Needing advice with Boyfriend Ex wife?

Samantha - posted on 08/23/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )

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Hi I am new to this site and needing some advice

I just moved in with my bf about 3 weeks ago he works as a fracker and works alot of hrs. I keep the house clean and do his laundry he is such a down to earth guy. So he is in the middle of a divorce his ex left cause she said he was never home and wanted him to quit his job. He loves his job and the pay is great they have a 1 yr old daughter together and she left Texas and went to California with the child. It is really hard on him and I know he misses his daughter. We are going to court here soon to try to see if we can get joint custody.

Today we had to call in cause she wanted a emergency hearing for custody,Spousal support, Visitation etc. The judge said since she has only lived in California for a month they have no jurisdiction and she has to come to Texas to file everything. Cause it is 6 months in any state to be consider a legal resident. She really hates me and I told my bf what to expect and I even found the attorney that we now hired. He is so busy with work he had no time to do it during business hrs. So my question is can he get joint custody or maybe even full custody. She does not work does not have a car and lives with her mom. She is wanting him to pay her 1000 a month for child support. Idk I am so stressed people are saying this is non of my business but it is I live with him and we handle our problems together as a team. Had it not been for me he would not have found this great attorney and got the proper paper work filed also the house is clean and his clothes are clean and he always has a home cooked meal I try my best to make him happy cause I know he deserves He has tried to talk to his ex about his daughter and he can not hold a conversation with her she is always yelling and screaming and cursing at him he never says anything negative back. We offer to send the baby a package of diapers and baby needs and the first thing she asked was if I was buying any of it and if so she did not want it. Help please... Sigh

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Jamie - posted on 08/25/2012

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I say this with respect - you should stay out of it. One day, when you become a mother, you will understand. You have no idea what a mother will do for her child, esspecialy if she thinks another woman is moving in. You bf's ex could be the worst, deadbeat, negligent mother in the world but its HER daughter. You have a right to maintain your relationship but you will always have boundaries with that little girl. Don't step over them.

Samantha - posted on 08/23/2012

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Thanks so much this makes me feel better hearing this news, We are not engaged we really want to just take it slow but as far as living together and caring for one another we have a healthy relationship, Personally the best one I have been in we don't yell or scream we talk things out.

He wants joint custody to be fair. Another question can she request I not be around the child or lets say we go to California next month to see the baby and she denies him to see her cause I am with him can she do that?

Michelle - posted on 08/23/2012

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I would talk to a lawyer. I can honestly say a judge would look more seriously at him if he was engaged to be married as I know he is getting divorced but they look for stability that is the biggest factor. Is she withholding visitation from him cause a judge will frown upon that also communicate via email or text message so that you have record of everything that both parties say. A lawyer would better be able to help you determine if he can get full custody, they will most definitely give joint if that is what he asks for.

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