how to stop siblings from fighting.

Melissa - posted on 02/05/2010 ( 5 moms have responded )




I have a 3 year old and a 1 1/2 old and they fight over everything, even things like imaginary cookies. When they get along, they get along really well and are very close, but when they fight they are like cats and dogs.We have been working on feeling identification and that seems to help some. any advice?


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Erin - posted on 06/07/2010




I found one thing that really helped us all get though a tough summer... I wrote a full size constuction paper note on green my favorite color, "Cautch ariela and alan being nice to each other" and I gave a poster with stars and smillies for every time I noticed this day one only twice but as the days went by they and dad helped find more and more things they could do together. up to 6/day in the first month I never thought that could happen... then I started giving special time to the oldest. just the two of us and this made a huge difference. When she was nice to the little kids she go to have 10 min to dance with me or sing, or go for a walk, all the things she loves to do, now I reward her with trips to the store just the two of us, no list just to look and walk around target or the art store! then we go back and play games with the little ones now 6 n 5 to show them when they are nice we will play with them too! I am hopping that dad will pick this up and do special things with ds6 soon or I will find ways to reward him for good behavior, he loves to sing so I am thinking what would be nice for him.... enjoy finding ways to promote teamwork and individuality. time alone lets each child imangin and ponder who they are!

Tiffany - posted on 05/17/2010




Biggest conundrum since the dawn of man. Remember Canaan and Abel? It's always hard with little babies. They aren't always prone to expressing themselves. I've always stopped what they are doing and have them have a time out hugging each other. They hate it but eventually they realize that the other sibling isn't so bad. If they can play together, then you know they at least like each other, right? Hang in there, as time goes on and they get older, it won't be imaginary cookies, it will be phone or computer time, video games or who gets to drive the car. It's just a test of time and patience =)

Karen - posted on 04/19/2010




Yup Jeannine said it. Love/hate relationship, but I bet they will be super close. You can't be siblings and not fight lol.

Kim - posted on 04/01/2010




lol i came here thinking some one might of given u the answer coz ive got a 7yrboy 5 yr old girl a hyper active 3yrold boy and a monster of a 18month old girl and they just fight over everything even the way the other breaths i swear i never argued like that with my sister or brother and if it is just natural then does anyone no when they grow out of it to us find

Jeannine - posted on 02/07/2010




If you solve this will you let us all know :) I think it's just a natural thing, unfortunately. Mine do the same thing-but they always stick up for each other, and my daughter swears that her brother. loves her most.

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