Where does your Child Sleep?

Julie - posted on 09/12/2010 ( 71 moms have responded )

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with you or in the crib ? A lot of people would say its an issue topic because it raises alot of questions ... So where dose your child sleep and is it such a big deal .? my daughter has a Crib it looks at us because she sleeps with me she must have stayed less than 4 months in there .. I don't see it as a problem but sooner or later shes gonna have to transition back to her own little bed as for now .. she can have it her way ////

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Chelsea - posted on 09/14/2010

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i dont think its much of a "big deal" it personal preference, there are pros and cons to both. if your nursing or your child falls asleep pr stays alseep longer with you it can be easier, it also is a good way to wake when your child needs you or keep an eye on the little one. On the other hand mom and dad need alone time and its hard to get it with baby in bed, you face the challenge of weaning them into there own bed or room, if one person cant sleep you all have trouble and last but not least some people cant sleep sound because they worry.

I am the worrier, my daughter has always had her own bed, first it was a bassinet because i was a nursing mom, she fell asleep in my bed twice and everytime i would wake up in a panic, after that for months i would wake in the middle of the night and not be able to remember if she was put in her bed and i would panic cause i thought i smothered her, then there have been a few times when she had fever or hit her head and i was afraid to put her in her bed by herself, i cant sleep, every move she makes wakes me up and i'm terrified about rolling onto her in the night,

because of this she doesnt sleep with us, she had her bassinet and soon as she slept thought the night at 4 months she went into her room in her crib. She now at 18 months is in her toddler bed with a partial rail. there was no struggle to get her to adjust because she always had slept alone.

Marcela - posted on 09/13/2010

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Our daughter sleeps with us because it's easier to nurse her and I love waking up with her next to me.

Emily - posted on 09/16/2010

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Crib in her own room;-) I learned my lesson with my first one and we were lucky we have had no problems...

Anna-May - posted on 09/14/2010

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My 18month old sleeps in her own bed unless she is sick, and when the earthquake hit us she slept in our bed for a week but went straight back into hers. Laylah has a cot with no sides and hasnt fallen out yet, and shes been in it for quite a long time. May

Carol - posted on 09/13/2010

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My son sleeps in a pack n play. He used to sleep on a roll out bed but my daughter and me share the same bed and my husband slept with us as well, but he decided we should have the bed and took our sons full roll out bed. My son dosent mind, and neither do i, he dosent wake up and come to me at night any more.

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Jenni - posted on 08/09/2011

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When we came home form hospital she went straight into her cot in her room. She didn't do alot of crying - in fact non when she was born so she didn't remove the mucus out of her. The next night we had her in with us because we were worried about her choking. After two weeks it was off into her room in her cot. At about 18mths when she could climb safely she is and still is in a big bed (adult single) in her room and never looked back! So nice to have your own space and that includes the child lol

Jessie - posted on 08/09/2011

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My daughter whom is almost 19 months sleeps in her own room in her crib. It has been this way since the day she was brought home from the hospital. You are the only one that knows what is right for your daughter and your family. You will know when the right time to transition her back to her own little bed. Good luck.

Casey - posted on 08/04/2011

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my child wakes up in the middle of the night and will SNEAK into my bed. I will wake up in the morning, roll over and there he is sleeping next to me with his feet in my face! He turned two in April. Some nights I'll wake up but most nights I just sleep through him crawling into bed with me. He has a crib converted into a toddler bed, but doesn't seem to like it. His door to his bedroom adjoins with my room so it's not like he's down the hall. At loss of what to do? lol

Casey - posted on 08/04/2011

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my child wakes up in the middle of the night and will SNEAK into my bed. I will wake up in the morning, roll over and there he is sleeping next to me with his feet in my face! He turned two in April. Some nights I'll wake up but most nights I just sleep through him crawling into bed with me. He has a crib converted into a toddler bed, but doesn't seem to like it. His door to his bedroom adjoins with my room so it's not like he's down the hall. At loss of what to do? lol

Trina - posted on 04/18/2011

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My little guy hated the crib too! He slept there for a couple months then he started sleeping on a queen size matress on the floor (so he wouldnt fall). Now he has his own big boy twin bed and he does great in it!! He is 2 now.

