First pregnancy and husband at boot camp!!! HELP!

Meghan - posted on 01/19/2010 ( 6 moms have responded )




Hi! just wanted to introduce myself. I am pregnant with my first child and my husband left last week for his 7 week training at basic. The "plan" right now is that once he graduates from basic, we will be moving to South Carolina for his A school. Does any one know what the AF base is called there? Im trying to look for some housing but having trouble. Also, life is very rough right now with him gone and me being pregnant, and tips? How did u get through it? Whats some good advice to get a head start on b4 he graduates? Im so lost on all this.. Please HELP in any way you can!


C. - posted on 01/19/2010




Charleston AFB. It's alright. Been going there since I was 5 or 6, aside from the 9 months we were in Hawaii. I am actually in SC right now while my husband is deployed.

My husband (then bf/fiance) was at basic and AIT while I was pregnant w/ our first and had to report to his first duty station w/o me b/c I was so far along. I went through deep depression off and on throughout my pregnancy b/c I wasn't married when I got pregnant, so my family was upset at that, and my husband wasn't there except for maybe 4 or 5 weeks out of the 9 months. Find as many new moms or moms-to-be and surround yourself with them. Any friends and family will be great right now. Scrapbooking or getting a job just to pass the time would help (though I think I would do scrapbooking vs getting a job depending on how far along you are and how long you'll be there). Good luck! If you need anything, have any questions or just want to talk, feel free to send me a PM.

Gina - posted on 01/19/2010




the only advice I have is to stay busy....I know its hard especially at night, I would concentrate on preparing for the new baby...start a project like knitting a baby blanket...or get some books to read. I wrote my husband every single day a few times a day while he was at boot camp it helped me alot, made me feel like i was talking to him and he loved the long letters. our son was 5 month when he left so my son kept me pretty busy during the day. hang in there I know its hard, but when you see him at graduation its all worth it.


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Tonya - posted on 01/26/2010




It's been a while, she's 15 now, but I found out I was pregnant with our first 2 weeks after he left. While I was so excited, I was sad to not be able to share it with him. Everyone knew before he did, I had to wait until his first call home to tell him. I was lucky enough to be around lots of family and friends who were very supportive of me. I wrote daily, and waited for his calls to fill him in. Just give him every little piece of info, even if you don't think it is important, it is to him :) I flew to see him graduate. Crazy...only for the weekend and it killed me to leave, but totally worth whatever I spent on it. Unfortunately, I'm sure that this will not be the first hard thing you go through being a military wife, but after almost 16 years, I don't regret a minute of it and am so proud of him. It has made us a strong family and our marriage only better as time goes by. You have to make a concious decision to stick together and work together no matter what, don't even entertain the thought of divorce because it's hard, it is worth it for your family. Ok, I digress, that doesn't change that it is all true :) Brittany is right, you have to remember, everything for him changes, but for you, mostly everything stays the same, so focus on him (and that precious baby) and it will help to keep your mind in a better state, GOOD LUCK!

Brittany - posted on 01/19/2010




Its just Charleston AFB. I have lived in Charleston my whole life minus the 7 months in Ft. Stewart, GA! Its beautiful here. Housing shouldn't be that hard to find. There are plenty of apartments and town homes around the base. I know what you are going through I am 39 weeks pregnant and my husband is currently deployed to Iraq for a year. I moved back to Charleston to be with my family. Military life is not easy, but you have to stick through it together. Find something to fill you time. That's the only thing that I have found to help. Keep as busy as possible! Write letters and send you hubby surprise package. He will love it! Take lots of pics of you and your belly as your baby grows! Try to make him feel like he isn't missing much. I know its hard on us left here to do it on our own, but its just as hard on them missing everything.

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I'm 35 weeks pregnant and my husband is 3 weeks away from graduating basic. So he has been gone a lot too. I write my husband every single day and tell him about the pregnancy and silly little details that I know he misses about just being home. If you ever want to talk send me a message! I am in your shoes as well for 26 more days! You will make it! The first 4 weeks was the most difficult!

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