Anyone else expecting bub number 2?

Jodie - posted on 07/13/2010 ( 8 moms have responded )




Hi everyone, I found out I am pregnant a couple of weeks ago (we were only planning on having the one and I was on the pill but I guess we were meant to have a 2nd) I am due January 8th and I am freaking out as I will have two bubs under the age of 2 and I really dont know how my daughter will react when I have the new bub. I hear all these horror stories about the older kids getting jealous etc and I really dont want it to happen for me. I've been looking it up on the internet and have read a few things saying to let the older child pick out the "going home outfit" for the new bub and to pick out a present to give the new bub and give the older child a present from the new bub (if that makes sense lol) but I just thought I would ask here for some help as I am really scared that my daughter will turn into a little terror! Any advice would be great Thanks :-)


Anita - posted on 07/16/2010




I am preggo with my second due around the same time as you Jodie. The first due date my doctor gave me was December 31st and now it's been moved to January 4th. I was a bit nervous about having two under two but am happy for a lot of things. My kids can grow up like friends and do everything together. There was a six year age difference between my oldest sister and I and we didn't start hanging out as friends until after I was married. Also, I will be glad to get all of the baby stage stuff (nursing, naps, diapers) done with and not have to go back!

About the jealously....I am told by others with two or more kids that having them closer together actually helps reduce the jealously. The older one may not even fully understand what is going on. One piece of advice that my sister gave me is that when your older one arrives at the hospital to see you and the baby, make sure your arms are open to hug her. Let dad or someone else hold the baby. I really like that idea and am going to do it.


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Patricia - posted on 03/01/2011




she will be just fine include your daughter and even get to help out like getting the nappies or baby wipes and tthings and if it is warm weather let her bath her baby when she has a bath to just little things like that if you make sure that she does not feel left out and she is still just as much loved as before she should be just fine most of my kids are 17 to 18 months apart except for 3 2 were nt much more than that and i am having baby number10 in august and my youngest will be 17 months and 5 days when bub is due

Olleka - posted on 07/18/2010




I'm due with number 2 at the end of Aug. My daughter is 14 months! I'll let you know how she gets on with her new bro/sis when he/she arrives.

Cesiah - posted on 07/16/2010




well my boys are 10 months apart, my oldest didnt know much of what was going on since he was so little but he did get a tinsy bit jelous but was over it very fast (n no it wasnt planned it just happened) now Josiah (oldest) loves his brother n loves to give him hugs and kisses we are teaching him to be gentle with the baby though, but i can already see that they love each other very much sometimes its very hard to have two little ones but at the end of the day I am happy n blessed to have both of them! some days can be super crazy but others are a lot better its up & down. just remember that they are blessing from God. as far as ideas i think that the sooner your little one knows the better n i like the idea of the pat n yes get her involved as much as possible. good luck to you!

Narelle - posted on 07/15/2010




Hi I am pregnant with number 2 due in February. I always wanted to have my children close so they could grow up together. Some people say not to start talking about the new baby too soon as it takes such a long time for them to arrive the little one may get confused. Personally we have been talking about our new baby from the beginning and every morning Charlie gives the baby a pat when we get out of bed. I think the most important key is to involve them with what is happening while they are to young to really understand they are not being excluded. A gift from the new baby to the older child is an excellent idea, I have many friends who have multiple children who have all done this and it has worked really well. I plan on buying my Charlie a doll while I'm pregnant so he will also have a baby to look after and be gentle
with. Good luck I hope everything goes well

Melanie - posted on 07/15/2010




im 29 single mum of 6 due for no 7 in first 2 were 13 months apart, they are best friends and help out heaps with the younger 4...

Elizabeth - posted on 07/14/2010




My brother and I are 5 years apart and only started getting along once he turned 10, and I 15. My husband and his brother are only a year apart and they're very close. We've wanted our kids close in age and we have been trying to conceive again for several months and so far no luck, I guess the big man up stairs knows better than we do what is best. But from my experience, close kids in age get a long really well. they go through things together. Of course at first there's always a little jealousy, children don't understand why they can't have all of mommy and daddy's time, but If you chose to wait a few years for number 2, I would think that it would only get worse since they have never had to share mommy and daddy and they can remember and understand more. The gifts are a GREAT idea, and remember there are some things that the older one might help doing. Like grabbing a clean diaper for you, or helping baby clean up their toys to go out. Things that help you, and make them feel useful. :D Just remember two things, that help get me day to day. 1. God knows what is best for us, and 2. He'll never bring us to something he won't bring us through. God bless you and I hope you have a wonderful pregnancy & delivery!

Lacye - posted on 07/14/2010




My sister has 3 kids. 2 of them are twins. her oldest one is 18 months older than the twins. when they were first born, she wouldn't let ANYBODY hold the babies. she said that they were her brothers and she was going to take care of them. just involve your daughter as much as you can during your pregnancy. get her excited about the new baby. she will love it!

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