How do I ween my 19 month old from a bottle at night?

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My little boy who is 19 months still wakes up in the middle of the night wanting a bottle. He also needs a bottle still to go to bed at night. I give him sippie cups during the day and he takes them just fine. How can I get him to stop?

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Conni - posted on 01/09/2010

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Apparently, I'm a mean mom. My son was sleeping through the night without a bottle at 8 weeks. Now, only when he's had a rough day, I give him a sipping cup with water in it.

Lisa - posted on 01/09/2010

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I usually try rocking and holding, singing to my boy first then put him back down. If he is persistant that he wont go down i leave him in the crib(crying or not) and go down and get him a bottle of water, if he's really fussy I may put a tiny bit of apple juice but mostly water. He may not like it at first but I reassure him "drink your drink" and i leave him withit. If the whole process take 20 minutes or so he should be tired enough to go back to sleep. My grandmother always said once they know they are not going to get any milk they won't wake up as often! Good luck!

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do you use silicone or any soft top sippy cups during the day?



I have b/g 20 month old twins...my daughter never liked pacifiers, but would soothe her sucking desires with a bottle...she preferred empty bottles and if their was liquid in them when (she was just looking for the comfort) she would sit up so she wasnt forced to drink...anyway, when we graduated to sippy cups during the day I went for all silicone/soft tops...she quickly learned how to get her comfort from these as well...so I continued to allow the empty bottle at night (previous post is sooo true about how bad it is for teeth...google bottle carries and it will freak you out)...but I switched the sippy cups during the day to all hard tops...she was NOT a happy camper for a few days and even refused to drink and threw her cup on the floor a few times, but within a week she became used to the hard tops and would take sips like it was a cup...so then I started letting her take the hard top cups to bed and not a bottle...literally 3 semi rough nights later she started tossing it out of the crib SILENTLY...so long story short lol, if you're using soft top sippy cups, try weening him to the hard ones during the day, then at night ... he will probably give it up on his own...if nothing else, only water at night...and I know we are all trying to foster independent little people, but remember, if your son is having a hard time giving it up its b/c it is his comfort zone and not necessarily a "must" just yet :)

Kortney - posted on 01/08/2010

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i agree with Michelle, i started getting my son off the bottle at 12 months old, he would only have one at nap and bed time, then just at bed time, but i was 6 months pregnant & got put in the hospital for a month in june and my mom had to give him the bottle, then i had my daughter July 21, and 2 days after i came home from the hospital i threw all the bottles away, and gave him a soft nipple sippy for naps and bed time. he still gets them for naps and bed time, and the hard ones during the day, and he does fine!

Jenn - posted on 01/07/2010

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My son is 19 months, and has only slept through the night about 5 times.
He wakes for a bottle, and goes to bed and nap with a bottle.
I hope you are able to find something to help, if you do please let me know. I need sleep! :(
He also drinks from a sippie cup and a real cup!!!

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My experience has been to just tough in out for a few nights. With my oldest, we gave him a pacifier and that helped.... he had never used or wanted a pacifier before that but it helped him through the transistion. Overall it went pretty smoothly... only two nights of difficulty with the first night being the worst. By the third night he threw the pacifier out of the crib and never wanted it again... LOL. Best of luck!

Marilyn - posted on 01/12/2010

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We just stopped giving him a bottle at night and started with a cup instead however i didnt put him in the crib with it. I let him drink and read to him seems more calming at least for my son it did. My son's habit is his blanky, I think i may send him off to college with that nasty thing.

Jessica - posted on 01/11/2010

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Quoting Sheri:

Dana B how can it lead to ear infections? My daughter is getting all 4 of her eye teeth in at once at 19months and we use the nuby bottles so im hoping that when they come in she will switch the sippy cup as the bottles r made for teething babys.



It doesn't cause ear infections, but if your child is prone to ear infections then laying down with a sippy cup will make an ear infection harder to get rid of, or can cause it to occur more.  I don't know how, but this is what a lot of doctors had told me.  Out of my four children, two of them had ear infections bad and when I followed the doctors orders with that it did help.  They just have to be laying on some pillows while drinking, they can not lay flat down.