Miranda - posted on 04/09/2011

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My son has slept in his bed a total of 4 times since he tuned one. He takes naps in there. He sleeps with us every night. When he is sick I sleep with him on the couch. My husban hates it. I would love for him to sleep in his own bed. Ive tryed to get him to sleep in there but he will for a couple hours and he wakes up scraming.

Leah - posted on 11/10/2010

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My son loves his crib. Is it wrong of me to let him sleep there till he outgrows it?

Ambyr - posted on 11/10/2010

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Both of my kids sleep in their cribs. That is the only place I can get my daughter to sleep and my son is too small to sleep anywhere else.

Sarah-Anne - posted on 10/21/2010

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twin mattress on the floor across from her toddler bed in her own room. she usually sleeps thru the night. we don't like her in our bed because she is a restless sleeper and we end up getting kicked or punched or head-butted.

Mickaela - posted on 10/21/2010

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My daughter is 19 months old, from 4 months she slept in a cot in her own room, we bought the angelcare monitors with sensor mat which are fantastic. Then at 15 months she went into her little toddler bed and she loves it - straight to bed at 7pm an wakes up at 6.30am. She wouldnt sleep in our bed even if we wanted her to, but quite frankly I like my sleep so wouldnt want her sleeping in their anyway. Sleeping alone gives her some independance, She can get upo in the monrin and quite happily play with her toys... which she loves.

Robbyn - posted on 10/18/2010

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Uh oh! My son slept in his crib, in his own room until he was 10 and a half months old. He got very sick so he began sleeping with us. We moved into a bigger place, equipped with a toddler bed and he slept in it for the first few nights, at first doing really well then he would wake up during the middle of the night, crying. Now, we have a Cars couch that pulls out into a bed (with pillow) that he sleeps on that is in our room, at the foot of our bed. I figure this is one step closer to getting him back in his own bed, in his own room. Some nights, though, he will sleep with us. It mostly depends on how exhausted I am by the time he falls asleep. HA!

Amanda - posted on 10/18/2010

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my daughter is now 19 months, shes slept in her own crib since she was 9 months....in her own room. I slept with her in my bed 1st 9 months but gave it up! i miss it, but love having my bed to myself :)

Maegan - posted on 10/16/2010

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Amarra has never slept in bed with us.. not because I didn't try either! She has just always been most comfortable in her crib. Even now that she is getting older, she will ONLY sleep in her crib and occassionally she falls asleep in her car seat. On days where I'm super tired (like right now as I'm in my first trimester with baby #2), I try to get her to take her nap with me in my bed and she just thinks it's time to play and climb around on the bed! But when I put her in her own crib, she says "nigh nigh" and she curls right up and goes to sleep! When she was super young I would put her in bed with me to take a nap and she would sleep for a few minutes then wake up and be a bit cranky... so it's never worked! She just likes her bed, I guess!!!

Michelle - posted on 10/07/2010

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I was warned by a friend of mine, NEVER LET YOUR SON SLEEP IN OUR BED! I listened, and I have a great sleeper...He is 19 months old and takes a 3-4 hour nap durngthe day and sleeps at elast 10 hours through the night...I am so glad I listened...Everyone I know who lets their child sleep in their bed, NEVER gets them out...Good Luck!

Krystal - posted on 10/01/2010

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Definately in his own room & cot. We all sleep so much sounder and solider.

Nikki - posted on 09/29/2010

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i was worried about that same thing with both my kids, i ended up putting pillows down to buffer their fall. best way for them to learn is to fall but i like to minimize the damages caused, my daughter fell a coupletimes but after a week i moved the pillows. my sone never fell out of bed, after 2 or 3 days i moved the pillows

Nikki - posted on 09/29/2010

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i have a now 4 yr old but up til she was a year old she would go down in her crib and when she woke id put her in bed with me, at about a yr old she was gettin too big so that it was uncomfortable for my husband and i to sleep so i tried to crib train her then adn it was horrible, she acted like she was in a jail, screaming all thru the night for weeks until i switched her to a toddler bed and sorta conned her with picking out her bed set. my son never slept with me. i had the cradle in my room, when he would wake up i would feed him and put him back in the cradle, when he got too big i switched him straight into the crib and from the crib to a toddler bed without ever once having a sleeping issue with him.... my daughter still at 4 tries to come and sleep in my be with me, my son wont cuddle at all... personally it worked better sleepin seperately cuz i like my bed space and sleeping with my husband, but its a personal choice, how long are you willing to have a kids sleeping with you? then add 2 or 3 years... i seperated my daughter 3 yrs ago and still have to argue with her about sleeping with me, but i wish my son would cuddle now and then...

