hate letters

Emily - posted on 04/29/2011 ( 29 moms have responded )

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Ive gotten a LOT of hate letters from a post I had put up about me csizing my baby. Im seriously thinking about leaving this page because of so many immature, rude and just downright hateful adults on here. I mean seriously, You have your children, raise them however you want, and dont knock me for raising my baby the way i want. GROW THE HELL UP!!!

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Ianina - posted on 04/29/2011

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Come on!! Have you seen some of the post in here?? People wanting to give their 1 week old water, people asking if 104 fever is "normal for teething"...
I don't have an opinion about c-cizing either because 1.- I'm having girls and 2.- is not something we do here in Argentina.
But that doesn't mean I'm going to send hate emails to all of those people who, IMO, shouldn't be having kids to begin with...
And honestly, Emily was not even asking for opinions. She was looking for moms who shared the same idea. Period. If you don't, you shouldn't post, and if you can't help it, you shouldn't be criticizing or sending hate emails about it.
My 2 cents

Cynthia - posted on 04/30/2011

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i am so sorry about your hate mail. that isnt fair and is not excepitable in my book. i wanted to share my story and maybe it will help. i have a 6 year old boy and another son on the way. their dad is not csized and he hates that about him self. he says he would do it now if he could.he gives reasons but he'd kill me for telling them on the net..LOL. i never thought much about it until he came to me one day and told me that he wanted our son to be csized. i agreed because i figured a man tha wanted that for himself his whole life believed it was best for his son. so we did it and we will again with our next boy and any other sons we have. for my husband it was the most necessary thing to do.

Corrie - posted on 04/29/2011

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That's totally out of order.
Report them and get them kicked off the site.
What you choose to do is YOUR choice, no one elses, and they have to respect that.

Chelsea - posted on 05/04/2011

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@ stephanie.

even though i personal dont believe it is right for my family, i am truely sorry that you can not do it when thats what you want, most people dont realize that insurance companies are starting not to cover it. Remember that although it might seem worse to do it later in life, when he is older if he wants to be circumcised he can be completely sedated to have the procedure done and then can take heavy pain meds to stay comfortable, 2 things that cant be done with infants, i also dont believe that it wuold be much more expensive later, but again it wont be covered because it is considered cosmetic.

Stephanie - posted on 05/04/2011

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We were going to do it because all of the men that we know who aren't circumcized are very unhappy about it but there's no way we can afford to have it done so I guess that's that. People really should mind their own business though unless it's a really serious, life-threatening matter. It's unbelievable how childish adults can be and how the children are often so much more accepting. I swear parents are often the driving force behind bullying!

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Chelsea - posted on 05/03/2011

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sorry to hear that you are getting emails like that, please dont leave our group because there are a few bads seeds, there are alot of us mommas who will share are oppinion but still support yours. Like laura said please report them because circle of moms is a place for support not hate or discrimination

Emily - posted on 04/30/2011

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Thank you Kendall. ♥ Thank you everyone. I appreciate the support and understanding.

Merry - posted on 04/30/2011

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Report anyone acting inappropriately and circle of moms does handle things. No one is allowed to send hate mail in any form. Personal messages are not tolerated to be hateful.

Kendall - posted on 04/30/2011

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Honestly, I am not really surprised. There are a few people on COM that need to grow up. I received a few angry messages myself. It sucks and I am sorry that people have to be such jerks. I bet your an amazing mom! ♥

Katie - posted on 04/30/2011

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we are having our second son in May also and he will be csized just like our first son was. The people who are against it feel very strong about their opinions and seem to voice it (im talking about friends ive had for years!) It upset me at first but it doesnt now at all. Being a parent is a really hard job and you will have everyone telling you how to do this or what to do with that. Stick to your guns about what you feel is right and ignore anyone who wants to bring you down. This last part of the pregnancy is mentally hard enough when you are gearing up for your whole life to change. The less outside stress the better. Enjoy your new little boy, once you see him nothing else will even matter : )

Corrie - posted on 04/29/2011

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I do that alllll the time!!!! I have bruises ON bruises xD
Rant here hon. We all support you.

Emily - posted on 04/29/2011

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no... i just got back from a walk with bruised and scraped up knees... lol. I tripped over air.

Emily - posted on 04/29/2011

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well people usually bully others because they feel theyre lacking in some way... and what better way to feel gratification from bullys to attack another womans parenting skills.

Corrie - posted on 04/29/2011

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Regardless of how someone feels they have the right to voice it in the open but not to attack you in a private way.
Just take comfort in the fact that YOU know you're doing what YOU want for the Reasons YOU have chosen. You aren't stupid. It's your choice.
And this is coming from someone who is opposed to it.
Enjoy your pregnancy Emily. It's your time. You don't need to be stressed out and upset by women who feel it's necessary to attack you.
I wonder how they would feel if their parenting was called into question hmmm?

Emily - posted on 04/29/2011

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I mean when "adults" start sending messages like "youre gonna be a terrible mom" "Your son will turn on you for this" or "Dont you LOVE your son at all? A mother who loves her son wouldnt be mutilating his body just because his daddy had it too"... It makes me kind of ashamed to call myself an adult because others give adults a bad name... I have 2 weeks left and should be enjoying myself not getting frustrated at the juvenile people on here... Its sad adults have to result to such tactics because they feel incompetent in their own parenting...

AMANDA - posted on 04/29/2011

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Sorry some people are so immature they feel the need to attack you like that.. i feel the same as you and do get frustrated with some peoples posts and comments.. i hope that you dont get anymore and that those rude people keep their opinions and hate to themselves..

best of luck and sorry to hear people are being so rude to you.

Corrie - posted on 04/29/2011

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That's the thing to Ianina. I said from the beginning i didn't plan on or particularly agree with c-cizing (partially due to lack of knowledge), but i would never EVER write something to a mother in complaint of her decision. The only decisions that should or COULD be repremanded are life threatening and dangerous ones. Which for the most part, only in the minority of cases, is c-sizing relevant.
Get them sorted Emily.

Ianina - posted on 04/29/2011

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I agree with Corrie. Report them!
I fully support YOUR choice, is YOUR baby and no one elses. Just can't believe how childish some people are. They have NO right to even consider send you an email about that

Jennifer - posted on 04/29/2011

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Wow...I'm really sorry anyone said ANYTHING negative to you about this...I completely support you. need anyone to talk to...I'm here.

Emily - posted on 04/29/2011

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how can you call yourselves ADULTS when all you do is act like CHILDREN??? So JUVENILE!!!

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