post baby body

Leslie - posted on 11/22/2009 ( 23 moms have responded )

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Ok so... I know its only been 6 months, but this extra weight is killing me. I gained 35 lbs in my pregnancy. I have lost 25 lbs so far but seem to be stuck. I am still breastfeeding 3x a day. My husband is not attracted to me with the weight and I am not happy with it either. I have been bike riding and walk/running for a month now and dont see any change. I still have stretch marks that wont go way despite my obsession with cocoa butter creams. I still have hemorrhoids despite the prescription meds my OB gave me. My hair use to be thick prior to the pregnancy and now I have lost over half of my thickness (no bald spots yet). I am scared to completely wean because I have heard that many women gain weight after doing so. Am I the only one feeling this way? I dont want to be so negative but it is REALLY bothering me. I am trying to focus on my daughter and how wonderful she is, but I this is killing me. Any one else having these problems or maybe have a suggestion?

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Jennifer - posted on 12/01/2009

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Don't worry - that alone will keep the weight on. It took 9 months to get on, give yourself 9 months to get it off. And don't worry about your husband - he needs to find you beautiful inside and out. You are now the mother of his child and that alone makes you tremendously beautiful. I know, I just had to go buy more jeans yesterday because even though I am only a few pounds more than what I was before, I don't fit into ANYTHING! :( Oh well. It will come...

The hair should get better once you are not nursing anymore. And are you still taking the prenatal vitamins? My hair is different too...oh the joys... :) It is all worth it. The stress alone of thinking about those few pounds may keep you away from being able to lose them. I have been on programs like weight watchers in the past to learn how to eat right and lose weight (I have always worked out), even though I only had about 12 pounds to lose to get to my goal weight. It was great. You probably are not eating enough to be honest. You need to eat every 2 - 3 hours, make sure you get in a lot of fruits & veggies, protein, dairy, grains (whole grains), etc. You can research things like Weight Watchers if you want because it is truly not a "diet" so you can do it while nursing if you make sure you are eating enough! :)

I wish you luck, but most of all, hang in there. 9 months on - 9 months off unfortunately.

I hope this helps a little...

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Smithhelen221 - posted on 12/22/2017

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Try the Mummy Magic weight loss tea it helped me loose my post baby weight. I kept doing my workout and added intake of this tea to my routine.

Bernice - posted on 02/05/2016

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My post baby weight reduced by drinking mummy magic weight loss tea. I have used this tea for three times a day before every meal and shed off all my baby weight in two months.

Delia - posted on 12/16/2009

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Girl relax! If you are breast feeding, that is a great way to loss the baby post weight. 3 times a day is good but you could try nurseing your baby completely until you are where you want to be plus it's good for baby.



Stretch marks... sorry to break it to you... but this is a mark that is forever, they're not going anywhere. I have them too, and I cried the first two week after discovering them and then desided to get over it because I do want more kids which means more mark. So, I just came to except it and enjoy my baby more. About the cream, it depends on your tpye of skin, because some people have dry skin something stronger is better and those with oliy skin something less strong is better. It's up to you what feels good, ultimately the goal here is to prevent more marks and to keep moisturized in order to do so.



Hemorrhiods; you could take two colace twice a day. This is a stoll softner and will help the bowel movement when you go not be so painful, thus, helping it go away. Do this until healed. It's a over the counter softner, but you could ask your doctor about it. Also, it is safe to take while breast feeding.



Hair; I know it seems like you are losing a lot of hair, but when we are pregnant we lose virtually no hair, thus, you are only losing all that hair that you didn't during those 10 months of pregnancy, in which you only gain hair. So, you will lose this hair and gain the hair you are suppose to have naturally back. Nothing to worry about here.



Mean while just try your best to relax and enjoy your baby, because you could be missing out on important steps of your babies life. Don't let them pass you by. Enjoy your baby, they grow up too fast.



Good Luck! :0)

Rhianwen - posted on 12/13/2009

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I know you WILL worry, so I am not going to say don't lol! It will happen though, just not quickly.

I am a mum of 4, and it takes about a year to get back to normal after a baby. Your body puts on weight for a reason...to nourish the baby.

In less affluent times, when we were in caves, our bodies put on weight to ensure that we and our babies did not starve to death during times of shortness and famine. Of course, these days, we have supermarkets and no biological need for this, but that is our we were made. We NEEDED the fat back then, to ensure survival during pregnancy and breastfeeding...that is why you are carrying it. Of course, you will lose this, provided you eat well, and move around.

I am down to my last 10lb of baby weight, and is HAS been hard. I have been exercising, eating food low is fat and calories and it is working. Eating well is key...a person cannot expect to lose baby weight, or any sort if they are not putting the right sort of food in. Also, you need to eat often...6 times a day helps your body understand that you will NOT starve, and that it doesn't need to hold on to the extra fat.

I don't know about stretchmarks,,,I'm dark and never got any...I think they are permanent from what I hear, but they do fade.

