for her, wearing huge sweaters (even though it was june) to hide my belly as much as possible. I had nightmares almost of every night of SIDS, My newphew and our unborn baby girl. I still do, and is now 5 months old. Its very very hard. My sister holds my daughter, plays with her, and is a great aunt. Although I know how hard it is for her. Last week she asked me to take her to the doctors. And on the way home burst out crying telling me she is pregnant again. She had not planned it, she had messed up her pill one week. and she is so scared.


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Maree - posted on 02/07/2012




That is so awful,your poor sister.

The only good thing is that losing a baby to SIDS is very uncommon and unlikely to happen again.

Make sure she does EVERYTHING possible to prevent it happening again.

I'm not sure what she did last time or if there is anything she can do this time that would help decrease the risk but make sure there is no smoking AT ALL,don't drink or take drugs while the baby is in their bed,lay baby on it's back to sleep,breast feed if possible....if necessary,have one parent awake with the baby at all times in the first few months. It is a small price to pay really because if something was to happen there would be a parent awake to do something immediately..

Oh also maybe get one of those sleep safe breathing monitors,i hear they are great.

All you can do is be there for her,keep an eye on her and step in to help if necessary.

Sarah - posted on 02/07/2012




Oh hun im so sorry for your lose, thoughts are with you and you family xxx

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