"Public breastfeeding: yes or no?"

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This was the title of a thread on the Breastfeeding Moms board. Some of you may have seen it? Although I was pleased to see the pretty much everyone said, "YES", there were a few moms who stated that, yes it's OK as long as you cover up. I personally find this offensive. If other women want to cover up then that's fine. But when others suggest that every nursing mother should be covering up, well that kind of ticks me off. Thoughts?


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Maree - posted on 01/15/2012




I breast feed whenever and wherever my daughter needs to. No one sees anything so i don't think i've offended anyone...i wouldn't care if i had.

Personally a woman bottle feeding is more offensive to me.

Racheal - posted on 08/10/2010




i never use a cover and you see more cleavage on kim kardashian than you do on me when my DS in nursing!!!! if they dont like it they can look away, i really dont give a crap about there feelings, its my sons that i care about :)

Jessica - posted on 04/07/2010




I used to cover up but then I realized it made me feel uncomfortable. Not only that, but I started to wonder, "Why the hell should I cover up?" So I stopped. Now, I feed her anywhere without a cover and I'm fine. If she gets hungry while we're shopping, I'll walk around with her eating while I hold her! I love it, it's so liberating :D I admire any mother who feels comfortable nursing in public.

Hannah - posted on 03/19/2010




As far as covering, and not covering... I'm all over the board.. Sometimes I do, sometimes I don't. My daughter gets so warm under the cover, and it gets frustrating. I guess it all depends on the circumstances, and where I am when I need to nurse.

Alisa - posted on 02/27/2010




It's so much more difficult to cover, but I feel like I need to. Is there a happy medium?

Nicole - posted on 02/17/2010




I hope these are people you know April. Digging through your diaper would be inappropriate otherwise. LOL

April - posted on 02/15/2010




i am also anti-cover because who wants to eat with a blanket in their face? Do you? my son absolutely refused.

i think suggesting that a woman should be covered isn't as bad as actually covering her. Everytime I would try to bf in public, someone would dig through my diaper bag for a blanket and cover me. And of course, my son would stop nursing and couldn't be re-introduced!

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I agree Jessica. When I see something I don't like, I look away. Why can't everyone else do the same?

Jessica - posted on 02/11/2010




My girlfriend and I are currently nursing (dd is 16 months, her ds is 4 months) and we each have a very different approach to it. She covers, I do not. I understand why she covers - she was raised in a "formulacentric" family and can't even bring herself to wear shorts in the summer, let alone dresses! My own family has been 100% for me openly and uncoveredly nursing. I use bedrooms when I'm at other family members' homes out of respect for them and so we have a quiet place as my dd nurses mainly for sleep now.

What bugs me is how non-nursing individuals feel the need to push their lack of comfort onto nursing moms. I mean, come on... do I publicly announce that a woman needs to 'tuck those things into a bra' when she wears a thin white shirt and it's cold out??? NO! I don't bother them about their boobs, leave mine alone!

Nicole - posted on 01/30/2010




It bothers me too that discreet women feel that ALL women should breastfeed discreetly. I don't really care whether a woman covers or not, and neither should anyone else. Breasts are just food for hungry children to me. LOL

It's funny because I belong to a Christian faith that promotes modesty, but I have never been made to feel like breastfeeding should be hidden. We do have a place called a "Mother's Room" for discreet breastfeeding (if you choose) with a changing table and extra things that may be needed in case you are out (i.e. wipes, diapers, etc.). Although, I have breastfed in the middle of the service, I love the Mother's Room, because with the speakers, you can still hear the service, use the changing table and, the real reason I love it, sit in the real comfy chairs and talk and gab with all of the other nursing mothers and ogle at each other's nursing children while the fathers are stuck in the middle of the service trying to keep the other children content. LOL But, shhhh!!!! don't tell our husbands! =)

I would never show my breasts in public if I were not breastfeeding (what would be the point?), but never care if I am while in the act of breastfeeding. Breastfeeding my baby is far more important than being modest at that moment and I am SO sure that Heavenly Father agrees with me! After all, what was Christ fed????

Minnie - posted on 01/30/2010




Unfortunately I know many women who are pro-breastfeeding and vehemently anti- NIP. And they're all conservatitve Baptists. Blech. I actually got told off by a woman at a church we visited. She said "If my husband had known that you nursed your daughter in the service (which I had) he would have been really offened." More than one person, even the pastor of the church told me that I should have nursed her at home and left her in the nursery for service. That she should be perfectly capable of waiting until service was over.

Huh. I wonder if we ever went there again? What a way to send the visitors running for the doors.

Veronica - posted on 01/28/2010




I don't think it's right to assume that it's OK to NIP ONLY when covered. But for some women this is the only way they feel comfortable NingIP. I have very conservative values and think modesty is really important, to me. (I don't force my views on others, in fact, I wish I could whip it out in public). For those moms that can, I commend them. However, for people to be ashamed of NingIP is just wrong. If the cover helps, wear it. I do.

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I thought it was a weird topic too. It's on a breastfeeding board so why would anyone say no? I don't care if a woman is covered or not. They're just breasts. All women have them and they are put there to feed babies. Made me think about feeding my daughter while talking to my sister in law. My daughter had popped off and was looking around and my boob was just hanging there. I didn't even realize she wasn't nursing until I looked down. My sister in law didn't notice either and we both thought it was pretty funny.

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