Am I a bad person for feeling like carrying my child around is bad for my health? I seriously feel like somone has tied all my back and neck muscles in knots.


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Lisa - posted on 02/10/2011




Don't feel bad about it it all! I have two girls 19 mos. apart and my neck, shoulders, and back are knotted from how much my three year old (she's very petite - only 29 lbs) wants to be carried. I say teach your child to walk independently while they are still young so you don't get stuck with a clingy three year old like I have! My 22 mo. old walks more freely than her big sister because I can't carry them both all of the time!

Pamela - posted on 02/09/2011




god gave them legs for a reason. lol yes i do carry my daughter every now and again but she likes walking so thats what she does. What i tend to do is take the pushchair with us so if she gets tired she can sit in that. If she wants cuddles then yes i will pick her up or i will sit down with her. I suffered for S.P.D while pregnant and i am still in pain from it.

Carisa - posted on 02/08/2011




I still carry my daughter because she is very clingy...of course, she is also very small (maybe 23 lbs), so it's not as bad as mom's with bigger babies. They don't need to be carried at this age and it is not good for your back to be carry so much weight around (it's not really any different than if you were overweight and carry extra pounds). The only time I feel it is necessary is when we are in a parking lot. I didn't let my daughter walk in a parking lot until she was almost 3. But I'm overprotective like that.

Renae - posted on 02/05/2011




I rarely carry my baby around. They can walk now you know! I sometimes carry him from the car to the nearest shopping trolley. If we will be doing a lot of walking around he goes in the pram.

Jennifer - posted on 02/01/2011




I'm almost five months pregnant and my son is 33 pounds and almost two. I still carry him around when necessary (if it's super cold & slippery outside, etc) and my back and hips pay the price. Thank goodness for chiropractors is all I can say!!

Katherine - posted on 01/31/2011




Not at all, our babies are getting heavy! It's very hard to say no, but I have 2 bulging discs and I definitely have to watch it. I put mine in a stroller to go to the store (much easier than chasing) or the buggy at the supermarket. Otherwise she's walking.

Meghan - posted on 01/30/2011




I don't think you are a bad person. If its hurting you, it can't be good for either of you. What if it does perm damage?? I would encourage the LO to walk as much as possible. My son loves to take my hand and lead me places. Try letting him lead you around when its safe. Of course, I do carry him in parking lots most of the time, but once we get to a side walk, I put him down.

One thing to consider are his shoes. My son was wearing what I thought were cool shoes, and I noticed they were getting snug. I bought him the next size up and all of a sudden he wanted to walk everywhere. I think the other ones were hurting his feet.

Pamela - posted on 01/30/2011




I hardly ever carry mine around we sit down for cuddles and we cuddles alot or I lay on the floor I will not carry them much we get moaning and such but my back is my core and and I already have issues.. I just say ohh no you are no heavy and will distract them with a tickle or we play a running game. my boys walked at 9 months and 8 months and were off exploring on there hand and knees and bellies long before that .. I think the fac tI didn't pick them up much was what made them sit early ( at 10 weeks) and they would go and get there own toys and things not long after that. my sons are 12 kilos and 15 kilos would you carry around a bag of that weight for long no way ! especially not if the bag can walk whahah

Christy - posted on 01/30/2011




It CAN be bad for your body. My son was 10 lbs 10 oz when he was born and before he could walk he was up to about 25. I started having really bad shoulder and back pain. Once he could walk, I encouraged him to walk as much as possible instead of carrying him (unless the situation was unsafe, ofcourse). I'm happy to report, my shoulder pain is gone. Nothing wrong with them walking sometimes.

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