Need advice on getting 8 month old to sleep through the night.

Allison - posted on 01/19/2010 ( 36 moms have responded )

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She has no problem putting herself to sleep for naps and at bedtime. The problem is she wakes up every 3-4 hours during the night once she goes down for the night. We try and wait to see if she will soothe herself back to sleep but she ends up crying. We usually end up feeding her some bottle to help her fall back asleep.

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Erin - posted on 01/23/2010

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Kaisa - I saw you mentioned you use washable diapers (Good for you!), but is there a chance he gets wet and then cold? Maybe a disposable for just the night might just hold the wetness away.

I also understand about the lack of sleep. My little guy is just 8 months and is finally sleeping through the night. He gets a bath at 7:30, bottle and in bed by 8:00. And then between 10 & 11 he gets a top up bottle and is good until 7ish the next morning. And I agree with the others, a little crying is harder on Mum than it is on babe, but it worked. We went through it too, and it was hard a first but worked really well.

There is hope ladies, good luck!

Heather - posted on 02/02/2010

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Up until about a month ago, bed time was either really easy or a battle and my angel was up at least once, sometimes twice a night. I was ok with once a night because we're still breastfeeding (2-3 solid meals a day) and I thought she was hungry, bt bedtime was kiling me. I was very uncomfortable leaving her to "cry it out" so I talked to her pediatrician. He suggested doing our bed time routine and laying her down when she was almost asleep. If she cried (which she did - hollared sometimes) we left her alone for 2-3 minutes, went in for like 2 secs just to tell her she was ok and we would be in again soon. 2-3 minutes later we'd do the same thing. The third time in (another 2-3 min) we would pick her up and soothe her back to almost alseep, lay her down and start again. It took less than an hour for three days and she's been sleeping through the night (6:30 - 6ish) for weeks. She still has the occasional bad night, but we just do the routine. I was so glad I asked my ped and found a method I was comfortable with. I hope you find something that works for you and your family.



I work full time too. It's hard to put her down so early and I enjoyed that middle of the night nursing session, but I'm still glad we're both getting a good night sleep.

Claire - posted on 01/27/2010

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I did the "cry it out" method with my baby and she now sleeps REALLY well. But one thing that Erin pointed out is trying an earlier bedtime. I know it sounds crazy but an over tired baby will find it very difficult to put themselves to sleep. This is the same as when we get over tired and end up just led in bed wide awake. My 8 month old and my 2 1/2 year old both go to bed between 6.30 and 6.45 every night. and both sleep til around 7 - 7.30. It also gives me and my husband a nice long evening together.

Good Luck. x

Shana - posted on 01/25/2010

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I just learned from experience try this- try to give her morning nap and keep her up all afternoon playing. Before bed give her plenty of food and see how well she does sleeping all night! Mine slept from 9-5:30am yesterday on this method! I am gonna try it again today.

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M3agan_bby - posted on 04/18/2014

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Babies wake up for a reason. Cereal is horrible for them. She's hungry that's why she waking. Don't starve her. " this too shall pass."

Taryn - posted on 02/02/2010

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What helps with my little man....on his last bottle of the night I put 1 teaspoon of cereal in the bottle with the formula with a fast nipple...really seems to help!!!

Nicole - posted on 01/31/2010

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My baby is 8months now and never slept till a few days ago.He used to wake every 1-2 hours in the night screaming he would sometimes feed sometimes not.We eventually took him to about three different doctors to try sort out the problem.eventually one doctor discovered that he was very allergic to dairy and was causing ear and throat infections.ever since we changed his formula to soy he has been sleeping with one feed at bout 3am.Try changing her formula.It worked for us

Kaisa - posted on 01/28/2010

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It's really hard to let them cry them selves to sleep. I've tried that but sins we are all sleeping in the same room it's not that easy. I don't want my husband and my daughter to wake up every time he cries. Especially as my husband has to get up for work every morning... We REALLY should get a better place to live soon!!!

Gail - posted on 01/27/2010

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This is a very important topic. I left my son with my husband the other night, just to get a few hours sleep. I know the teething is also waking him up as he wakes pulling at his gums. If you try the 'leave alone to cry it out' method please let us know how it goes. I am tempted but I hate screeming. I would have to move out for the two nights but i am breaktfeeding at night though. I was also told that when they wake at night they do so coz they miss us during the day while we are at work- is this just a bad concious working on me..Gail.

Erin - posted on 01/26/2010

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I just talked to my girlfriend today and her little guy is over a year and wasn't sleeping through the night (up every few hours). She moved his bed time up from 7:30 to 6:30 and the kid has slept 12 hours straight for the last 3 nights. Maybe there is some merit. It's always worth a try. Good luck everyone. I think we all deserve a little by now.

