am i failing as a mother???

Chandra - posted on 07/06/2012 ( 5 moms have responded )




I am a single momma and trying hard to survive. i feel like I'm failing sometimes because i was doing so good before i got pregnant. i was even taking care of my second cousin's first child for her in every way. now i have my own baby and i no longer have my own place or a job. I'm still in school and now live with my aunt. she says i have to pay rent not and get a job but she wont help me by keeping my baby even though i keep her two kids regularly. besides the stress for her well-being and my grades I'm at a loss. i know i can do it and make it out but this shit is hard. i feel like when i leave her with my other aunt to go to class for two hours and she cries so bad I'm hurting her and failing her even more because she is so attached. but she is so bright and dances all the time and wants me to look at everything and make animal sounds with her books. i love baby with all my heart and even more so since I'm the only adopted child of my recently deceased mother and that makes her my only known blood relative. am i failing as a mother because i cant provide for her like i want in a steady way??


Antoinette - posted on 07/09/2012




Your in school because you want better for you and her! that Is not failing that is love. Though you cant give her what you want financially right now it seems you are giving her the love she needs. So no i dont think you are failing. Stay strong you will get through it and im sorry your Aunt is not more supportive with you. On a side note Im an independent distributor (my own boss) if you are interested in becoming your own boss (but still having a full team of support let me know ps you dont need to worry about a baby sitter. It wont make you rich but if you work your business like a business you will succeed) I dont wanna spam you so just message me and i will respond asap if you want. Either way keep your head up mama you will get through this


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Workingmom - posted on 11/13/2012




Of course not!! come on, you wanna earn for her and giver her a better life. i know it feels sad to leave her back when your are off for work at school, but that's like it lady!!! i am a working mother myself and go through my baby's crying everyday when i leave for work but believe me she gets normal as soon as you are out of her sight. Now don't feel sad and play a go-getter attitude. Good luck sweetie :)

Emily - posted on 09/08/2012




Hell no! Honestly, you sound like an absolute amazing, strong woman. I'm so sorry for your loss as well...I couldn't imagine, but the fact that you are still standing strong and also a single mother is so inspiring. I'm also a student and I was working 14+ a day, sometimes 6 days a week and I became numb. I would come home, have to clean, cook, put baby to bed, etc (my fiance works too, but he wasn't exactly helpful at the time). I was a straight A student and I was failing classes (they were online courses too). I quit my job and finally graduated from college and it helped tremendously. My son needed me and I felt horrible for being away from him for so much, but I did it for my family. You WILL get through this. Having a child is not easy, and all of us mothers feel that we are not giving our children enough.

Tina - posted on 07/17/2012




The fact you care and you want a better life for you and your daughter says you're not failing. Maybe you just need to look into options where you can have your daughter with you when you study. I'm in Australia I everywhere is different but they have a play group at the school where mothers can study. Keep your chin up.

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