Why men think they can just up and go and leave there flesh and blood?

Carla - posted on 05/06/2010 ( 9 moms have responded )




I am not look for pity i am looking for a reason an answer. When i was young i hated guys who just leave there pregnant girls because they cant handle the responsibility. And now i am 29 and in the same . Why does the male population think that its ok. why are men irresponsible i have these question i just do not understand. they first are willing to put out ( in matter of speaking) to a girl second without being responsible enough for them self or the woman third does not care the outcome of his actions.

it not a question that i will hide him hes gone no where to be found i wanted him a pat of her life and i used to send pictures and talk with him once a month then he just shut the phone moved and right now who knows. i wasn't trying to dog out men its just frustrating because i have no idea how to explain when she has questions. hes not mean or horrible but just escaped from the world. I know so many single woman with babies and i hear there stories and they say so much. I would never hold out on her i always tell her even at this age her daddy loves her but can not be with us. My biggest fear is she blames me for him not being here. and its not he left me before i even knew i was pregnant and when i told him he didn't care


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Yesenia - posted on 06/05/2010




Tu tienes la respuesta, mens simply don't think and when you can't think you are not able to feel...

Nancy - posted on 06/02/2010




Only a theory: We deliver & give birth to these beautiful babies, but men only welcome them. Depending on their interest, nurture, ethics they will decide to welcome or not to welcome.

Sandra - posted on 05/29/2010




can't tell u why but my kids father walked out on us when my oldest was 9 mths old and i was 8 mths pregnant....talk about hard time but i made it thru the situation because i have a family that cares about me as for him we back together but he was out of their lives for a good year n a half now they actually love their father but he knows he walks out on us again thats it thers no comin back.....

Brenda - posted on 05/26/2010




I don't have an answer for you or can't tell you what you want here but not all men are like that irresponsible individual. But what I can tell you is to look within your heart & try and see where the red flags came up & then look at that wonderful gift that he gave you & you will find the strength that only WE WOMEN have and go forward he most likely did you & the Baby a very big favor. Because he probably would have left after the birth. Maybe he got scared I don't know. I'm not very religous but when I'm lost, confused or just going through some moment in my life I ask that wonderful man "God" and ask him to please show me the way to give you an answer and he will. The only thing that I will tell you is don't talk bad to your child about the Dad. Please remember this because it's helped me alot in life to survive especially in matters of the heart because we tend to really Love & give so much of ourselves. Remember 'THAT IN ORDER TO BE LOVED YOU MUST LOVE YOUSELF 1ST, 2ND, 3RD, 4TH AND 5TH ALWAYS YOU" "ALWAYS LOVE YOURSELF BECAUSE IF YOU DON'T LOVE YOURSELF NOBODY WILL." Men can see & smell & know when "WE DON'T LOVE OURSELVES". Try not to be needy it's hard especially now that you have a Baby but you will survive. Go for the child support. Be strong you will be fine. Please let me know how you do.Take care of yourself & Baby. Although I don't know you

Take care,

A Friend " Hooray for Sisterhood"

Jackie - posted on 05/18/2010




As women and mothers we would never just walk out on our babies. But we must remember men do not give birth or feel the pain and also joy that us as women do. I was lucky and was raised by my dad, wonderful man and I wanted the same for my kids. I was very unlucky there. It is a day 2 day battle just me & the kids. I believe sooner or later these dogs will get what is coming to them, and it will be their own children to do it.

Alina - posted on 05/17/2010




I dont really have an answer to your question... but I feel you on it... I was actually in your babys situation... My :sperm donor" left my mom right away, after she told him she was expecting... I remember her tellin me that she called him and told him when she was in labor... She said his response was to call him back after I came out so he can have a DNA test done... My mother never hid him from me, and even included, VERY FEW, pics of him in my baby book so that I knew... I got curious when I was around 12 years old, and wrote him a letter while he was in jail (was in and out all my life and currently is in again)... I never got a response or nuthin... When I was about 16, he decided that he wanted visitation rights, just so that my father couldnt adopt me legally... My father had been takin care of me since I was a few months old... I told him that I didnt want anything to do with him, and thats his fault... I am now 21, and have issues with trusting men, and they started out because of that reason...
What Im tryin to say is please dont lie to her about him or hide him... It will make it look worse on you when she gets older... And Just hope all goes well with the baby... My mom always told me that he wasnt ready to be a dad, but he would come around one day, and then I will be old enough to decide what I wanted to do, for myself... Im sorry this has happened to you, and I have sympathy for you and yours...

Cin - posted on 05/12/2010




This has to be the most sought out question day in and out ...my daughter's father left me when i wa 6 months preggo ..showed up to see her after see was born and has seen her twice and how she's 3 months .. i stil can't understand how can he walk away and miss out on the most precious beatiful person that he made. He hasn't called nor attempt to see her without me making suggestions so i don't anymore...i changed my number and everything to avoid that feeling of hurt and disappointment. Its super hard but life moves on and you gotta keep up with it. It is what it is!

Barbora Milena - posted on 05/10/2010




hi, i know what you feel...my daughter is 6months old and her "dad" walked away 6wks before she was born, we had been living together and all the pregnancy he was sayin how happy n excited he is...he has never seen her, nor phoned, asked if she was born ok, if we r doing well...he never asked for a photo, whats her name, never send a penny or a gift...nothing..... I think they are just not well brought up, that their mothers havent thought them respect women and what does it mean love, responsibility etc... Dont waste your time thinkin of them, they are not worth it, enjoy your baby...

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