Micole - posted on 01/26/2010

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A Routine will do... Xaiden has been sleeping thru the night since 6 weeks old.. No Kidding. At this age you little one needs 2 naps a day. I do 10:30a.m - 12:00 noon. and 2:30p.m - 4:00p.m. so by 8:00pm he is tired and falls right to sleep on his own.. til 7:30 or 8:00 am the next day. It dosent matter when you take your naps, but baby needs 2 naps at least 3 hours of rest/ day.

Kaisa - posted on 01/26/2010

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Erin B. I don't use washables in the nights so that shouldn't be the problem. I also tried the let him cry thing but as everything else we've tried it works for a few nights and then it starts all over again. Our doctor called me today and said that it's probably reflux so in about a month we are going to the hospital to do some tests. hopefully we get some help then.

Chelsea - posted on 01/24/2010

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Hi, I'm right there with you!! My son Tyson is now 8 1/2 months old, and still doesn't sleep through the whole night. We put him to bed at nine, and he still wakes up at midnight and five pretty much every night. It's getting harder to work full time and maintain a clean house while never getting a full night of sleep. We've tried baths with lavender before bed, cereal with fruit and full meals, letting him cry it out, moving his bedtime to later, having him sleep in our bed, giving him a pacifier. We have no idea what else to do. Any suggestions?? I feel like I'm losing my mind...

Alisa - posted on 01/24/2010

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My daughter used to do the EXACT same thing! We used The Sleepeasy Solution book when she was about 5 1/2 months old. It works for children up to 5 years old. I recommend it to everyone!!! By night 4, she slept 11 hours straight! It's hard at first because it is a "cry it out" method, but everyone will be so much happier in the end! I noticed Savannah was a lot happier and she was reaching developmental milestones quickly because her body was actually getting the rest it needed. Please try this! My husband and I have been getting good night sleeps for months now...

Dana - posted on 01/24/2010

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let her cry. its heartbreaking at first but after 3-5 days she will just soothe herself trust me i felt the same way when the doc told me that they start sleeping through the night at 3 months and here i am with a 7 month old who still needs nighttime feedings. the doctor finally told me i HAVE to omit the nighttime feeding and just let him cry. obviously if he sounded in serious trouble or pain, i would go in and check on him, but in reality it seemed to just be a habit to break and that's all. now he's 8 1/2 months and sleeps great! it was well worth the 5 days of cryin several times throughout the night for my little guy to learn to help himself and get through the night without eating.

Gennifer - posted on 01/23/2010

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what i do is I put her to sleep is I give her an extra cereal bottle before bed then at night they say let them cry its because you come when she crys its attention

Erin - posted on 01/23/2010

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My son is 8 months, and has been an extremely light sleeper since we brought him home. Any sound and he is up. This is very hard on us because we live in an old apartment in a city. Our neighbors play music all night, and we can hear the people upstairs walking all night. If I am lucky I will get two full hours of sleep, but normally he gets up about every half hour!

Laurie - posted on 01/23/2010

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We just went thru this!!! Jenna is 8 months old and we finally let her cry it out, after much, much thought. I didn't think I could do it, and was initially opposed, but it worked, LIKE A CHARM! If she is fed adequately and comfortable of course, we just let her be. Now she fusses for only a few short minutes and falls back asleep.

Nicola - posted on 01/23/2010

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i agree with bonnie a couple of nights leaving them to cry doesnt do them any harm they will soon get used to you not coming in and sleep through, i may seem harsh but it the long run it will be worth in or give them a comforter dummy or blanket, and make sure room is dark so they no difference between night and day, i dont think the full tummy thing is true my little one has slept through from seven till eight from 3 months even on days when he hasnt eaten much. Good luck

Jodie - posted on 01/23/2010

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My baby boy is 8 months and has been going to sleep at around 8pm and sleeps a solid 3 or 4 hours then wakes every 1 to 2 hours til 6am when I give him a bottle. He has 4 bottles in the day and 3 meals, he isnt hungry just wants to see me or have his dummy put back in. I am also so tired, but have been told this is very common particulary in boys from around 6 - 10 mths then it stops, I was told they start dreaming at this age and when they wake up they want to see you or have there dummy or sleep aid to get back to sleep, so Im hoping in two months things will start to get better.....

Loredana - posted on 01/22/2010

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I agree with Melissa, filling up his tummy before bedtime is the best, or a warm bath will be good a massage with some night time lotion again is very good. My son is 8 months and sleeps thru the night until 7 in the morning. i must say that sometimes he wakes up during the night but only one time i give him a bottle and in 30 min he is back to sleep until the morning. Hope it helps so Good luck.

Bonnie - posted on 01/22/2010

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Well my doctor told me at 8 months to stop feeding during the night. I have to say there was two miserable nights of crying but my baby sleeps 8 hours every night now.

Tiffany - posted on 01/22/2010

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Colis can take weeks to clear up. My baby had gas and colic issues as well. We had to put her on Evamor water to reduce acidity mixed with her formula and feed her pure fruits and veggies. Now she naps twice a day and sleeps 11-13 hours a night at 8 months. Good luck! My suggestion, take her to a kinisiologist to have what she's eating tested to her body. This worked wonders for me.