Amanda - posted on 09/28/2010

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My son gave up his crib and sleeps on a mattress on the floor (his toddler bed is in box still, not yet put together since he decided this all on his own one night lol). He almost never sleeps with us.

Melanie - posted on 09/28/2010

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My daughters both sleep in their own room (together) and have done since they were 9 months and 13 months respectively. But they also come in bed with us if they wake up in the night, they usually go back to sleep quite quickly that way. If they are ill they sleep with us but we never have any probs putting them back in their own room again. I don't think their is any risk of rolling on your baby unless you are drugged or drunk. Do you ever roll on top of your husband? or falll out of bed? We are conscious of where we are even when we are asleep. When they were tiny they would sleep in a space between our pillows, so their bodies were level with our faces - it would have been impossible to roll on top of them without doing some strange acrobatic position in my sleep!

Jessica - posted on 09/27/2010

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My little girl sleeps in her own bed in her own room. I'd like to get her out of the crib and into a toddler bed, but lately every night she wakes up with her feet sticking out of the bed, and I'm too afraid that she'll fall out if she doesn't have the protection up there! She didn't last 6 weeks in the bassinet. She slept so well in her own bed in her own room that we encouraged the change, lol. I have a little boy coming in December, let's hope that he's as easy to get to sleep by himself as his big sister was!

Chantelle - posted on 09/27/2010

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my daughter sleeps in her toddler bed in her own room and really happy about it, i just put her in bed at bed time say goodnight with few kisses and she sleeps :)

Victoria - posted on 09/26/2010

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Isaiah sleeps in his own bed, and has been sleeping in his own bed since about 12 months old. I converted his crib around 12 months and put a body pillow down right in front of the bed so that if he rolled off, it's be a short drop. We LOVE it and Isaiah LOVES even more. He's able to come in our room when he wakes in the wee hours of the night, he walks across the house and crawls into our bed. Much better than the 2:30-4:30 am crying wake-up call and having to go comfort him. This also allows him to feel more secure, because if something is wrong, or if he's scared, he doesn't have to wait for us to wake-up and come to check on him. I also love being able to say "It's time for bed Isaiah" and he's able to go and crawl into his own bed!

Jill - posted on 09/26/2010

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My daughter Jaelynn who is 18 months old has been sleeping by herself since the day I brought her home from the hospital. She has been in her toddler bed since 15 months old. She has her own room and everything. The only time she slept with me was after I got hit in the face while holding her and she was haaving night terrors all the time..

Erin - posted on 09/25/2010

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My son slept with me for the first nine months. His medical problems were really intense the first few months he came home, so it just made life a little easier. When we moved to our new house though, he started sleeping in his own room. He's just too big to sleep with me now. We do cuddle a lot though, especially after he wakes up from a nap or he's drinking a bottle. :)

Claire - posted on 09/25/2010

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As im a single mum my 18mnth old son sleeps in with me i have tried him in his cot but find he wakes more often! I actually love him sleeping in with me and all the cuddles. I dont see there is a problem with it at all its only a laying place which all the rest of us have. He still has his morning routine set in place and everything is normal. xx

Marcela - posted on 09/23/2010

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Nicely put, Kyt Demm . :)

My husband once told me that our daughter should start sleeping in her own room. I told him, "We're going to send her to her room but the dog gets to sleep in our room?" He totally agreed!

Kyt - posted on 09/23/2010

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With us. We'd rather our daughter was attached to her parents and humans rather than stuffed toys and fancy gadgets used to detach them from us. She has never slept by herself and it isn't an issue. We don't sleep seperatly so why should she, especially as the youngest and neediest family member at this point?

