How do I communicate what i need to my husband!?

Brittney - posted on 11/21/2011 ( 1 mom has responded )

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I have been down this road for an awful long time, and i feel that i have done all that i can do to let my husband know that i need his help! We have two young girls together, and we both work full time. We have been married for almost 2 years now, but we had our oldest daughter who is now 4 when we were in our senior year of high school. Our youngest daughter is now 9 months old.
We own our home, and it comes with the usualy upkeep and chores, but i feel like most often it is up to me to get anything done. i do the dishes, laundry, grocery shopping, running the girls around, errands, bills, cleaning the house, feeding both children, ect. I have to beg for his help, and he always gets mad, says i'm b*tching, and it always ends in a fight. He is often doing whatever he wants to do, such as stuff in his garage, watching a movie in our room alone, while im downstairs with the kids, or playing some video game. I know that he sees me constantly running around with stuff to do, but he very seldom offers to help. Needless to say, i am stressed out, and i am resentful of him. I feel like i have no patience for that stuff, and i feel like a single mom with 3 kids, instead of 2! It shouldnt be like this, and i know that most relationships are not like this. So either he changes, or i leave; thats really where i feel like i am right now. i just cant handle it anymore!
Advice?

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Chelsea - posted on 11/30/2011

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im kind of going through the same. my husband never wants to help with our kids, he always want me to drop everything at the snap of his finger to do wat he wants. he never helps with laundry, the kids, cooking, cleaning. i dont work and he does and he always makes the excuse that im the mom and it is my responsability to do all that stuff. he doesnt want me to go out for a few hours every now and again with my girlfriends and if i do i always have to take the kids but when he wants to go do something he dont have to take them :( he always wants to work til late at night so when he gets home he eats, watches tv for an hr or so then goes to bed. he gets mad at me if i ask him if we can go out for a few hours just him n i and he never wants to but wen his friends ask him to he drops everything and goes with them. im not sure wat to do anymore!!!??? :'(

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