what a wife ends up with when the oilfields are layin offleft n right

Shanna - posted on 07/17/2009 ( 2 moms have responded )




i always supported my husband and his oilfriend occupation..years and years long hours away tripps so many things he was not seeing as out children grew older from being babies and then last month the big lay off came and mine was included over 400 employees..now he is home and as much as i thought i wanted him here to see and be with the kids it is driving me nuts!!! when someone has a rountine for years and works as hard as ours do and they have nothing to do grrrrrrrrrrrrrr...help any suggestions it is at times like having a toddler all over again ..i need some time to myself it seems more now than ever is that too selfish?


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Billie Gail - posted on 07/19/2009




Encourage him to go fishing! That works for my husband. I go along most of the time and read a book or fish with him. A lot of the time a man will want to be with his pole alone (to think or sulk) or a friend. He is not use to having this much time on his hands and does not know what to do with himself. Just, kindly, encourage him to do something or call a friend of his up and ask if he will make time for your hubby.
Good luck

Kimberly - posted on 07/19/2009




Hi Shanna, I know exactly what you mean. My husband had been in a driller on land rigs for 20 years and was never home while our oldest 3 grew up and then he got laid off in April. I thought I was going to have to shoot him before he went back to work last night for the first time. He was always starting projects that required the covering of my entire front lawn, cooking where my entire kitchen was left with no clean pots or pans and after about 3 months yelling at our 2 youngest for almost nothing. My husband finally found a job hauling frac sand for a company out of Alice and I am sooooooo relieved to have the house to myself. I promise not to feel lonely for at least a good 2 weeks. I sometimes felt like I had a pet racoon that was constantly into everything and I would even make up reasons to stay at work late just so I could have some time to myself and BREATHE! LOL, funny how we always feel sorry for ourselves when they are gone until they are home for a long time. Hang in there hon, the oilfield is on it's way back up and maybe he can get something else in the meantime. If not, try to get him to go fish or work outside the house doing whatever projects he is capable of just so you can keep your sanity and let him live until he goes back to work.

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