Newborn troubles!

Merry - posted on 05/26/2011 ( 20 moms have responded )

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Well, I hope I'm not the only one having a hard time adjusting to our new baby!
She is hard to figure out and I'm stressed alot and so tired!
Sometimes I worry it's not worth it, but I know she will be such a gift for us, right now I'm just moody and tired and stressed.
So please, if you have some hard times with the new baby, post here so we all can see we aren't the only ones with bad days sometimes!

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Sandra - posted on 06/11/2011

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Well, my husband took a job out of state and the first week he was gone I felt overwhelmed in having a newborn and a toddler at home. Once I got used to a nap cycle and having my mother-in-law or friend take my toddler a few hours a day, it got easier. I hope in a week we can all move out of state together and be a family again. It's tough.

Merry - posted on 06/08/2011

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I just picture how she will look in a few months, all cute and chubby and smily and giggling and sitting up, crawling, eventually walking...! That makes me smile always! It's herd cuz I thought I loved the newborn stage, but when I have two kids I don't have time to sit and just enjoy the newborn stuff. With Eric my first I would hold him through almost every nap, I'd play with him every time he was awake, and id only put him down to make food. I'd even hold him while I ate and while I used the toilet! He was so happy, but I wonder if he was so happy just because he got my full attention all day and night! What did he have to cry about right?!?!
This time I'm juggling the two of them, fierna ends up bring put down more then Eric ever did, and so she cries more. Makes sense but still hard. I nt to make both kids happy etc, but it's like I can't manage all the time, sooner or later one of them h to be crying for me while I care for the other. It's sad but yes, this too shall pass!

Katie - posted on 06/07/2011

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I'm having a tough time adjusting to my NB with having a 22 month old toddler as well. My DS wakes a lot at night and then I'm up with my DD in the day time obviously, so I always feel like I never sleep. Stressed, tired, grouchy... I'd say they're common symptoms of being a new mom.
I just remind myself of the saying "this too shall pass...." you'll get over one thing you find difficult dleaing with, only to have new challenges arise that are ready to face.

Try & remember your not the only one, that there is lots of mamas out there feeling the same way. Heres to getting some sleep at night and lucky enough for naps in the day ;)

Megan - posted on 06/05/2011

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amen sister! transitioning to two kids has been extremely hard, emotional and on top of that i have been sick. nursing it tougher this time around too so all around "why did i do this again?" feeling. hang in there we are all toughing thru together.

Stephanie - posted on 06/02/2011

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Yea, I've let some colourful language go...the crying is usually easier though and is a quicker recharge although I do have to argue with my fiance and insist that no, I'm NOT depressed, JUST TIRED!!! I had to pull my toddler from her 2 days a week at daycare just for the month of June because I just can't afford the $50/week so hopefully Gavyn's sleeping a little better come July when she starts going back (again, hopefully) and then mommy can start catching up!

Merry - posted on 06/02/2011

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Glad I'm not the only one turning on the water works some nights! I really don't swear, but recently....... :) it's rough when you just want to sleep!

Stephanie - posted on 06/02/2011

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I'm going through it too, I spend a lot of nights crying because I'm so damn tired and Gavyn is up most of the night. He's a very fussy baby and I think he has a bit of acid reflux as well although I don't think it's to the extent that you're going through. He tosses up at least one bottle a day and always the last little bit of the others but he has a habit of overeating as well. And it's really frustrating trying to burp him because they don't come easily but it's constant. I haven't quite mastered juggling the two of them either, my toddler is just starting potty training and she's pretty adjusted to her brother now but sometimes she still gets upset and tries to hijack my lap while I'm feeding him. I definately took for granted how easy and laid back of a baby she was lol. Ah well, it'll all pass. Keep hanging in there. :)

Miranda - posted on 06/01/2011

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Emma (2 1/2 weeks old) was taken from me for a week as for some reason I was accused of doing drugs when pregnant even though they didn't even have the results back! Luckily they had to give her back when the results came back negative. Anyway.. I got her back on Thursday. She came home with a bad diaper rash. Yesterday she didn't sleep much at all. It hurt her too much. I felt so bad for her because every time she wet her diaper, she started screaming as loud as she could. I wanted to cry myself. I am going to take her to the doctor if I still can't get it to at least start clearing up by Friday. I've been letting her air out as much as I can. I really hope this thing goes away.

Megan - posted on 05/31/2011

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this nursing thing seems more painful than last time. tiny mouth+big nipple= scabs ouch! i know she is latching right because the pain subsides after the initial latch but man those latches make me cry!

Merry - posted on 05/28/2011

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Thanks! It's going to get better, I know it. I'm going to bed now hallelujah! Two kids asleep, me next :)

Jessica - posted on 05/28/2011

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Laura - You know you are doing the best you can right now, right? I had a girlfriend who's little one had reflux as well and the medicine definately helped him. I hope you get the same result. Mom guilt is aweful. My milk didn't come in properly for my first baby and I felt terrible as well...like I was failing her. Once you get Fierna checked out an medicated I'm sure things will settle down for you. You must be frustrated with the holiday weekend too. Don't feel guilty, I know it sounds corny but you are doing everything you should be doing to the best of your abilities! Good luck and know we are all thinking about you and sending happy and healthy thoughts!!

Merry - posted on 05/28/2011

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It's awful seeing her scream, I can tell she's hurting and it does break my heart. And then I'm feeling guilty I'm not able to help her. Then I get mad cuz I feel like I'm failing her. It's a viscious cycle. Mom guilt is the pits.

