My husband is coming home after being gone

Eve - posted on 05/15/2010 ( 5 moms have responded )




Ok so my husband came home for the birth of our son in January and was here for the first 10 days of our sons life. However that was 4 months ago. Is my child gonna freak out when his daddy tries to take care of him and hold him and stuff?Im very nervous and I want time to myself while dad visits but Im afraid O wpmt get any because my son will not take so to speak to his father?


Adriana - posted on 05/16/2010




My youngest little girl was born during a 15 month deployment. My husband didn't get to met her until she was 8 months old. I had pictures laminated. I rounded of the corners for safety. Hole punched them so I could make a book. I showed this book to her every day told her it was daddy. She first met him when he came home for R&R. She recognized him from the pictures. She let him hold her it was only for a few minutes the first time but she never cried out, she was just not sure what to make of him. We had him for 18 days before he had to go back and she was already a daddys little girl. When he left I continued to show her the pictures so she would not forget him. He came home from the deployment a few weeks before her first birthday. She beeline strait to him! That has been a year now. She likes going every where with daddy. Now she gets mad if daddy goes some where with out her.


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Katy - posted on 05/17/2010




My husband also missed the birth of our daughter and was not there for the first 5 months of her life. It took her a few weeks to know he was there for good, and they developed an incredible bond. During the time he was gone, we had numerous phone calls and she heard his voice that way and I did show her pictures of him daily. But really, it just comes to the initial first few weeks. He should make sure to make her as comfortable as possible and not give up if she cries! Keep trying and trying again! Have him push the stroller if she loves walks, visit the zoo if she loves animals, and try and have every first experience as positive as possible. It's hard as one on one time is also needed and your child is so young, but most babies seem to know somehow their daddy anyways! Good luck and congratulations on him coming home!

Samantha - posted on 05/16/2010




My husband missed the pregnancy, birth and the first 6 mo. of our daughters life. She LOVES him. They'll grow into each other. Just don't leave him alone with the baby until he's completely comfortable doing EVERYTHING by himself. It's just to make it a smoother transition. Good luck, you'll all be just fine.

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Adriana's picture idea is great! You could also try having your husband talk to him on the phone or send him a mini tape recorder and a couple of story books so he can read them to the baby and you can play them back and he'll recognize the voice. It'd be cool if you had it on video but I know that's not very realistic; we did that before my husband left. Or maybe a webcam? I don't know you communication situation where he's at. Kids know their parents so it won't take very long if there's a problem at all.

Medic - posted on 05/15/2010




My kids both took just fine to their dad and both spent less time with their dad than your husband spent with yours. Just relax your son will pick up on your anxiety and it will be bad if your just relaxed and normal he will be fine.

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