Jessica - posted on 01/11/2010

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There is no easy way...if that is what you are looking for then save some time because it just isn't going to happen. I have four kids and they all were hard to break from the bottle totally. Some kids are more demanding then others. I am not sure, but I believe it is a habbit for them as well as a security measure for them too. You are just going to have to find the strength to stop it. You may just change up the taste some and make it taste not so apealing to him and maybe that will help, but my child would probably just cry about it not tasting right. Depending on how strong willed your child is will determine how easy it is to break the habbit. I wish you luck:)

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My son is now 20 months old and wakes up at night, between the bottle and I, we ran out of breast-feeding a couple of weeks ago

Crystal - posted on 01/09/2010

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Hi.

We're working on the bottle issue with our 20 month old. He's stubborn (like us, lol!) I pulled the same trick my mom pulled with me, and it's working for him.

When I was little, she could NOT get me off the bottle. I was 23 months before she finally, out of desperation, told me the mommy monster needed bottles for her baby, and since I was a big girl and could use cups, could the baby monster have my bottles? I said yeah, ok and that was the end of it.

I did that trick with my son. He doesn't talk a whole lot, but he understands perfectly well. First I went for getting rid of day bottles - "Mommy and Daddy monsters need your bottles during the day for their little baby. But you're a big boy, so that's alright, isn't it?" He grinned, said yeah, and there has been no problem. (biggest issue is when we go somewhere - he wants his bottle instead of a cup, but he's nearly over that now. I think it's mostly daddy worried about messes and not wanting the baby to grow up so fast.)

He has a bottle when he first gets up and one while we read a story before bed. Then we brust his teeth and it's bedtime. He was taking a small bottle of water with him to bed, but the monsters needed that one so he takes a cup. And last night I told him they needed one at bedtime for their baby, so would he pick a cup to use at night and he did with no problem. Now it's just the morning bottle.

Don't know if it'll work, but it did for us! Another thing I did was to mix juice and water to get him to drink water in both a cup and bottle and then just lower the juice to nothing eventually. He also uses the hard cups. They're take and toss ones we picked up at Kmart for 2.99 for 4 of them. has animals, bright colors, mix and match lids, and no chemicals like BPA. He hated every hard top one before those, so you may want to look into them.

Alison - posted on 01/08/2010

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He probably won't go down without a fight. Either give him a sippy cup of water or nothing at all. He may kick and scream, but he will eventually get over it.

Melody - posted on 01/07/2010

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My son was stuck on a bottle for what felt like forever, one day I was in a hurry couldnt find a bottle so I grabbed a sippy cup and headed out the door. When he wanted it he threw a fit but eventally he took it and now he likes them, and he is off the bottle. I would start with the really soft nipples first and then eventally you can try the harder ones.

Kimmy - posted on 01/07/2010

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start with the middle of the night bottle first. water it down a little every night till it's just water. and then.... just stop giving it to him. you may have a few protests at first but within a few nights he'll forget all about it. then move on to the bed time bottle. he really doesn't need the milk to keep him full (per the dr)

Vanessa - posted on 01/06/2010

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Best way is to slowly reduce the amount of liquid he drinks a week at a time. We reduced by 2 ounces every week till we were down to nothing. A bottle at bedtime creates the most vicious bedtime cycle. You have to convince him another way of getting him to sleep when he wakes at night when you are down to the 2 ounces. Crying it out works with some kids but not others! wishing you best luck!

Melaina - posted on 01/06/2010

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We also had to take away our son's night-time drinks cold-turkey. He was only having water, but was waking up 2-3 times a night for more, and soaking through his diapers and jammies. It was exhausting. Our doctor assured us that he doesn't need the water at night and was just in a bad habit. It was a few nights of terrible screaming, but he got over it and has slept through the night ever since!

Moora - posted on 01/06/2010

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I have the same problem with my 18 months old daughter,but not exactly with the bottle but with the PACIFIRE and tried every single thing...but nothing worked out so far...

But the regarding the bottle issue,,i stopped giving her the bottle in bed since she was 10months,,now i give her the formula in the bottle before she goes to bed by couple of hours and sometimed 3hours...i made her understood that this will be the last thing she takes b4 she sleeps and always has to be milk!!

Try this trick,,and hope it wil work with you too...

Good Luck

Juliana - posted on 01/06/2010

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My 19 months old son just decided not to have his going to sleep bottle about 5 nights ago. he just refused to take the bottle for 3 nights in a row so we decided that he didn't want any more. He does go to sleep with a cup of water in his cot. We use to Tommy Tipee 10months Explora cup which doesn't leak. It has a 'sports bottle' top and it is the only cup he has at home now.

