91/2 month old hates her crib!

Quiana - posted on 01/13/2010 ( 8 moms have responded )




my daughter wont sleep in her crib. i dont know what to do. any suggestions are welcome. I tried to let her cry but she is VERY stubborn. she has to be on someone to sleep & when we do transfer her to her bed shes either awake before she hits the mattress or within 5 min. Then shes up 2-3 times a night. help please


Becky - posted on 01/21/2010




My 10 month old has her moods alot of the time now she likes to sleep in her play pen IDK why she does.


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Leanne - posted on 01/22/2010




my 10 month old loves her cot, she went from a bassinet in our room to the bassinet in her cot to just the cot no problems! but my oldest hated her cot, she was never rocked to sleep or anything but she just developed a dislike to it and would only sleep in my bed UNTIL i got her a big girl bed at 10 months! From then on she was in her own bed on her own all night. she'd still wake up during the night but shes just a crap sleeper because at 4 years old she still wakes up during the night. I believe it was just the caged in feeling she didnt like,

Shannon - posted on 01/22/2010





My expirience with sleeping and co-sleeping and cribs has been a rough one. LOL But, now at 10 months I am fairly confident that my hard work has paid off. My daughter is sleeping through the night in her crib. I have used the following method since she was small. I start with a bath which I do every night. I read a long time ago that this calms the baby and signals that it's time for bed. Supposedly so does low lighting which we also use. After we bathe her I give her a little massage with the nighttime lotion. I don't know if it's lotion or the massage but she is usually very drowsy at this point. Then I dress her and rock her while giving her the final bottle of the evening. After that I turn out the lights and rock her. She is usually asleep by this time but not dead asleep. I'll lay her in her crib and, fingers crossed, she will stay there til morning (7am). We have gone through periods of night waking from the beginnging and just recently (within the past couple months) has she been sleeping through. When she did wake at night I found that it was usually because of her teething. In that case there really isn't anything you can do but wait it out. If, however, it's just a total refusal to sleep for no other reason than she wants her mom...I have used the controlled crying technique which pains me but it's not letting them cry it out and it has been successful. Basicially when she would wake up fussing (and I know it's fussing because it's like a low "wahhh" pause..."wahhhh"...more like whining than crying but sudden all the same) I would go in her room and say "shhhh" "shhhh", pat her back, hmmm, whatever you need to do to settle her down. But, I DO NOT pick her up and I do not speak words (no matter how bad I want to) because this insights a response which is what they want. When they are calm, leave the room. Next time, you just don't go in as quickly and keep repeating the same routine. They know you are there and that you love them but you are not going to pick them up and it's time to sleep. At first my daughter would cry and I'd do it a few more times. And then I started to notice that she would not cry but she would lie awake in her crib, silent. I realized it had started to work. Then she'd roll over and go to sleep. I would suggest being consistent with putting her back in her bed. I know it's tempting but don't bring her into your bed with you if you want her to get used to the crib. If she realizes that you are going to be there, that you are going to comfort her, but that eventually she's going to go back in her crib and she keeps getting that response than I bet she will stop waking up and settle herself. This has been my expirience with my child. I know every child is different and so is every parent but this worked for me. Good luck!! Give it a few nights and see what happens. ;-)

Larissa - posted on 01/16/2010




I have the same problem, the majority of the time she cries when I put her in it, she has to be put to sleep before she can go in it and she no longer sleeps through the night, which she done since she was 1 month old. I knew that time was to good to be true :( Now she ends up in our bed every night at either 1 or 4 am and I can't seem to find anything to help her :(

Kimberly - posted on 01/15/2010




My daughter went through not wanting to sleep in her bed, only her swing.
That only lasted a few days though.

My niece didn't want to sleep in her bed for a few weeks, then her parents bought a new matress and ever since then she has slept in her own bed. She is 9 months old.

Dee - posted on 01/14/2010




Hi Quiana, I made the cot for bella a fun place. SHe would play in there when i fold clothes in her room or tided it up. she eventually started to like it again, as she hated it for a while too. i still have to nurse her and put her down once she is asleep, but she is slowly self settling. i tried the control crying too, just made it worse.

i did alot of co-sleeping too which you may just have to do, baby just loves mummy!! and hey there is nothing wrong with that! I also changed the way she slept. made the matress softer by padding it underneath (maybe too hard). Also tried a little pillow tucked in the tummy and place on her side so she is hugging it sort of.. (did that with day sleeps only) was too nervous to leave overnight (i used the rolling support thing in the cot, that helped) but now too big , she just rolls over it. hope these suggestions help you. i know its so frustrating

Anna - posted on 01/13/2010




Try putting her down for bed before she gets overly tired. My (nearly) 6 year old NEVER cried when I put her down early, but would be inconsolable if I waited to long. My 9 month old is very similar, but sometimes still cries if I put him down early. I let him cry for about 5-7 minutes then I go pick him up and talk to him as soothingly as I can and rub his back and rock from side to side. I do this until he is calm for about 3 to 5 minutes, then lay him back down. This works about 80% of the time, but sometimes I have to do it again. Also, all 4 of my kids like it dark, and with a fan blowing in the room, and no musical toys making noise. Often it is hard for a baby to sleep if it is too quiet. Mine sleep through anything because I refuse to tip-toe around and whisper.

The co-sleeping lasted until my kids kicked the snot out of me around 6 months! I woke up with a tiny knee full force to my sensitive bits and never slept with any of them ever again!

Katherine - posted on 01/13/2010




Sounds like she's very attached, which is not a bad thing!! I co-sleep so now I don't have to worry about that. She still wakes up 3-4 times at night though. I gave in because I was so tired and I started the co-sleeping with my first. She was pretty much out of our bed at around 2. Now with my second I decided to take a different approach. I don't let her cry it out and she sleeps with me. Sometimes if you can't beat em, join em!!!

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