Ianina - posted on 05/28/2011

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I'm really sorry to hear that you and Fierna are having such a hard time. On top, she must be in a lot of pain and there is nothing you can do about it, which makes a mom heartbroken :(
I'm sure things are going to get better soon, hang in there girl

Merry - posted on 05/28/2011

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When she swallows she gulps and whimpers and screams, she fights eating but wants to, so it's like she's starving but then when she swallows she screams, she will tense up her belly right before she screams, she pulls her knees up to her belly when she cries, she gulps alot and I can hear her stomach kicking back into her throat and then she swallows it and screams, she can be peacefully sleeping and then all of a sudden she is curling into a ball and screaming, she claws at me when she cries like she's trying to escape something. She spitts up alot and she needs to burp so much, once she is asleep she sleeps well usually, but its horror trying to get her asleep, she needs to be upright on my chest as I bounce and walk around to fall asleep, then she also can't lay on her back or she gags and chokes.
Phew, that's alot but all of it points to acid reflux, and my husband has it as does his brother and sister and they all have had ulcers from their acid reflux. So that's how we know :) quite the extensive list huh, I swear, this is so not fun, I'm just so worried that the medicine won't help even when we get it. I can't keep going like this, it's got to get better or I'll loose my mind if I haven't already. Sorry, don't mean to sound so depressed but honestly it's NOT going good over here. I wish I could say it's great, I'd like to lie and say it's fine, but honestly we are miserable here. She is so hard and we are so tired and it's so depressing to put so much effort into a baby that seems to a,ways be crying. It will get better. I has to. It can't get much worse.

Merry - posted on 05/27/2011

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Fierna has acid reflux;( so that's why she's been so upset. We can't get the medicine filled until tuesday so I'm worried about these nights til then, but daytimes are settling a bit. She's gained a pound in two weeks and is breastfeeding great! She's only got one boob to feed off of cuz erics got the other one and I'm happy to say they both have plenty of milk! So I'm hopeful she will be happier once we get the reflux controlled. But for now she has a few screaming fits here and there, usually when I'm trying to sleep :(

Jen - posted on 05/27/2011

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Everything seems to be going well for us. Zachary loves a change of scenery. If he starts fussing too much we just get up and do something else or he goes to chill out with Daddy. Early on my husband complained that Zachary was a mommy's boy because he would fuss every time he had him. However, we have found out the 2 positions that Zachary loves and that will calm him. Zachary does still end up in our bed some nights, but he is going 4-5 hour stretches each night. :) My daughter slept through at 8 weeks and I hope Zachary will decide to sleep through early as well, but we'll see. I am proud to say that he has yet to have any formula! My daughter was both from day 1 because I wanted my husband to be able to participate in night feedings, but my daughter never woke up before 1 am )which is our cut off for daddy being responsible for the baby). This time around though I was very set on EBFing and I'm glad to have gone almost 4 weeks already. I go back to work next week and I'm hoping my supply hold out because I don't want to use formula until I'm mixing baby food.

Corrie - posted on 05/27/2011

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I feel, though it's probably the adrenaline, that i'm coping amazingly. Though i don't like the word 'Coping'
Aj is 10 days old today. He's gained 10ozs since he was born, he is on the breast whenever he wants it which is currently between hourly for 30 minutes and 3 hourly for 10 minutes. He's demand feeding and posseting every time pretty much but it's not dangerous amounts or inconveniant.
My nights are going OK. I go up to bed around 10-10:30 and Keith has him until he wakes for food, or until he wants to come to bed!! (ysually a couple of hours :) Bliss!!) and during the night he has a dummy (since yesterday, suspected mastitis and very sore bleeding nipples :( ouch! )
and two-three feeds. I wake every morning SOAKED regardless of the numerous breast pads.... and chilly so i spend an hour with a towel and baby AJ on the breast to warm us both up and have some skin on skin :)
Sam still hates him but it's a lot easier with it just being ME giving him the dicipline instead of his dad and grandmother too... It's going ok.
Hope everyone is alright.
Remember, PND (PPD) isn't something to be ashamed of and comes in all shapes and forms. Don't be scared to ask for help.
Love love.

Jessica - posted on 05/27/2011

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I had a terrible time adjusting with my first baby. Emma needed attention all the time. She would not sleep unless she nursed to sleep and then was held while sleeping (sometimes she would sleep in her swing). We ended up co-sleeping so I could get some sleep and she was in our bed for almost a year. I loved the cuddling, but I missed having my bed for me! I suspect I may have had a little post-partum depression after Emma because I was never happy and always anxious about her and I cried a lot. Luckily once she started sleeping longer (and deeper) periods of time things got way better. My new baby (Rose) is a dream compared to Emma. My MIL tells me that's because I am more relaxed and I know more of what is going on with her. I disagree. Rose is a quiet, happy baby who eats very well (she's gained more than a pound past her birth weight in 2 weeks) and then sleeps for a while and when she's awake she is happy to just look around and coo and be cute. I feel extra blessed that this baby is easy compared to the stress I felt with Emma. I do understand how hard it can be with a new baby and no sleep. Good luck to you all, you know you will figure out your babies and they are very lucky to have you as their mommies. Keep smiling ladies! :)

Ianina - posted on 05/26/2011

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I was just waiting for a post like this...
I have double the trouble!! hahaha
My twin girls are hard to figure out too sometimes, and since this are my first, even worse!!
They eat every 3-4 hours, but sometimes they want to eat every 2-2.5, and that ruins MY schedule for things...when they start crying at 5 am and they both ate 2 hours before is hard to realize if they want to eat more or something else is going on.
Also, I think Sean doesn't have the patience that I have with them and he overfed them sometimes, and they end up puking :(
I'm overtired since I have the night shift to take care of the girls so Sean can sleep and he takes care of them during the day and I can "get some sleep" (never happens...hahaha)
Anyways...the girls overall are really good, they don't cry or get fussy ALL the time, they sleep a lot and they are good eaters.

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