Philitsa - posted on 01/05/2010

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I had the same problem with my daughter at 15 months. We tried every gentle way possible to ween her off of the bottle. During the day, she only drank from a sippy cup, but "needed" a bottle before bed to fall asleep. And we continued to get up twice a night (midnight and 4:30, like clockwork!). It really wore me and my husband out. We talked to our pediatrician at her 15 month visit and they reiterated several times that she did not need to be fed overnight, that giving her milk over night would decrease her appetite for solids during the day, and if it was problematic to our family, we had to change her behavior. Their suggestion: cold turkey.

We just stopped giving her bottles at bed time. Man, those were three nights of hell! The screams were awful, but each night they would taper off. The first night was about an hour's worth of tears, and it decreased to nothing at the fourth night. And if she woke up in the middle of the night, we gave her a sippy cup of water. After those three nights, she completely forgot about the bottle and didn't get up at her normal times.

You'll have to gear yourself up for the pain of hearing your child scream themselves to sleep for a couple of nights, but it'll be worth it in the long run. Good luck! I know you can do it! A well-rested mommy is incredibly important to a happy baby!

Lindsay - posted on 01/05/2010

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Get a 2 dollar sippy cup at walmart with a soft spout. It will be more familiar than a bottle. I weened my son that way at 8 months. it really works!

Donna - posted on 01/04/2010

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My oldest son's doctor said to little by little start adding water to his milk. He want the milk and if it does not taste good he will not get up for it. This worked with my son.

Tracey - posted on 01/04/2010

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I think it has something to do with the mucus the milk makes them produce, I can't remember. My daughter had chronic ear infections and the ENT Specialist recommended no milk drinks before bed.

Sheri - posted on 01/04/2010

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Dana B how can it lead to ear infections? My daughter is getting all 4 of her eye teeth in at once at 19months and we use the nuby bottles so im hoping that when they come in she will switch the sippy cup as the bottles r made for teething babys.

Leila - posted on 01/03/2010

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i had the same problem with my 19 month old son. I am trying some different sippy cups to find one that works well for him. He tends to like the soft nipple ones. It is going to take some time though. but if you just throw away all the bottles in the house and replace them with sippy cups the baby will have to learn. It may take a few nights of the kid screaming and you not getting much sleep but it doesn't last for long

Sheri - posted on 01/03/2010

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Hi, my health nurse said and my daughters 18month check up to only give them milk in a sippy and water in a bottle and that has worked for our daughter it also helped to get her sleeping throughout the night as the milk was giving her gas. Eventually she should just give up the bottle on her own so we are going with that as she has been of her soother since before she turned 1 so dont really want to go back to that. I give her a sippy of milk 30 mins to and hr before bed and half a pack of adult instant oatmeal made with half water and half milk as her bedtime snack to fill her up and she usually eats the whole thing.

User - posted on 01/03/2010

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I took away the bottle all together when my son was 15 mos old. If he takes the sippy cup during the day, just give him one at night instead of the bottle. We are just starting the no sippy cup for night time or bed time, which is working out fairly well. When I took away the bottle I told him that bottles were for little babies and he was getting to be a big boy and big boys use cups. When we took away the bottle it was a little hard for a few nights but then he didn't miss them at all. As for getting up in the middle of the night...have you just let him fuss for awhile and put himself back to sleep? My son will get up in the middle of the night sometimes yet and will fuss for a few minutes or I will hear him play with his toys in his crib then puts himself back to sleep.

Megan - posted on 01/03/2010

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are you sure he wants a bottle, or does he just want you. My daughter stopped having a bottle through the night at about 6 months or so, and hasn't had a bottle at all since she was 12 months. She still occasionally wakes up at night, but I will sing to her and pat her back and she typicaly goes back to sleep. I hope this helps you.

Not to provide a little more worry, but be careful with bottles at night It's a big no-no with dentists. The sugar content in milk can cause major damage to teeth. It's bad at night because some of the milk may still be in their mouth when they fall asleep so the milk sits in their mouth.

Alison - posted on 01/03/2010

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Our daughter, same age, is also still having a bottle to go to bed. I sit with her and we read books as she falls asleep. I give her the next book we are going to read to hold in one hand and she holds a teddy in the other; it seems to help to keep her hands full and concentrating on the story, rather than lack of bottle. But it doesn't always work! Good luck!

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