Potty Training. Help! Any advice?

Jacqui - posted on 08/10/2009 ( 21 moms have responded )

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We are struggling with potty-training my two-year-old daughter. We have tried offering M&M's for every time she sits on the potty, we have tried bribing, I even tried scolding for not using the potty. Nothing seems to work. Any advice?

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Sarah - posted on 08/26/2009

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It does help to use real underwear. If they have an accident, have them help you clean it up, but don't scold. Give a reward (one m&m) for staying clean & dry for 20-30 minutes at a time (set a timer, if needed). Give a reward when they go potty (2 m&m's) and when they poop (3 m&m's). This way, there is a focus on staying clean & dry as well as doing the deed in the appropriate place. Remind them that there is no reward for going potty anywhere other than their toilet. For the first couple of weeks, reminding them every 30 min or so is crucial. Then, they start to feel the need to go and will eventually tell you. I have successfully PT 2 boys at the age of 2 with this method.
For more helpful tips, read "Potty Training 1-2-3" by Dr. Ezzo. It's wonderful and goes into more details. Both of my boys were PT within a few days!!! Yeah!
As for naps, start them out in a pull-up during naps. When they are dry for 3 days in a row, move to underwear, making sure they don't drink a bunch before nap & they go potty right before getting in bed. (A plastic liner under the sheet is a must). As for night-time, this is learned sometimes much later. However, limit fluids around 6pm to just a sip of water. At bed-time, have them go potty. I had my boys in diapers at night until they could go 3 days in a row and wake up dry. Then I move them to pull-ups at night. When they've had a week or so of dry mornings in a row, then I move them to underwear. This is more physiological rather than learned. I hope that helps!

Michelle - posted on 08/18/2009

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I tried potty training my two yr old daughter at 18 months and had no luck at all so we tried again at 2 and had all the luck in the world. What seemed to work best for her was letting her run around naked as a jay bird.

Dawn - posted on 08/13/2009

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I have just finished potty training my two year old daughter, i feel the best thing to do is not put anything on from the waist down for a couple of days, leave the potty in the room and ask every couple of minutes if she needs to go. I also went everywhere with her potty (even to the supermarket). I made a star chart for my daughter and she loved it when she got a star every time she went on the potty.

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Hema - posted on 09/03/2009

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I have taken tips from an article Potty Training in 3 days....didn't follow their plan the whole way, but it seems to have worked for me.

They have recommended leaving the child totally naked waist down and enclosing yourself in a kitchen area or any area that's easy to clean in case of accidents, but believe me once they are naked, they do tell, the feeling of having to go is much stronger and their is nothing to protect it below. I have followed this plan since the last 6 months and it has really worked....I actually saw the results the first day itself and he is almost 80% trained, now I am working on putting an underwear and still tell me which is working 50% of the time. Now I am using diapers only when he sleeps and while going out(that's for my convenience).

Ivy - posted on 09/02/2009

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I take my two year old daughter potty with me every time I go. More often than not she will sit on her potty too. She gets 1 treat for trying and 2 for going potty. She has only gone 3 times in the past few months but I'm not pushing her. A few days ago she took her diaper off and peed on her potty without even telling me!! I'm just letting her lead the way, getting VERY excited when she does go. She even tells me she's proud of me when I use the potty. Have patience, they all learn at their own pace. Good luck!!

Jenn - posted on 09/01/2009

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When we bought Lily panties, we called them her big girl panties and let her pick out the ones she wanted and told her she could only wear them if she went pee on the potty and it seemed to help alot.

Lia - posted on 09/01/2009

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I have my daughter in pull ups, and I think they're just as bad as diapers! I dont think she can really tell when she's wet, or doesn't mind it as much. She has no problem sitting on the potty, it's more a problem with going. And I got her "pretty panties" but Im afraid to let her walk around in just those n drench the place. I dont know what to do!!!

Jenn - posted on 08/31/2009

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With Lily it was a little frustrating at first cuz she would tell me too late when she had to go. But i decided to not put pull-ups on her and just put her in undies (made her feel like a bigger girl) and she started going good. Had a few accidents but they soon ended and she has been going by herself ever since.

Nicky - posted on 08/28/2009

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I Jacqui i also had the same problem with my 2year old boy. What i did is since he's the only child i took him to my parents house where theirs alot of kids around same age or preferebly older. Everytime the older ones would go to the loo, id made sure he also goes along and watches what the others does. I did that for about 2 days and the 3rd he refused to wear a nappy coz he wanted to copy what the others were doing. Since thn he has'nt weared a nappy ever since.



I dnt knw if it'll work for you but it definitly worked for me now he's nappy free and he evens wakes up at night to go to the loo...

