dead tired

Luzanne - posted on 04/03/2009 ( 8 moms have responded )

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Hi Everyone, I am a mother of a 2½ year old girl and a 6month old baby. My girl has never slept through a night. My body is on autopilot, I sleep an average of 5 hours (not straight) a night. It seems like everything is happening at once. potty train, new bed, eat right, no bottle etc. I have respect for moms with children closer of age or more than 2 children.

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Danielle - posted on 07/14/2009

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I know how you feel I have a 4 year old boy,a 18 month old boys,and 2 month old twin boys and I'm also raising my 4 year old nephew I know how it feels being dead tired

Jennifer - posted on 05/23/2009

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I have a 2 1/2 year old boy, a 1 year old girl, and a 2 month old girl. You've got it a bit easier. I saw a suggestion that if you could get them down for a nap at the same time, you could get sleep then. Don't rely on both kids for that chance. If the older one is ready for a nap, go ahead and lay down with your 6 month old. At that age they might not want to, but they'll give up pretty quick and fall asleep with you.

And when you say your girl has never slept through a night, do you mean your 2 1/2 year old?

Brandi - posted on 05/13/2009

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I have two children 10 months apart. they are 7 and 6 now. I know where you are now. It does get easier as they get older but there will always be somthing. Hang in there. you HAVE to take a time out for yourself at least once a week. if it is just to go to the store by yourself. in my case its a bad thing because instead of going and following "the list" I always go and pick somthing out for them because they werent there to if they was i would just say no lol.



with my 2 i kinda treated them equally. bedtime for one the other one went too. I had them sleep together in the same bed as soon as the baby out grew the crib. they are 6 & 7 and they still go to bed at the same time. i have found that keeping to a schedule works wonders. certain time to eat snack nap bath bed play. weekends i slack with the schedule and they enjoy it. I also raised my girls to be "outside" kids. they love to be outside and explore and play. that also helps wear all their energy off as well. love summer swimming beach t-ball gardening take lil adventure walks and let them explore bugs (yuck) birds sticks flowers they love it!!!!!

Deanna - posted on 05/11/2009

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My oldest three are all two years apart. The best advice I can give you is routines. Set up routines. Not so easy for a baby, but if you can get your two year old to take a nap while the baby is sleeping, you can get a little nap in for your self, too. Just make it a set time, like a two hour nap. Make sure bed time and wake up time are set times. It's a way of setting a sleep schedule. If your 2 year old isn't sleeping a lot a night, she may need a long nap during the day. If your daughter gets up frequently in the night and then tries to sleep in in the morning, try waking her up at 7 or 8 in the morning and keep her up until nap time. But, make sure the nap is only 1-2 hours. It may be exhausting the first couple of days, but it may help her to sleep through the night. As for the baby, well, most babies eventually sleep through the night. You just have to wait it out.

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I have three young kids, ages 3, just turned 2, and 4 months. The middle one always naps right after lunch, and if I'm lucky I get the baby to sleep too, and try to nap with the oldest in bed with me. It is a rare occasion when that happens! You might even try putting in a movie for the toddler when the baby is asleep, and doze on the couch in the room with her. Any rest is better than none. Of course you can always try going to bed earlier, but I understand our schedules don't always allow for that.

It seems like that age does have a lot coming all at once, but that is the age we finally conquered bedtime with our oldest! If bedtime is sporadic or too late, try making it consistent. Don't interact with her any more than necessary when she wakes up at night...don't talk, try to pat her back instead of picking her up, that sort of thing. Depending on the situation, maybe she just needs some "tough love" and a cry-it-out approach if all else fails.

There might be some tricks for getting baby to sleep all night too. I got mine on a system (found in a book called On Becoming Babywise), basically you feed them when they wake up instead of when they are going to sleep, plus an extra feeding at night to put them to bed. Also try to avoid extra stimulation at night, no talking, low light, don't change diapers unless absolutely necessary. If you can train those kids to sleep better at night, you will sleep better too, and feel better during the day! I know how hard it is to be a good mom when you are sleep-deprived!

Good luck! Don't give up!

Lynn - posted on 04/09/2009

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yeh i agree, you need help! the hardest thing i found (my kids are 17 months apart) was trying to get them to sleep at the same time during the day. if you can do that, take yourself for a rest as well, because like they say, a tired mum is a cranky mum! and you need to be rested to function properly. if you have a friend or family, or your partner to help you at some point that would be good. that sounds tough though, hope it all works out! all the best xoxo

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Can you ask for help from family or friend, so you can get some sleep sometimes? Husband? anyone? Otherwise you are doing yourself a disservice. Also not good for family when you start to "losing it". 

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Can you ask for help from family or friend, so you can get some sleep sometimes? Husband? anyone? Otherwise you are doing yourself a disservice. Also not good for family when you start to "losing it". 

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