Tabatha - posted on 12/12/2009

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You are actually lucky, even though I know its really hard to feel that way. I still have 30 extra lbs that I have yet to lose. It seems like all of my friends are just snapping back to their original weight while I am just stuck. I'm really embarrassed for anyone to see me like this! So, sorry I dont have any suggestions, but I just wanted you to know you're not alone in your post-baby weight struggle!

Taneshia - posted on 12/12/2009

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I think society/family/friends put too much pressure on women to "get skinny" in my opinion. I have 3 boys and I was one of those women who dont get stretch marks but I did gain weight. I had my second son on oct of 2007 and after i had him i went crazy working out,i got my body back but got right back pregnant so it all went down the drain. I just started back working out and Im taking my time with it. My husband is sooo encouraging and actually helps me in alot of ways. Yours should be quiet if he doesnt have anything nice to say because that can be a big stumbling block. Its hard to just focus on the baby with so much going on. I say take your time and try not to stress about it and surround yourself with positive caring people. Its ok not to be back to your regular size. Just take it one day at a time....

Rebecca - posted on 12/08/2009

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i totally understand!!! i unfortunately gained 50 lbs during pregnancy & have only lost 30lbs. some women seem truely blessed & are back to the same weight/size within 2 months, my sister in law for example ended up weighing 5lbs less after having 2 kids in less than 2 years! i love her but i am secretely annoyed with her for looking so good just a month after her 2nd child when i still look like a blimp. anyway, i am trying to stay positive, eat healthy & be as active as possible with my busy life. i have noticed that i've lost some inches in my hips, thighs & stomach, but i am starting to think that i will Never lose all the weight & my shape will never get back to its exact pre-pregnancy state...but no matter what it was all worth it, i have an incredible baby boy & a loving husband. try to stay positive & good luck:-)

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Try working resistance training into your exercise routine (in addition to biking and walking). It makes a huge difference in losing that last bit, and reshaping your body at the same time!
Also, I have heard that the last 5 pounds will come off once you stop breastfeeding. This is NOT a recommendation to wean. Instead, just realize that it's OK to still be retaining a little weight. As long as you are eating a well-balanced diet, you should feel good and be able to sustain the weight loss after you stop breastfeeding.

Claudia - posted on 12/07/2009

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Hi new mummy. My little girl is nearly 7 months old and I found it quite hard to shift my weight in the first three months. We found out she was milk protein intolerant at 11 weeks and I had to go off all dairy. (Not fun but I had no choice). I did and made sure I increased my intake of green leafy veges and oily fish (salmon and tuna) both of which have high levels of calcium. I started walking every afternoon with her in the pram and after another 3 months had lost all my baby weight and feel really energised. I have only recently reintroduced a small amount of dairy and must say that my body feels better for it.



This isn't necessarily an option for you but just letting you know what worked for me.



All the best yummy mummy and a positive attitude will work wonders for you and your little lady



:)

Ruth - posted on 12/07/2009

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Everyone has these problems. It comes with motherhood. I too have a 6 month old, still have stretch marks and still have some baby weight. But on the upside I have a beautiful baby boy who is my world. I think you just need to concentrate on your baby girl and enjoy the moments you have with her. And I am sure if your husband loves you, then he thinks you are beautiful no matter what. Seriously life is too short to sweat the small stuff. And 10 pounds is very small to be so stressed out about it.

Adriane - posted on 12/07/2009

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Hi!
I completely understand your frustration... my son will be 7 months in a few weeks and i still have about 20 lbs to go to be back to size (pre-pregnancy) and I gained 45 lbs total. At first I was really upset that breastfeeding didn't seem to be helping me lose the weight at all, but I have realized that it is coming off very gradually. As others have said, just give yourself grace and remember the 9 months on 9 months off thing. I think it's very true. Kudos for making healthy choices and exercising! Enjoy that little one, that's the most important thing, as the time and days pass so quickly.

Polette - posted on 12/04/2009

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hello (:
actually, you are doing great . i gained 52 pounds during my pregnancy && now i am i've lost 30 but i'm still 20 more then i used to be . it is very understandable that you feel that way but you might want to put a bit more of happier attitude towards everything rather then a bad negative thought . after all, we are moms and we get the hardest jobs .

Traci - posted on 12/04/2009

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I started walking when my baby was just a week old, jogging when he was 2 weeks, and I have been back to my regular running schedule for some time now. BUT, I still do not have the body I did pre-baby. I am fine with that. I am making healthy eating decisions and exercising every day, and, most important cherishing this special time with my baby. It goes by so fast and I still can't believe the miracle my husband and I created. We also just got back from Hawaii and I wore a bikini and flaunted my stretch marks with pride. The most important thing, for your health and your baby's, is to be positive. Your body will never be the same, it will just get more beautiful with each blessing. It will take much longer than a month of exercise to see results though. Oh, and you'll only gain weight when you stop breastfeeding if you're not making healthy choices. Good Luck and stay POSITIVE!

