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Tina - posted on 04/30/2009 ( 3 moms have responded )

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Hello to everyone I am a 23 year old mother to soon to be three children all under four years old. My oldest child is 3 years old, next up is our 14 month old son, and then there is the one currently cooking lol due in September 2009. I was just wondering if anyone had any helpful information about how to handle three children under four years old. I made the adjustment just fine going from one to two children but going from two to three I am not so sure about. My son is very much a "mommies boy" and I don't think that being that young he really understands that mommy is going to have a baby. I know that our three year old daughter understands what s happening due to the fact that she has been through this all before, and that she was a little older when we were expecting. Any ideas or suggestions about how to help with maybe detaching my son a little bit from me or how to prepare him for the new baby would be very appreciated.



Thanks

Tina

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Hi, my kids are 16 and 20 months apart, and the youngest was born 2 days after the oldest turned 3! I am crazy a lot of the time! Each time a baby came along the previous child had some jealousy issues. My daughter would scratch her brother's nose all the time! Now he is the one with jealousy of his baby brother, but he would rather try to climb in my lap on top of the baby. He's a mama's boy. I get to be a SAHM so that helps. I try to give him some special attention because he doesn't talk yet and my daughter does, so the squeaky wheel usually gets the grease.

Use a baby doll to show them how to treat the new baby, and tell them what mommy and baby will be doing: baby will sleep here, mommy will feed baby like this, change diapers, etc. I strapped a doll into the infant car seat to give them the idea. Just talk it up a lot and you might be surprised how well he does.

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Hi, my kids are 16 and 20 months apart, and the youngest was born 2 days after the oldest turned 3! I am crazy a lot of the time! Each time a baby came along the previous child had some jealousy issues. My daughter would scratch her brother's nose all the time! Now he is the one with jealousy of his baby brother, but he would rather try to climb in my lap on top of the baby. He's a mama's boy. I get to be a SAHM so that helps. I try to give him some special attention because he doesn't talk yet and my daughter does, so the squeaky wheel usually gets the grease.

Use a baby doll to show them how to treat the new baby, and tell them what mommy and baby will be doing: baby will sleep here, mommy will feed baby like this, change diapers, etc. I strapped a doll into the infant car seat to give them the idea. Just talk it up a lot and you might be surprised how well he does.

Amy - posted on 05/04/2009

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Hi Tina,

I have 3 kids as well. My 1st and 2nd are 11 months apart so they were both 1 for 2 weeks, then she turned 2. Three months after my daughter turned 2, we had Julian, my son was 15 months. So at one point I had 3 kids under 2 1/2! wow, what a challenge but it's getting easier as they get a little older.

My son did really well with his little brother for a long time. Right now that he's almost 2, he realizes he can take toys from him and it empowers him so he likes it.

My daughter had a hard time - she was 11 months when her brother was born. SHe really didn't like me holding this "baby thing"

Now my daughter and son get along pretty well. They are very different, she's passive and detailed, he's impulsive and aggressive so they clash in that sense :)



So now they're almost 3 Mia, almost 2 Chad and Julian 6 months today.

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