Day Care or Family?

Denise - posted on 11/29/2010 ( 10 moms have responded )




I have a questions to all the moms and dads.... I'm going to school and planning on being full time. I was wondering is Day Care a good idea? Or is having family that can watch your child be better? I really would like ppl to respond.

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Amber - posted on 10/03/2011




I agree with some of the mothers, it depends on which family member and how opinionated that person is. Daycare is different, where as they don't get too involved in the home life of the child.

Monica - posted on 10/02/2011




We have our son in a home day care 3 days a week and family watches him two days a week. it gives him time to spend with grandma and also time with other kids. The home day care is nice because she only has 4-5 kids an gives them all attention. She's also much more reasonable than a day care since we only pay for the days/times he is there (not holidays) Plus, my family tends to be overbearing in telling me how to raise him so 1-2 days a week is plenty for them to see him.

Karleigh - posted on 09/28/2011




if your child is under the age of 18 months i would suggest you have family look after your little one, but if you child is 18months or over i think daycare is a good idea! It socializes your child and teaches them how to deal with seperation and what not. If you do decide to go with daycares , i would really look into all the liscensed daycares and stray away from home daycare(not that its a bad thing but there are alot of horror stories) and also make sure you check into all the people that work there and their procedures

Renae - posted on 12/16/2010




Depends on the family I guess. I would prefer to leave my baby with his grandmothers however next year it wont be possible and he will be going to Family Day Care 2 days a week and to my mum 1 day a week. I went with Family Day Care because I found a lady I really like, I agree with and like her parenting style and values and I think my baby will have lots of fun their with 2 other kids his age to play with.

Jennifer - posted on 12/13/2010




It depends on alot. And the previous posters seemed to hit on many of the points.

Can you split 2/3 days between family and day care? That way you aren't putting too much burden on one or the other. Your child is getting social interaction at day care. You'd save some money and give your family some quality time with your child.

Catharine - posted on 12/11/2010




I think it depends on your options and your child. Do you have access to good quality licensed day care? Will your family member be focused on your child during the day and providing direct attention? Also consider your child. Would they enjoy the social interaction and structured play at a daycare? Or would they be happier in a smaller more intimate setting?

My oldest is 21 months and has been in day care since he was 6 months. He loves the social interaction. He's very social and loves, loves, loves playing with other kids. He would not be as happy, I think, at home without the other kids and consistent activities. My youngest is just now approaching 6 months. She been at home with a nanny part time since she was 8 weeks. I have liked having her at home at this age because she's healthier (my oldest was sick for the first 4-5 months in day care almost constantly) and gets one-on-one attention from a wonderful girl who takes very good care of her. When she's one, we'll consider her needs and whether she'd be happier at home or school. But, while she's still a toddler I will want her to spend some time each week in a preschool setting so she can learn about that environment and have the social experience.

There isn't one answer that is always right--some daycares are not good, but many are giving children much better care than some children receive in their homes--it totally depends on the quality of your options.

Kara - posted on 12/10/2010




As long as the child(ren) is older than 1, I would try to split the week...2/3 days with family or daycare. Infants should def be with fam, but as they get older differences in opinions begin to get pronounced. I have heard some difficult stories about families disagreeing about things that a child should/shouldn't be able to do. Also, when a child is sick you will have to take him/her out of the daycare and depend entirely on family. I just always wanted my family to appreciate their time with my child and not feel like it is an obligation. Currently, my DH is home with my son and I STILL want to be able to control what goes on during the day...but can't :) But I have a babysitter on backup that I try to have him go to so he can "get out of the house" and play with others. HTH!

Carisa - posted on 12/02/2010




It really depends on the situation. I think family is a good idea as long as the person who is watching your child does not feel advantage of. My sister has my parents watch her kids all the time, and I definitely feel she is taking advantage of them, therefore I rarely ask them to watch my girls. On the other hand, a family member will be more invested in your child and may provide a more loving environment. I don't know if that helps.

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Family watching your child can be a great way to save money. But be prepared for difference of opinion and possible conflict over this - especially if the family member is a well meaning mother or mother in law. We all have different ways of raising our children, and you may find yourself in disagreement with your selected family member over choices you or they have made around child rearing. This may be worth the cost of a daycare to you- daycares have their own systems and policies in place already, and when you sign up for a daycare, you are agreeing to their approach. No such agreement exists between family members!

Katherine - posted on 11/30/2010




Oh family hands down. Daycare is so expensive. You don't know the people, it's loud. Family is way better IMO. You are lucky to have them :)

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