Kelli - posted on 12/04/2009

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Hi L.T....
I feel for you, and as a new mom also, I've experienced A LOT of those after effects of pregnancy. I'd have to agree with some of the others and let you know how tough you're being on yourself. You just brought a precious new life into this world, and your body's been through the wringer. Just trust that all things will pass (especially the hair loss), I should know, I'm a hairstylist! Please take the time to just visit a nice salon/spa just once and pamper yourself a little. Puts a smile on your face, and then, when you're ready, look into doing a Fit4Two fitness class with baby (or something similar in your area). My instructor and class are awesome, and you know, once you get into the fitness groove...everything else falls into place. Friendships with other moms, self confidence goes up, baby has a great time in a fun, new environment...! Good luck! You're not alone :)

Tess - posted on 12/04/2009

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My child just turned 7 months old on the 2nd of this month and i gained a whopping 60lbs when i was pregnant and i am a short girl so it looked horrible. I have lost 40 of it and i dont breastfeed and plus had a c-section so im stuck with i guess what you would call a "flap". I cant seem to get rid of it for nothing, despite i still have 20lbs to lose to get to my normal size, i can fit in my jean if i didnt have this flap. As for stretch marks, i used cocoa butter the whole time i was pregnant and am still covered in stretch marks but i heard about when your child turns one year old then they are suppose to be faded. I work 5 days a week and have a desk job so hard for me to exercise much. So i promise you are going great, just keep it up and you will get back to normal. Does anyone have any suggestions on how to lose this flap i have now? ha!

Janeai - posted on 12/04/2009

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Oh and tell your husband to kiss your butt until he decides to carry a baby for 9 months and deliver it

Janeai - posted on 12/04/2009

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Hey its ok to feel bad sweetheart. I mean I had a six pack and a nice bikini body before my six month old, only gained 10 lbs with the pregnancy then lost 25lbs while breastfeeding. Well now that my daughter is on solids I've gained all 25 lbs back and I'm struggling to get it off the only thing helping me is the gym 6 days a week and writing down everything I eat oh and Pilates. As for the stretch marks I just live with them cause I haven't found anything to get rid of them

Nicole - posted on 12/01/2009

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I still have about 6 lbs to lose and have the stretch marks and all that fun stuff. Dont worry, just give it a little more time. You sre doing the right thing by working out. One suggestion from me tis to try and drink about 100 oz of water a day. It will flush fat and other bad stuff and once you do it for a little bit you will lose some water weight

Rebekah - posted on 12/01/2009

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Are you also taking a birth control pill? When I got off of birth control after my son (now 2.5) was born, I was amazed at how easily the weight fell off. I still have 20lbs to lose (gained 50) this time around, but I'm trying not to stress about it. Your body will NEVER be the same, but as time goes on you can learn to appreciate your new self (stretch marks and all).

Melanie - posted on 12/01/2009

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You have it pretty lucky to me...I've had my second child, and gained about 30 lbs. with each...still haven't gotten all the weight off, and they are almost 1 year apart. So wantin the weight to come off fast after having a baby....it's not so simple for some women! Also, you have to realize how long it took you to gain that weight(gradually over time)...And it's probably gonna come off about the same time frame(gradually)...Professionals say that it usually take about 1 year or longer to get back to you pre-pregnancy size.....And you have to remember that alot the weight has shifted to your hips for childbirth...So you're prob not gonna be back @ the same EXACT size in jeans! As far as your husband goes...He should help support you and exercise with you...Or watch the baby for you to have some alone relazing exercise time! As far as for the stretch marks too...I haven't found anything to take them COMPLETELY away...Some women genetically just don't get them, and some have them even if you religiously put all that stuff on your belly! So I would say cherish that little one that you have, don't be so hard on yourself...Because...It does take longer than 6 mths for most women! I hope this helps and good luck on everything!

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hey there
my girl is also 6 months and i too still have some extra pregnancy weight and my hair is different too. but by the sounds of things u are carrying a really negative attitude to all of this, which is understandable, but this probably has a bigger impact than u think on ur body. try to be positive, just think about what ur body has just done...made/ carried a baby for 9 months and then there's the horendous act of childbirth! its pretty amazing really, and if thats not enough, its now producing food for ur baby. as for your husband saying he doesnt find u attractive anymore, how dare he! he needs to be encouraging u, and trying to lift ur self esteem and remind u that u are beautiful, nobody has the right to make u feel unatractive, let alone ur own husband. and the more he encourages u, the happier u will be about exercising and being active. the weight will drop, but please dont let things get u down in the mean time
wish u luck :)

Marie - posted on 11/26/2009

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Well sounds to me that you are lucky. I gained about the same and still have over 10 pounds to lose. I to still have my stretch marks, I have found Aveeno daily moisturizer works better than the cocoa butter and bio oils though. I have been working out on the wii for the last 3 months with not much luck. My sister has lost inches though just not much weight. I have recently lost 5 pounds on the wii be doing aerobics free step and carring my son for the entire work out.

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