Stacey - posted on 09/23/2010

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My son was sleeping in his cot bed in a shared room with his brother, but wen my little boy turned 18 months i took the sides off his cot to make it into a bed and put up a bed guard to stop him falling out but every night he wont go to sleep unless he's in the middle of me and his dad which in my eyes is fine because as soon as he's asleep i put him in his own bed but every night without fail he just comes straight back into our bed. i dont see a problem with where your baby sleeps as long as you and ur baby are happy :)

Charlene - posted on 09/23/2010

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my son sleeps in his toddler bed. some nights he wakes and will come to me and ask to climb up and i let him.

Barbara - posted on 09/23/2010

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London sleeps in her crib sometimes but she constantly wakes up throughout the night crying and have to sleep the rest of the night with me. I think that i may have to change her crib mattress, it might be too hard for her, or she might just be spoiled to sleeping next to me. Im going to try changing her crib mattress and see if there is a change to her sleeping habits. I really need her to sleep all night in her own bed because it interrupts me and my sleeping habits plus she is not the best person to sleep with, i get kicked, slapped, and she did fall off the bed once.

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holly is nearly 18 months old,she has been sleeping in her own bedroom since june 2009 when she was just 3 months old..when she was no longer sleeping in her moses basket we decided to put her in a cot in her own bedroom..we have never looked back since.it is great...

Maria - posted on 09/22/2010

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my son slept in a bassinet next to my bed till he wouldn't fit, then he slept in his pack n' play.. when we moved, he would not go to sleep unless we were with him.. Recently,we just got him back in the pack n' play next to the bed.. And it really isn't him as much as it is me... He also has a beautiful crib that he has never used.. But very shortly here we are going to get him to sleep in that (converted to the toddler bed)

Amanda - posted on 09/22/2010

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Our son sleeps in his crib ever since he was about 6 months old. He likes having his space. If I try to bring him in bed with us he gets cranky because it's too crowded I guess hahaha

Keira - posted on 09/22/2010

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We have our 18 month old son in bed with us, he has been since birth. We have never experienced any difficulties, we all sleep well and his bond with us is stong. It has also allowed me to continue breastfeeding him as a toddler.

Kelly - posted on 09/22/2010

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My 18 month old sleeps with me. His crib is in my room, he will start out in there, then after about 3-4 hours he's up and wanting to come to bed with me. My husband and I are divorced so I just lay pillows on the other side of the bed so he doesn't roll off. I will be getting him his own toddler bed in a couple months and just put it next to mine. I think it's more of a preference as to whether they should sleep with you or not. What ever gives them the best sleep is how I see it. He has no problems napping in his crib.

Caragh - posted on 09/22/2010

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I have 3 kids, 13, 11 & 18mths ... all 3 have slept in Mum & Dad's bed since birth with no issues & the 2 older kids both graduated into big beds of their own without any complications or sleepless nights before they were 2. They were the kind of kids that would sleep anywhere and it was our choice more than their need that hed them in our bed. Our 18 month old is a completely different story. He will not sleep without either Mummy or Daddy .... EVER! Not even for daytime naps. The other kids would nap on the bed on their own during the day, or would sleep soundly until we went to bed later in the evening. Our 18 month old has slept through the night only 1 time outside of our bed. We are trying to get him to sleep in his big boy bed, but he does not care for it & screams the second we place him in bed asleep or awake. Not only does he have to sleep with us, he HAS to have his hands touching my breasts, which is very frustrating. I used to be an advocate for sleeping in, but I would give anything to go back in time and put Tevin in his bassinet or cot instead!!

Molly - posted on 09/22/2010

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I might be the weird one in this community! I have a 3 year old who started sleeping thru the night at 2 months and was in her own crib and room from that point on. My second daughter is now 18months, we didnt know we were pregnant so when she was born in our bathroom at home St patty's day morning we let her sleep in the bed with us. Ive tried getting her in the crib as we have a full sized bed and its cramped with just my hubby and I. He wants her in bed with us and I dont! i brought her toddler bed in and put it in our room but she still nurses to fall asleep and then she wakes up when she goes in her bed. I have a problem with the family bed thing simply because I feel a disconnect with my husband and I.Sex is out of the picture unless we attempt closet or floor sex and it ALWAYS happens that she wakes up at the worst possible time! Any suggestions would help!!!