Sarah - posted on 08/26/2009

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Ladies! You must all read "Potty Training 1-2-3" by Dr. Ezzo. Potty training does not have to be hard or frustrating.
Both my boys were trained w/in 2-3 days right after their 2nd b-days.
The focus is to reward for staying clean & dry!!! Reward for going potty, too....but the focus is staying clean & dry. This will change everything for you! I promise!!
Set a timer---a must. Every 20-30 minutes, take them to the potty (making sure they drink juice/water in between). They will begin to feel the need to go on their own - can take a couple of weeks, however. YOU have to take him/her to the potty, even if they say they don't have to. Sing, read a book, etc....but make her/him sit on the potty every 20-30 min for about 2-3 minutes at a time. Hope that helps! Get the book!!!

Jessie - posted on 08/26/2009

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I think we're all feeling the same way. My son was very excited at first about his potty, but then he refused to go near it for a couple weeks. We've just started again, and it's going pretty well. I leave him naked with access to the potty and just keep asking as a reminder. It seems to be working, most of the time. He likes the pull ups but when they're on, he tells us he needs to go after it's done. so... i haven't been using them too often. our hardest part is getting him to use it if he's busy playing, especially outside. I really don't know the best way to go about it but good luck to everyone who's in the process!

User - posted on 08/26/2009

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I learned with my oldest that "you can lead a child to the potty, but you cannot make him/her pee or poo." Great suggestions above :) I just had to wait it out with him, so I'm not pushing my 2 year old girl too hard. I take her with me to the potty, we're trying pull-ups, she even wore some underwear yesterday, but we're just taking it one day at a time.

Jenny - posted on 08/25/2009

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With my daughter we bought the potty chair when she was about 18 months. We bought a chair and a seat for the toilet. I started out by putting her on every morning when she woke up. If she went we would make a very big deal out of it. She would not go potty on the chair, but she wanted to sit on the big potty. When she started taking off her own diaper and putting on a pull up we decided she was ready. Last month we started putting her in undies. The first three days she had accidents all day long. I was about ready to give up and the fourth day she told me she had to go potty and that was it. She is totally potty trained, but she won't poo in the toilet. She is fasinated by it, and she wants to try, but she will not put out. Any suggestions on that end would be appreciated.

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Hi there :) I'm potty training my youngest son now too, and it's the same as it was for my other two kids ... a slow process, with lots of little pauses and slumps in the progress! I think you really have to let the child decide when they're ready. The kids that are crying when you want them to potty or that don't even want to sit on it aren't ready yet, and forcing them will only make it take longer. Letting them get comfortable with the idea is the first step ... sit their potty beside your toilet, and take them with you to the bathroom, so they can be like mommy .... praise older siblings loudly and excitedly where the little one can see and hear, basically do anything you can to make pottying a big deal and encourage them to want to do it. And if they are telling you too late, after they've already peed, it's okay, still take them to the potty and let them sit, see if they can tinkle a little more, and praise them for that effort, is my best advice.

Fingers crossed that we all get our babies trained soon and can say goodbye to diapers!!

Ginger - posted on 08/16/2009

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Quoting Jaime:

iv tried potty training my 2year old son, but he wont even sit on the potty! HELP! x



Take the potty away for a week or two and then bring it back out and start fresh.  If you can get him to sit on it then be sure to praise him for sitting on the potty.  Then work on the going pee and poop part.  Take baby steps.  Good Luck!

Sarah - posted on 08/16/2009

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ive just potty trained my 2 yr old girl... it took her 3 days and shes even dry through the night which i didn't expect so soon! everytime she had a wee on her potty she got treats and it worked

Kristilyn - posted on 08/15/2009

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I have introduced the concept to my little girl. She will sit on the potty but she has yet to put anything on the potty. She also does not tell me before if it all. However, I must admit I have not tried to consistently put her on the potty so for the next week I am going to step it up and see how that goes. I was considering letting her go bottomless but I am afraid of her making a big one somewhere and me not knowing it.

Christina - posted on 08/15/2009

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my 2yr old son was showing so much interest in his potty. He would be so excited to pull down his pants and sit on the potty everytime i was in the bathroom, so I thought i'd try training him. I got the pullups and began putting him on the potty periodically and asking him if he needs to use it and now he hates it! he cries when i ask him if he has to go and when i ask him to sit on his potty! what did i do wrong?

Jaime - posted on 08/15/2009

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iv tried potty training my 2year old son, but he wont even sit on the potty! HELP! x

Jacqui - posted on 08/12/2009

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I'm kind of in the same boat. Jaidyn will tell me when she has to go but it is usually too late. It is starting to get really frustrating. Let me know how it goes next week and if you come up with anything that works well.

Jenny - posted on 08/11/2009

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I am just starting to try to potty train my 2 year old, and most of the time she will sit on the potty and other times she will not, I have not come down with a good system yet, but she has gotten to the point that she will tell me when she has to go sometimes. I am going to really start next week when the rest of mine are in school full day and I have more time to consentrait on potty training.

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