Husband couldnt be happier....but will it be the same?

Bellea-Mariea - posted on 11/26/2009 ( 3 moms have responded )




11/11/09 at 11:11pm (no joke) Zackarious Takashi Miyia II was born he looks just like his daddy, even at 2 months early he shows he is just as strong as his daddy.

I'm just worried about when he gets older, will zack put the pressure on lil z to become a soldier like zacks father did to him???


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Jessica - posted on 11/27/2009




I was raised in teh Army and loved it. Out of 4 kids 3 of us have joined- two in the UT NG and me on active duty. Initially my parents didnt want me to join (I started it all as Im the oldest) but they were really proud of me when they were there to see me get commissioned and now have influenced my brother to follow the same path (he is enlisted but is now going to college through ROTC). My hsuband is now out of the Army and says he doesnt want our kids to join up but I say whatever they want to do in life I will support them. I will answer any questions they might have about my time in the Army and my husbands. I think the only way to do it is to raise them up to make their own choices in life and the resulting consequences

Julia - posted on 11/27/2009




At least you don't know husband has already said that his sons will not only join the Army (no other branch will do) but they can only go into the infantry! He has also said that his daughters will join as well (I was in myself for 8 years) I have told him no way I want to keep my children as far away as possible, however if THEY choose to join then I will support their decisions. Which is the only thing you can do for your children. Raise them to make their own decisions and try to keep your husband away from swaying the child as long as possible! That is the best you can do. And have the discussion with him to find out his feelings before you jump to conclusions.

Rebecca - posted on 11/27/2009




This too worries me. I have told my husband i don't want our son to join but if he was to do so on his own i would respect it. My husband is not from a military family and neither am i. We are first generations i guess you could say. I lived by a base my whole life though so i saw some of the pain caused at times. I guees deep down i am hoping my son doesn't like the aspect of moving all the time and decides he doesn't want that life for his family. Might sound weird but i truly do hope that. The only thing we can do is just raise them the way we see fit adn they will fall in to their own place when they get older. No matter what your husband did for a living i think our children will make a decision based on what they truly wish and if they want to do military we need to ask if they would do it if they weren't raised in that lifestyle.

I am in shock about your sons birthday by the way. Have you discussed your fears with your husband? If i was you i would be ahving that conversation really soon becuase he is going to be molding that child to who he will become in the future just as much as you and you both need to be on the same page. My husband and i have agreed not to pressure either of our kids and they will all be involved in sports to keep busy and out of trouble as they get older i guess. I'm not sure if any of this helps but i will be thinking of you and i hope things work out for you and your family.

Good luck

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