Deanna - posted on 09/22/2010

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My 18th month old son has slept in his crib from day one. Til he was about 7 months he slept in a crib in the room with us and now he's in his own room. He LOVES his crib. I tried putting him in our bed one night when he was really sick and he couldn't get comfortable. After about an hour of trying to get him to sleep I gave up and put him back in his crib and he was asleep in 2 minutes. I guess it's all about routine.

Sally - posted on 09/22/2010

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We have almost always been on the move, either between countries or shifting apartments since my daughter was born, so it was both easier to let her sleep with us in our bed. But then she absolutely refused to sleep in the cot we got her. I would put her into the cot when she fell asleep and she would immediately wake up screaming and demand to be brought onto our bed. Finally, I got my husband to remove one of the cot sides and brought the cot flush against my side of the bed, so that it formed a sort of extension of our bed, but with the remaining three sides still enclosing it. She loved it right from the start, and even if I put her down on my bed now, she will roll from there onto her cot and sleep happily there.

Dorsha - posted on 09/21/2010

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My son has a toddler bed, he usually would rather sleep on the floor but he sleeps in his room

Mary - posted on 09/21/2010

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My daughter has slept in a crib since the day she was born. She hasn't known anything else. And when she sees her crib, she knows it is bed time or nap time. There is never any confusion. We just lay her down, turn off the lights, and leave (after our longer bed time routine of songs and prayers). She falls right to sleep.

Kerry - posted on 09/20/2010

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my son use to sleep in his crib for both the nights and for naps. since we got back from a 3 week vacation in hawaii he wakes up in the middle of the night crying, and when we have tried to leave him in the crib, he gets so worked up that he ends up throwing up. he ends up in bed with us anywhere between 11pm and 4am. i tried giving him benedryl with his last bottle of the night, which helps him sleep later, but i don't want to use it on a normal basis. i am hoping he will get passed this stage sometime soon, and we all get a normal night's sleep again!

Brandie - posted on 09/20/2010

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my son sleeps in his crib in his own room..he has slept there since he was 4 months old..he does sleep with us if he is sick so i can keep and eye on him

Rachel - posted on 09/20/2010

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We LOVE co sleeping!! My little gal goes to sleep in her crib right next to our bed but when she wakes up in the middle of the night I bring her in to our bed. We LOVE the snuggle time!

Eleni ( Helen ) - posted on 09/20/2010

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My son sleeps in his cot and has done from the beginning I used to put him in the bed with me when I was breastfeeding I don't have any problems with him wanting to get in the bed with me and my husband now and he is a very independent toddler who is very happy and content I read in some peranting book that it is very impotant to get your baby into a good bed time routine from the very beginning although it is most proberly the hardest time and of course when your baby is just days or weeks old it is very hard to ignoe their cry but it is very important. If your baby has been bathed fed and got a clean bottom they will be fine in thei cot yes they will cry sometimes for ages but you got to be persistant until they realise its bed time and they will get used to their bed time routine and before you know it they will be knacked by 7pm and wanting to go to bed and out like a light come 8pm its brilliant and its better for all of you in the long run and you get more me time and relaxed evenings... my son is 18 months old now and in bed asleep by 8pm and wakes up at 7am every morning and is the most happiest baby I know.. im sue that what most mummy want and would love you can do it just be persistant and you shall have..

Cassandra - posted on 09/20/2010

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My daughter sleeps in her crib, at the foot of our bed. When she cries I let her come on the bed with us and that just gives her a burst of ennergy to terrorize us and get into everything she's not supposed to. She has figured out how to bail out of the crib, so we keep a comforter at the end of the bed so she doesn't hit her head on our bed frame. When she is in her crib, she plays and reads and laughs at strange things.

Zamah Lebang - posted on 09/20/2010

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My son sleeps in his coutbed, but same bedroom as me, am preparing his own crib he has to move!!

Limpho - posted on 09/20/2010

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I believe the best thing to do is whatever helps you as a mother sleep well at night. My son has been sleeping in his cot since he was 3 months old, as I was uncomfortable with sleeping with him coz he rolls around a lot in his sleep and could fall off the bed while i was asleep. Him sleeping in his cot also aided in introducing sleep training so now at 18 months he sleeps for a straight 12 hours without waking up, so that way everyone is well rested. I am dreading him moving to his own bedroom though, as I will probably wake up countless times to check on him.

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