full time professional and full time mom

Katie - posted on 02/25/2010 ( 3 moms have responded )




Hello, I have two questions, I will post the first one here. My daughter was born on March 1, 2009. Is anyone else is this situation and how do you handle it all? I am a full time professional and full time mom (and cannot forget wife too). I have been able to reduce my hours at work to 32/week but I still have an hour long (both ways) commute each day. So I am gone about 9 1/2 hours a day. My husband works 40+ hours a week (he is a high school band director). Here is a typical day in the life of me:

5:05am wake up and get ready for work
6am wake baby up
6:30am leave for work
7:30am arrive at work
2pm leave work and exercise
3:15-3:30ish leave work location and drive to daycare
4pmish, pick baby up at daycare
4:30ish, arrive home
and this all happens between 4:30 and 7pmish at our house:
make dinner
feed baby dinner
play with baby
walk dog
somehow feed myself
put baby to bed so baby is in bed between 7:30-8pm.
If I didn't somehow get a shower in before she goes to sleep, I then take a shower.
9:30pm go to bed

Hardly see husband because of his 40+ hour work weeks.

Anyone else in a very busy life style situation and how do you handle it? This morning was a little difficult (and I hate it when I act this way). Baby wanted to be held by me and no one else. But I had to put her down (she then just crawled up to my leg and stood up holding onto my leg). My husband then took her but she was not happy about that. I hate doing that to her but I have to get ready for work somehow.

I tried the sling, didn't have success. I have the bjorn but it is difficult getting her in and out of that.

I really just wonder how one manages all of this.


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Kimberly - posted on 07/09/2012




I recently started working long days 4 days per week, and taking Fridays off. I can only do this during certain seasons, but it has made a big difference. When I had an infant, I brought him to work until he was 6 months old, then worked shorter daily hours for six days a week instead of five. I was fortunate in my choices.

Katie - posted on 02/25/2010




Hi Katie! It looks like our kiddies have the same birthday. I too am in a very similar situation where my husband and I both work full time (and then some) as well as have 2 dogs and our first son. I've found that by tag-teaming the chores with my husband, we seem to keep a pretty clean and well-run household (which took a while to figure out). Our roles have switched to where one of us will cook supper, the other will clean up; while each one of us is "working" on those chores, the other one spends time with our little guy. One of us gives him a bath near bedtime while the other takes care of the dogs. You just can't accomplish everything by yourself. I've found that before our boy was walking, putting him in the walker kept him pretty content (long enough for me to shower and get ready for the day) because he was able to practice walking and chasing after the dogs. Otherwise, it will be a little chaotic, showering with the doors open, etc. I've also found that if he simply can't be away from me, playing peek-a-boo behind the shower curtain while I'm sudsing up in the shower, seems to keep him giggling long enough for a quick shower.

I've also learned to buy a few random toys here and there and keep in a storage closet, so when times are difficult, I can pull out a new toy to catch his interest for a little while allowing me some time to get necessities accomplished.

Everyone struggles with the time-crunch and trying to spend enough quality time, so I'm sure you're doing a wonderful job and a regular routine will really help all of you. Having baby go to bed around the same time each night will also give you and your husband some bonding time. It's definitely tough when both parents work, but it's all worth it when you're able to provide great opportunities for them. I hope you find the right solution for your routine.

Jessica - posted on 02/25/2010




My schedule is pretty similar, and I too drive 45+ minutes too and from work... Right now, I'm not dealing too well with it. Lately my son has begun going to bed earlier, and therefore I don't have any time to play with him.

Because his birthday is coming up, the past week, this week and next week are full of planning for out of town family members, menus, decorations and rearranging the house for guests. My son's sick, and is going to bed around 6:30. Well yesterday I lost it a bit and began to cry a bit at the thought of not even getting to play with him for 10 minutes... I took him to the store when I picked him up from day care and he fell asleep in the car on the way home and was done for the night :(

I think what we have to realize now... Our scheudles are no longer our decisions.. We must MAKE it work, and decide what gets left off the list, and what gets pushed off to the weekends!

My husband's in the military- so his hours are crazy as well, so it's rough managing mommy, boss and wife... But you have to make it work, and you have to figure out how to enjoy it.

I wouldn't change a thing in this chaos I call my life, except for my son not being sick, and getting to spend more time with him. Other than that- the running around like a chicken with my head cut off- totally worth it when I get to see his 6 tooth smile :)

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