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Arlene - posted on 03/30/2009 ( 5 moms have responded )




Hi, my name is Arlene Richardson(22). My husband recently joined the Army (MOS Infantry). He is leaving tomorrow for bootcamp and will be gone for about 4-5 months. I have 2 young ones at home as well. My daughter Sky who is turning 2 and my son Brandon Jr. who is going on 4.

It's starting to hit me now that I'm gonna be doing this without him now, for a while at least. And truthfully I'm a little worried. My son doesn't really get the idea that daddy is leaving and I'm afraid of how he is going to take it after a while. I'm also a little worried about keeping order since I'm going back to work part-time.

I'm excited because this is going to be a brand new start for us. It's just the time it takes to get there is what I'm worried about.

Any advice?


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Rebecca - posted on 04/04/2009




When my husband was in bootcamp I wrote him a letter every nite since we couldn't talk. That helped and also working and taking care of my kids.

Becky - posted on 04/04/2009




I'm a fairly new Army Reserve wife with 2 children ages 2 and 7 months. To top it off I'm finishing treatments for breast cancer. In the 2 years my husband and I have been married, I've been left at home to take care of kids and home at least 4 times a year if not more and I can say that while it can be tough on some days - you definately find your daily pattern and things get better and easier as time goes by. When hubby is out of town, we set up our computers with yahoo messenger and set time aside for live chat - he can see the kids via webcam and we get some time to "chat" without ringing up a phone bill. We also make sure there is one live phone call per day when the kids are awake and able to listen to his voice on the phone. In the past this has worked well. I also live close to family and when I need time for myself they help with babysitting so I can get some quiet time. Remember to just take things one day at a time and know that time will go fast. Best wishes to you - 

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welcome to the army!

take it one day at a time. im at the end of my husband's basic and im still amazed i got thru it in one piece, i wrote him everyday before i went to sleep, i show my daughter pictures of him ( she is 8 months old)

It gets easier but your gonna have days that suck to put it bluntly.

you'll get thru it and everyone on this group is supportive

try these site

they help alot too!

take care

Beth - posted on 03/30/2009





My husband is in the Air Force and we have been in for almost 4 year now. He is also part of a specific group called Red Horse, and their main objective is to deploy once every year. So my husband is deployed a lot. As a matter of fact he is getting ready to go again here in two weeks.

Anyways our son was 2 years old when he went to basic/boot, and when ever Kasey asked where daddy was I just kept telling him that daddy would be home soon and that he was at work. A really important thing I found was that when my husband got the moral calls that I let Kasey talk to him so that he knew for sure that daddy was coming home and that he was at work.

When Ryan deploys we find special daddy and i paper and my husband sends Kasey his own letters.. It is a way for him to know that daddy is thinking about him even though he is not there.

Hope this helps, and best of luck to you...


Jennifer - posted on 03/30/2009




HI Arlene... welcome to military life. My husband has been in the marines for almost 7 years. How my 4 year copes with daddy leaving is daddy is going to work for a while..It will be hard. Try getting into a rounte now and kept to it. My daughter likes to start planning a welcome home party too. She starts making list and cutting out pictures of what she wants to do for daddy when he gets home.  Boot camp and training is just the start of them being a way for a little time here and there. Keep they postive out look and tell your kids how proud of daddy you are and how proud they should be... My 4 year old tell her little sister, when she gets upset daddy isnt home, that daddy went to work to help people and we are proud of daddy and he will be home soon.  And its a good thing you are going back to work... it gives you a break. Trust me youll need it sometimes.... good luck!

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