Kaisa - posted on 01/21/2010

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Louise: I have to say I have been sleeping tonight! It might be reflux that is the problem. We started medication last weekend and now it seems to be helping! At least as I said he has been sleeping all the night last night! Hopefully this is it! Would bee sooooo nice whit some sleep! :)

Louise - posted on 01/21/2010

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Kaisa - how is he during the day ? Have you tried switching to a non dairy or non wheat diet ? Best to speak to your doctor first maybe. Also, we took our daughter for cranial osteopathy and it really really helped when she had colic - definitely worth looking into for all kinds of issues.

Louise - posted on 01/21/2010

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My daughter is 8 months also and we'd just started to get her sleeping through when she became ill just before Christmas and that all stopped. I've read before to feed a poorly baby whenever they want it and so I did and ended up back where we were - similar to yourself.
All I can say is that you MUST leave her to cry for a while. If she's having 3 meals a day plus milk and a good milk feed before bed then she doesn't need the night time feeds but she's got a habit.
Try leaving her for a bit longer before going into her - it's really really hard. I did it last Friday night once I knew my little one was better. She was whining and then crying on and off for 40 minutes at 3am. I got out of bed 3 times when the crying sounded like proper crying but I waited and it calmed down so I got back in again. After 40 minutes she went back to sleep and she's slept through every night since !!!!!
Like some of the 'House of Tiny Tearaways' shows, a lot of it is down to going to them too quickly and soothing them because we just want to look after them - totally natural instinct ofcourse. However, this in the long run doesn't help much so try to wait it out a bit. My little one gets more worked up if I enter the room so that's what I try not to do now - really frustrating but it is helping. Using a dummy instead of feeding is also a trick I've heard to go through the process slower.

Natalie - posted on 01/20/2010

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Hi, i feel ur exhaustion.. i'm in the same boat. I'm still breastfeeding and it's getting too much now. he was sleeping through from 5 weeks till 5 1/2 months. He eats 3 meals a day and really drinks very little during the day. I'm gonna try make him drink more in the day or give him a bottle before he goes to bed. hope it works. Maybe they are teething, could also be possible

Andrea - posted on 01/20/2010

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I'm right there with you my daughter is 8 1/2 months old and still gets up every 3-4 hours its really having an effect on how i function, i have 3 other children and napping for me is not always possible. We have tried, cool mist humidifier, cereal before bed which she doesn't always take, bath with soothing smells, trying to keep her up. Nothing works, she won't take a pacifier never has. She wants that bottel...and then back to sleep she goes...i'm out of idea's...and getting tireder by the day...

Kaisa - posted on 01/20/2010

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I'm not breastfeeding any more. He eats 5 meals solid food a day and one of them is oatmeal in the evening before going to bed. So that's probably not the problem. He hasn't got diaper rash either because every he gets a little bit red I put some cream on and a washable diaper. He's been this way all life. He's older sister on the other hand was just 1,5 months when she started sleeping all through the night. I can't get my head around this. Nothing else seams logic than teeth but can he really get any more now sins he already has 8 of them?! He got the last two last weekend.

Melissa - posted on 01/20/2010

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Well im no expert Kaisa, but have you tried filling his tummy before he goes to bed, maybe he wakes up because he's hungry, does he get diaper rashes? maybe he is irritated. When my son was newborn he woke up every 10 mins, i was breastfeeding but i guess it wasn't enough for him, so finally after 6 weeks of this i put him on formula and he was a complete change, and has slept through the night ever since. Are you breastfeeding?

Kaisa - posted on 01/20/2010

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I know exactly how you feel! My son wakes, at a good night, every 2 - 3 hours but usually every 20 minutes! Nothing we have tried helps. He doesn't eat at all at night. He just wakes up screaming and crying. I tried having him in the bed with me but then he just has too little room so he wakes up anyway. I would be so glad to get some help! Otherwise he's the happiest and cutest boy in town! :)

Sarah - posted on 01/20/2010

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Hi, I usually give my 7 and 1/2 month old a little bit of porridge before she sleeps, this seems to fill her enough until the morning and has helped a lot. I do let my daughter have a dummy at bed time as it helps sooth her and allows me to have a good nights sleep. She slept from 7:45pm to 8:00am this morning, although she did wake at 3...I gave her a dummy and she went straight back to sleep.
I hope you manage to get some sleep soon and good luck.

Melissa - posted on 01/19/2010

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My son is 8 months old today and he has been sleeping through the night since he was 2 months. My doctor said it was okay to start giving him pablum at 2 months before bed and once i started that he has slept from 7pm - 7am. Maybe im lucky but once we started that routine he has slept through the night. But he has never been a good napper though, the most he naps is an hour at a time, twice a day. So once its bed time he's out for the night. Good luck

Kathy - posted on 01/19/2010

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does she take a paci?? if so, when she wakes up try and put it back in her mouth to help her fall back asleep, instead of taking a bottle.

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